Friend Respects me too much for sex?

I've been friends with this guy for a year and a half. We've always been really flirty and have had this crazy sexual tension. We were alone at my house the other night. He was holding my hand... Had his hand on my leg etc... He told me he wanted to have sex. Then like 3 minutes later he decided not to because he "respects me too much" what on earth does that mean? And is that a forever thing or just temporary?
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Most Helpful Girls

  • Here's what I suspect: he really respects you as a person and a friend. He thinks you are better than to be turned into an "object of sexual pleasure" to him. He doesn't want to put you down on that level. So he's willing to put aside his sexual desire to preserve your dignity in his eyes, which is actually a really decent thing for a guy of today's age to do. If you want to have sex with him, there will probably have to a be an element of love and commitment between you two first, because it doesn't seem like he's the kind of guy who respects girls who he sleeps with only out of lust.
    Hope this helped :)

  • it would really depend on what it is about sex and him that he thinks he can not have sex with and respect someone... which i dont get at all. i wouldn't have sex with someone UNLESS i respect them.

    it does not say much of him that he can't respect people he has sex with.

    why dont you ask him why sex cancels out respect?

    its not like he was using you if you both wanted sex and no one was being lied to.

  • He just changed his mind because he doesn't want to ruin the friendship you guys have

    • he should say it that way if thats what he means, bc the way he put it is weird and kind f insulting and condescending.

Most Helpful Guys

  • Means he is trying not to make your friendship awkward and try his best not to have sex with you even though he clearly wants to and probably has for a longtime. Also he could "respect you" meaning he doesn't want to feel he is taking advantage of you or "lessening" because not in a committed relationship and it would just be sex.

    Next time your alone with him and you want it happen just take charge and get what you want. ;)

  • Wants a relationship. Scared that it'll only be sex and never lead to anything more.
    If you like him enough for a relationship. Kiss him. Tell him you want to be more.
    If not. Tell him you aren't interested in a relationship, but that you are sexually attracted to him.

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  • You have been Family-zoned without title. Congratulations.

    • this.

    • Lmfaooo, nice... that is soo funny and so true on so many levels. You should get B.A. If I may add. Soon she'll be like a "sister" to him. Lol. Ok jk jk. But his comment is pretty funny:)

  • It means he likes you so much he doesn't want anything bad to happen to you (unplanned pregnancy, emotional...) It probably is temporary but will last for at least 6months to a year. He REALLY LIKES you, don't take this as he doesn't like you.

  • It means he thinks of you more than just a fuck…that he likes you and respects you as a person to wait to have sex