Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
Whether you’re just not ready for commitment or you work too much to date, most humans have to answer the call of human nature at some point in their life. But who do we turn to achieve satisfaction? Where can we go to quench our thirst for sexual release when we don’t have a significant other in our lives? Sex friends to the rescue!
F-Buddies and FWBs tend to be a common thing among 20s and 30s somethings these days but it seems that many people (especially on this website) don’t seem to know the difference between the two. So I’ve been inspired to write a myTake on my understanding for those who are still fuzzy on the meaning. Both have their pros and their cons but each survive on a delicate balance in the relationship.
Friends with Benefits
PROs:
Lots of guilt free sex with someone you can go get a burger and a beer with later. Closer bond with a friend.
CONs:
Short-term life span. Difficult to juggle more than one. Concealing or explaining your complicated relationship to your friends and family. No-strings attached sex will eventually grow strings.
MEETING AN FWB:
An Eff-double U-Bee is generally a person you already know from your every day life. Usually you start off as friends or acquaintances (generally within the same friend circle) but are in some sort of situation where you are likely to see each other often. At some point you realize you have sexual chemistry but may not be up for dating quite yet (or at all). It could be a spur of the moment kind of thing or happen at a party, whatever the scenario, you two decide to start fucking.
FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS RULES:
Since FWBs have a pre-existing relationship with each other, it’s really easy to breeze over this part since you think you know each other well enough for it not to be a problem. Never do this! Always establish go-to rules when it comes to FWBs. By not doing this you’re leaving yourself open to cockblocking of other potential long-term partners, unexpected jealousy, misunderstandings, and misinterpretations about personal boundaries. If you set up these rules early, you’re already off to a great start!
NOTE:
Going into this, you have to realize that you’re complicating a very serious friendship with a “not so serious” intimate act. Eventually one of you is going to catch feels. It’s inevitable. The intimacy you share in and out of the bedroom starts to feel very similar to the emotions real couples experience on a daily basis. You start to feel like you’re actually dating and one of you is going to start wondering ‘what if.’ At that moment, the balance in the relationship has shifted because now one person wants more than the other is willing to give. Due to this imbalance, the relationship is not going to last much longer which means someone is about to get hurt or very used.
Fu** Buddies!
PROs:
Guilt-free sex with someone that does it the way you like it. You don’t have to cook him a sandwich. You don’t have to meet her parents. You don’t have to worry if he’s cheating on you when you’re not around. Easy to juggle more than one. Easier to replace if you’re not being satisfied. Flexible schedule.
CONs:
Finding someone you’re sexually compatible with. Being judged by your choice of lifestyle. Separating your sex life from your real life if necessary.
MEETING YOUR F-BUDDY:
Anywhere! You can meet them online or in a bar or a club. It doesn’t matter. F-Buddies can be complete strangers or work related acquaintances or just a person you see around sometimes or not at all! There is usually no pre-existing relationship.
F-BUDDY RULES:
You meet, you have sex, you leave. Outside of the bedroom there is little to no contact. You don’t call them up and ask how they’re doing. You don’t go over to their house for a weekend BBQ. Your friends and/or family may not even know that other person exists. Your only purpose for meeting is to have great, satisfying sex and then return to your real life without them in it. Lack of connections outside of the bedroom keeps emotions in check. Courtesy, politeness, and consideration are all still involved in the bedroom, but outside of it you are virtually strangers.
Though there is no obligation to remain with a fuck buddy long-term, it is possible to keep a relationship like this maintained for years as long as it stays balanced. Without emotions complicating the situation, it’s easier to focus on the goal of satisfying your partner’s sexual desires. If one person is not satisfied then the balance shifts, however it is fixable as long as they’re willing to communicate their needs.
F-buddies use EACH OTHER for sex! If an imbalance exists in the relationship that is when one person is being used. F-Buddies do not have to see each other every day. If real life gets demanding or one falls in love with a someone else, they do not have to see their f-buddy for a while nor does their f-buddy have to wait for them to return. If f-buddies ever find themselves falling out of lust with each other, they can always call it off and find another without feelings being hurt because emotions were never involved in the first place!
What Girls & Guys Said
14 20Making your own encyclopedia I see.
Nice myTake! I personally have no experience with either one. But I would recommend this myTake for anyone who wishes to delve into this sexual realm.
I think it's all the same. Just friends with NSA sex. Nothing more.
Fckbddy is better if your good at sex
its complicated... it may start out as fuck buddies or friends with benefits but many times one party gets too attached. everyone has to keep the emotions in check. unfortunately its a one way street, someone is almost always getting hurt. its not that its an intended thing it just happens... been there way too many times. now I just go into a relationship, no matter what kind, not looking for love or expectations. I do not let my emotions get involved. it can be very difficult but it has to be done... in today's society, it is known as a "hookup" generation. I don't care if you 21 or 61, all the same mentality. I am a woman of 62 years (and do not act or feel it, more like 40) but I've seen all men with that mentality and u know what im going to do the same thing. If I want to fuck that's all it will be period. when the right one comes along, I will know it. I've been on this planet too long and seen just about everything... just throw caution to the wind...
I agree with this! I had a fuck buddy for two months about a year ago. We made rules and he broke one of them by becoming emotional. I wasn't lying when I said I didn't want to date him, but he said he always hoped I'd change my mind over time. I honestly just wanted sex, so I cut him off and haven't spoken to him since. It was actually really easy to end it because we were never friends before that.
Exactly! It sounds harsh to talk about but that's the hole point of the system. It's easier to separate and distance yourself when emotions don't get in the way. The whole relationship is sex and nothing more. Once I screwed up a long time time ago and tried to make a friends with benefits out of a fuck buddy. Needless to say that didn't work out too well. It was my own fault. I learned my lesson.
But will a woman ever initiate casual sex with a good guy? What if he wants it as much as you do, but is nervous to inquire?
I think if women just clearly stated their sexualness as much as this take to their guy friends, you'd be having far greater sex with a friend (with benefits) than a randomner. Trust me.
There should be no difference, the first one is just a failed attempt at it.
f-buddies are just people who, in the heat of the night can call and release. no strings attached not even a single thoughtfulness in the relationship. whereas, friends-with-benefits - there's something in between. you can talk about non-sexual stuff. you can ask, how they're doing and be a little concern about them.
I had an friends with benefits until he tried to rape me
That chick with laptop on bed has nice butt <3
I concur
I'm loving post feminism, women give up their pussies so easily. Oh lawd, the women that get used, this is way better than the 1950's. Women are almost too easy. They are throwing themselves at guys.
then they're not getting used, they're choosing to have sex.
Lol you're describing men
LOL dude