Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
I see so many references now days on here regarding this whole phenomenon of so called "friends with benefits." Its concerning to me that perhaps the most powerful and most wonderful aspect of life between two people is being squandered away and discarded as something more along the lines of a time filler in order to satisfy a biological urge.
Another noteworthy observation I have made is the element of surprise so many experience while being in a "friends with benefits" relationship. Questions are asked on GAG almost daily along the lines of "after having sex, why am I now having feelings?" or "why am I starting to fall in love with him so deeply after having intercourse when we agreed to not allow any feelings?" A true look into the psychology and natural design of human beings tells us why we should not be surprised due to the fact that we were built and hard wired this way from the get-go.
It is a scientific fact that the human brain processes multiple chemicals during sexual intercourse. Furthermore, orgasm in both sexes intensifies these bonding or imprinting chemicals towards the other person, therefore solidifying this physical bond. The feel of each others body both inside and out causes the brain to create new centers of recognition of each person toward the other. The very nature of the sexual act itself was by design meant to be the greatest and most powerful manifestation of true love between two beings due to the fact that its a tangible act of giving and receiving to the deepest physical level possible, using all of the 5 senses, and even arguably a 6th sense for those who believe in spiritual sensory.
I take issue with the idea of being so reckless with that most special bond by simply stating that every day friends can somehow have access anytime they wish to that which is not theirs. I would not classify someone in a "friends with benefits relationship" as a true friend because a true friend would not ever take advantage of another in this way through objectification, or to tempt the physical appetites of another of which they have no intention of catching their most intimate feelings once that person falls deeply for them. Ether be a friend and remain a trusted person who is loyal and yet maintains a non physical relationship, or become a true lover in which both people are loved by each other unconditionally as their foundation for the physical connection. Someone who is having sex and truly loved by the other will always feel needed, wanted, safe, cherished, cared deeply for, physically comfortable, orgasmic, and generally be a happy person in daily life because they know they belong to something very special.
What Girls & Guys Said
28 31H-O-L-Y C-R-A-P!
1st. Do you see that you have MUCH MORE to say about this then the vast majority of women?
2nd. You need to figure out your manhood and get right with yourself.
3rd. "friends with benefits", "hanging the slut on my rod", "the cool chick who bangs"... what's the dif? why do you care? You don't approve then don't partake.
4th. bad news my little snow flake... You're in love with the fantasy of being in love. OR... you're gay. Either or you're screwed.
Wow! I need to figure out my manhood? Let me tell you, I am right with myself. I'm right because I can have a good conscience that I don't treat women as a doormat like you do sir! "Hanging the slut on my rod"? WTH really? You are pathetic and need to learn some basic respect. I'd love to get your mother's response to how you view women. I hope every woman you come across sees right through you. I'm far from being a "snowflake" as I assure you I can hold my own if needed!
Hu? what? that time of the month? I'm not reading all that crap... it's all... blah, blah, blah... you sound just like a woman. get the sand out of your vag and go look in the mirror. Bad news pal you're the kind of guy women cheat on... I'm the kind of guy women cheat with. You sit there wondering (and crying I bet) why oh why did she do this.. boo hooo... and she's getting my hand on her ass :) do you REALLY want to be "that guy"? You have some emotional or intellectual thing you need to connect with? try getting right with you and being a good friend to your mates... women can't give you what you're looking for... SOOOO... give them that hand like they like it and stop being such a snowflake.
Thank you
Never thought of it this way
I've never had
interesting. sadly it is always worth to loose a friend for regular good sex.
well I had a fuck buddy so to speak for the last 2 years and we just broke it off or should I say he broke it off with me. yes we had an arrangement no relationship just physical pleasure pretty much every Friday or Saturday and sometimes during the week for the last two years with only each other. he is quite a few years younger than me. he said that he is lonely and he wants a relationship with someone else I am devastated I feel like I was really caring for him more than I should have. I think about him all day and have the urge to cry but I'm trying to stay strong this is almost ridiculous but it's happening and there's nothing I can do about it. I should be able to just move forward but it's not as easy as you would think.
Sorry to hear this @Zumbagirl Is it possible that he cared a lot for you too but thought a relationship wouldn't work because of the age difference?
i have been having friends with benefit because of the number of times i got my heart broken by guys i loved. a relationship is just too hard to deal with for me. i fall too deep, and always end up getting hurt. so i go for friends with benefits as there's no love involved. i usually dont feel love or anything for them. but the only negative thing is that i often feel like im being used.
Well duh lol. I would have thought this was obvious
You would think and yet it seems to be a big thing now days and people can't figure out why they have feelings after casual sex.
I mean, haha.
Ok.. nice take
Great Take
Whipped
Great take!
They are not True friends, they are the Truest friends ever :)
Why are only the girls down voting me :(
If I'm not fucking her. I don't want anything to do with her.
Your statement right here proves the core of my argument to the T
Being friends with a woman is a waste of time.
And whys that? You genuinely feel as though women can't bring the same qualities to a friendship as guys do?
@theironlady No as I'm tried of never having a girlfriend and I refuse have society tell me that I'm not worthy of having a girlfriend in my life. I don't have time for games or bullshit. I want a girlfriend or some relationship where I'm getting pussy.
Nice one
Grea mytake! There should be more guys like you and then girls might stop being so god damn stupid.
Good explanation