Friend with benefits talks about other guys/girls?

[Anonymous]

So my friend with benefits talks about other guys why does she do this? I also talk about other girls to her, is this alright to do? I'm not trying to make her jealous or anything.

[Anonymous]

well there is no reason not to... you arnt a couple your just friends having fun.

So I don't see why you couldn't talk about these things with your freind, means that she trusts you and feels comfortable with you too probably.

Perhaps it would be more polite to leave out details though... but talking about someone else they hang out with I think is ok.

Freinds with benifits can be hard, I have seen it when people try it then the other one starts to get more feelings and gets jealous even though it wasn't the plan.

I would be clear you are honest with each other and set the boundries with each other.

Sometimes people pretent they are fine as friends with benifits as they actually start to like the person and think they might start to like them too.

So if you think it might be like this and you are not interested in them for a relationship at all, then just stop sleeping withy them.

You had fun but you don't want to hurt them.

[confusedgirl33]

Yes, it is alright to do. You are not ready to be in this type of relationship if this kind of talk bothers you. FWB is sex with NO strings attached. You hook up, have sex, and then leave. You are not dating her. You are not committed to her and she is not committed to you. If you are starting to care what she does outside of the bedroom then you need to end this and find a girl that wants to be in a relationship...like you want.

[torikoryn]

If you're just friends, it is pretty normal to talk about girls or guys. If she's doing it a lot though, I would be a little more concerned about it. There is always a chance she wants something more than just friends with benefits, and she's testing your reaction to her being interested in other people. You are probably both just as confused as the other!

[Asker]

she doesn't do it a lot she only did it once, I sometimes tell her and she's like is that the same girl you were telling me about, Which it isn't.

[torikoryn]

I think if there's any confusion, you should probably sit down and talk about it. Make sure she knows exactly how you feel and that you aren't trying to make her jealous. But also ask her how SHE feels just so you don't have to sit there and wonder why she's talking about other guys while the two of you are doing stuff together.

[Asker]

she asked me what we called the relationship and that's its just sex... but then she says that we are getting closer as friends (which I don't think is good). And that if I wanted to date her then it would have to be the same way (we have a secret relationship) no one knows that were even friends.

[torikoryn]

That's a red flag right there if you don't want an emotional connection. If you want to stay friends with benefits, make sure she knows. Cause the way that sounds, she wants something more, and I don't believe that she would want it to be a secret unless she's embarrassed of you or something dumb.

[Asker]

shes my cousins best friend and my friends with benefits lied to her so she's afraid to tell her that we have been talking... and I lied too

[torikoryn]

Lying is never a good thing. I'd come clean before you do anything else, like at all.

[Asker]

we just talked about that the other night about what were going to do. were going to try to get us all to meet up again and then pretend to give each other our numbers.

[torikoryn]

Dude. JUST COME CLEAN. You're going to get caught either way. Don't be a wimp about it hahaha.

[Eiffelgirl21]

i agree

[madhatters4]

if it's just friends with benefits there are no real rules about discussing other women and men. in addition since you do the same thing I imagine she feels like she can do the same

[jackson71]

Seriously dude? You have the friendship most guys dream of. Don't over analyze it, Just go with it. My "Spidey sense" says you caught some feelings for this girl.

[Eiffelgirl21]

LMAO

[TrulyPink28]

Do you fancy her or something? If she talks about other guys, why not? You're FWB...unless you want more?

[Eiffelgirl21]

I wouldn't do it, only because I would worry it might lead to something else later on.

But, if you are sure, then it should be okay as long as you know it isn't hurting her feelings.