friends with benefits came inside me without telling me?

Am seeing this guy for a couple months. I'm not on birth control for medical reasons and he knew this. Used condoms and then eventually didn't and used the pull out method (I know what you are gonna say but please hold judgement). Anyways he came inside me without telling me and just tried to keep on going until I realized what happened. He made a few jokes about "our" kids running around and stuff. I'm not pregnant but about a month after that I found out he was in a relationship for year with someone else and just had a child a few years ago... soooo why would be risk it?
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  • First of all you two need to be careful of stds. this is going to sound mean. But this is a very scary thing. I'm not judging, its just my opinion for both of your safety. You said he's in another relationship? You don't know if the other girl has any std's. You don't know who else he sleeps with. Your health is # 1. And it seems like he's trying to get you pregnant. How do you feel about having a child with a Friends with benifets? In my opinion he doesn't seem to be very responsible, what if he does get you pregnant? Will he be there for that child? Can you handle it alone if he isn't? You need to ask yourself those things, Hun. How old are you? He's got a child already and is cumming inside of you without a care in the world. I understand you aren't on birth control for medical reasons. I can't be on birth control either for that reason. My boyfriend knows that and we don't use condoms. He and I are in an exclusive relationship together, we are both std free. Does this guy want to be with you?

  • He should have told you, at least there's the day after for these kind of situations - esp since condoms are not 100% effective or the pull out method. he may not have been getting what he needed from the girlfriend sexually, no one knows the real reason why except him.

  • I wish the name would come to me of what they actually call a guy like him. He has this need to spread his seed as far and wide as possible making many kids.

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  • Never mind him, why did YOU risk it? You should have insisted on a condom! This is just as much on you as him. But also is his defense, unlike women, we can't just "stop" and start up again. Any "interruption" no matter how brief, is awful for a guy lol. There is NO better feeling than ejaculating inside you! I'm not defending his actions, just trying to explain that in the heat of the moment, your feelings take over totally sometimes!! It feels so amazing just being inside you, and then to ejaculate while still in there (ie, no interruption, loss of pressure etc) just feels SOO amazing!! He's a human being. Assuming he didn't do this intentionally? he probably just went with the feeling at the time. It's hard not to give into it. It's like stopping your orgasm hard to do lol.

    • I'm not blaming him. I understand it takes two to tango. My question is more why would he cum inside me when the risks to him are far greater. And if you smell inside a girl wouldn't you tell her? And maybe not make jokes right after about our kids running around the house? I didn't know he was in a relationship but he does so would that not be enough to stop him from finishing inside?

    • Yes, one would think so. It would me! lol But there are some guys that really don't seem to care at all about the risks! I have no idea why? I don't understand it either. And yeah, to joke about it after isn't something I do either unless it was just to mask his true feelings over it?

    • That's kinda what I mean getting at... he made a few comments about kids and the spare rooms at my house used for kids rooms. Just blew my mind finding out he was in a relationship. I would have been more careful. Just wondering if maybe it's his way out of what he is in.. the cowardly way

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  • Well SOMETIMES it does happen on accident. It's very rare but you can get caught up in the pleasure and forget about certain details (esspecially if he was already cumming inside of the other woman on a daily basis). Or maybe he didn't care. Consider the fact that he already had a relationship you were not aware of so you can't really say he's a nice person

    • Definitely not saying that. Just trying to understand where his mind was at

    • Well as i was saying. His mind may have been far away in that moment. Happened to me once. Dated a girl for 3 years and she let me cum inside of her whenever i felt like it. Anyway, relationship ends and i stay single for about 6-12 months. Did not engage in any random hookups just because i don't find them fun so i basically didn't have sex for a while. Anyway moving on to the important part: i meet a nice woman, we start dating for a bit, we like eachother etc. Now comes the moment. Evwrything was insanely awesome for the both of us.. until i came inside of her with no warning signs. I was just used to not giving a crap about those details

    • Ok that makes sense when you put it that way. I guess I am more thinking rationally then in the moment

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  • Pull out method is really nice but requires a shitload of mental strenght in the long run. He probably wanted to experience the feeling of cuming inside you as it´s pretty intoxicating to do that even if it´s just with a friends with benefits.

  • Maybe he figured if he got you pregnant you would get an abortion. Or maybe he wants to get you pregnant or maybe he just don't give a fuck.

  • He doesn't give a shit...
    Selfish

  • Sounds like he got carried away in the moment

  • Because he don't care it's simple lol

  • here's the thing about males in any species, they just want to reproduce. That is the goal of pretty much all men and testosterone. You are blessed that you didn't get pregnant, guess his sperm was shit

    • Ya. What an idiot tho. Like explain that one to your significant other that I had no idea about!!! Just frustrating when you think you have met a nice guy and then this happens

    • Yup. I know how you feel. Guys tend to do this unfortunately because many dont want to commit in a relationship and just want to fuck

    • @katsandbats I find that statement extremely wrong. I am a male and I don't want any child whatsoever. I find it really amusing how you can generalize on such a large scale.

  • You shouldn't. Plain and simple.

    • What do you mean?

    • I misread the last line. I thought... nvm, I would confront him. He broke your trust on at least two fronts.

    • Ohehehe i got it,

  • Hahaha...

  • He is very border line with that. You gave consent with a condition and he didn't observe that condition. I hope you don't associate with him now.

  • Major asshole. Drop him, hard

  • He is stupid. I hope you ended it.

  • He is an asshole!😊

  • I think you have him the most precious thing while he doesn't even deserve to say Hi to him.

  • He's got too comfortable with you and is pushing the boundaries now. That's when accidents happen.

  • Maybe switch to women no chance in getting pregnant.