FWB (Friends with Benefits)? or pure player to stay away from?

[gypsybird]

Am a tad lost in being single again...so need some perspective and help on a boy :) I bumped into an old acquaintance...we were never good friends, but had common friends. after the bump in, he started fb-ing me and then texting me. For 2 weeks, he was sending me texts and asking me how my day was... I really was enjoying my return to my hometown, seeing friends, etc. so was really busy and to be perfectly honest I didn't get why someone who doesn't know me well wanted to know about my day...anyways, after a while I decided to meet, he came over with two bottle of wine (which we drank) and we had a good time. We just kissed, and sort of passed out watching a movie... It was an amazing make-out session! I went back to my old job, and guess who was working there? yep! the boy in question. The sexual tension between us was pretty high, so on Saturday we went back to his place... and well the sex was amazing as well (for both of us)... however knowing his reputation of player I was/am a tad reluctant to believe in any fairy tale with this boy (especially that my last breaK-up was due to the guy cheating on me)..so sadly when 6am hit and I couldn't sleep, I left. When he woke up he found a sweet note and called to inquire if I was OK or if he's done something wrong, which I assured him he didn't... We saw each other again a week later at a dinner and I stayed over... we woke up together and I left. After sleeping together, the sweet text msgs stopped, I get the 1 am "are you up?" and I wonder if I provoked this drop in sweetness/attention (by my reluctance in believing in his game)...or if I just got played. People that know him, say he is a lady's man and has a new fling every month...so I learned my lesson with my past boyfriend and do believe in rumors a little... especially that when bumping into him in a bar, I saw him being very affectionate with another...however I still seem to get the usual texts of "i wanna see you" "Le's do something" ...just not the "how was your day sweetie" which I in the end started enjoying! So my question to you... What to think of this? The mind games are boggling and I don't know if I should play hard to get, forget about him or simply text and call whenever I wanna see him... The thing is a simple casual Friends with Benefits would be great as well ... but does one need to play it cool with a FWB that is a player or simply call/text whenever you want... as I said we both really enjoy the sex... a lot...Please advise or let me know what you think.

[Anonymous]

I guess I'm kind of in the same situation. I've been in a FWB thing for a year now, and I would agree that after we got into things, all the sweet stuff stopped. He stopped being enthusiastic or initiating conversations, or even initiating meeting up and things like that. I think in your situation, now that the guy has you, he feels as if he doesn't need the sweet stuff for you to stay, because he's already "won you over". If the word on the street is that he's a player, they're probably right. He's not going to commit to anything remotely serious (most likely). So now its up to what you want. If you're willing to continue having a purely sexual relationship with him, then continue with him. If you are a more emotionally attached sort of person, or are looking for any sort of commitment as far as being exclusive goes, then I suggest you let this guy go. In the end, its really just whatever makes you happy.