Gay/LGBT+ people, were you once homophobic before discovering your sexuality?

It’s very common for gays to start off as homophobic themselves.

it’s either because they grew up in households where they were taught to hate gays before realizing their sexuality.

or because they know they’re gay and they hate themselves for it, so they take it out on other gays.

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Is the question still visible to everyone? I got a message saying the question was deleted for “spamming/trolling” which is really odd…someone must of falsely reported it 😵‍💫
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  • Kinda.

    I was bisexual my whole life, but growing up in a Catholic family and going to Catholic school did a number on me.

    My mother is very homophobic, and frequently made homophobic "jokes".

    I fortunately was accepting, despite the initial bad habits of making poor homophobic "jokes".

    After leaving Catholic school, I quickly became a strong ally.

    It took decades out of religion, and years of therapy and going no contact with my homophobic parents, but at 26 I came out as bisexual. At 31, as non-binary.

    I gaslit myself when I was younger, telling myself the attraction I felt was simply admiration.

    It was not. I am sexually attracted to women, and it has been amazing owning and exploring that.

    • @Plazaz what is your obsession with bisexual women lol

    • @Plazaz the questions still stands

    • @Plazaz seems like it

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  • No, never. I remember when I was young I didn't get how two men had sex, but then again, it took me some time to even understand how heterosexual couples did.

    I've always been open to it. And when I became a little older in my teenage years I started becoming bi-curious and I just never questioned it or freaked out, it just seemed normal to me.

    • I'm not totally sure what I am exactly, but I'm just not totally straight either

    • Do you have a problem or something? ..

    • I don't know what sexuality the majority of women have, and honestly I don't care.

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  • Well I am straight but I don’t think I was homophobic but I definitely made a lot of homophobic jokes like I did with any other topic, I’ve grown sense then but I do regret it! One of my best friends is gay and when we grew up the group always made fun of him and called him gay (we made fun of each other a lot) but once he came out we all stopped real quick, except his cousin. His cousin actually became a huge asshole to him for a year or two after he came out

  • Bisexual later in life at 30, so Maybe in college a little but never really did anything to oppose it. I guess I was indifferent. 6 years ago I moved next door to a gay couple that are now married with kids. We are great friends and if I did have any homophobia, the friendship changed it for me

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  • Oh yeah. Luckily for me ig, it was my sister discovering her sexuality which broke us both out of that mindset at a fairly young age. But I still didn't figure my shit out for years after, prolly bc—tho I no longer thought they were wrong/bad—I still didn't know anything about most of the lgbt+. So I just didn't recognize anything in myself.

  • Never.

    • No, lol.

    • Nope.

    • So, what are you?

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  • I've always been bisexual, so I'm not homophobic. Checked out girls in bikinis as the sunbathed on boats here at the lake, or dueds running shirtless like I did earlier today while driving past.

    And no, I do not feel like discussing your strange fascination as to why supposedly most women are bisexual. Besides I turned off notifications, so I have no idea if you respond to me or not.

  • Not at all. I discovered it though at a fairly early age. I never would've been homophobic though. It's not in my nature at all.

    • Same here. I’m lucky to have a very open minded family so they were never homophobic and never taught me hate.

  • Nope

  • I hate homosexuality, it's totally unacceptable.

    • Boohoo

    • Hate is totally unacceptable.

  • No, never. I wasn't raised to hate people.

  • Yeah, I look back on it in embarrassment now lol

    • @Plazaz Always have been

    • @Plazaz A lot of women are not bisexual, I feel like I've had this conversation with you before.

    • @Plazaz I doubt it, women are just overall more attractive and prettier than men (no offense). I had a friend who thought she was bi but she figured out she just thought they were really pretty. Plus, women are less likely to be homophobic so that may play a role in admitting if they're bi or not.

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  • No i never felt the need to put myself in a label and I never cared what other consenting adults do in bed because it’s not my business I like to see people happy and in love it never offends me. If I am attracted to whatever person I never question my sexuality over it, I mostly like men but sometimes women too.

  • No never been homophobic

    • Re update it’s visible to me

  • No just getting forced into it cause not wanting it is so wrong makes them scared!

    Society screams be yourself but no one can cause you have to obey LGBTs orders!

    Feminism is dead cause we can't even have women's sports guys riun it then force us to accept it!

    Lgbt is the most opresseve force online now!

    • Womp womp

    • what? all kinds of women's sports... more than ever before.

    • @lightbulb27 pretty sure they’re meaning how lately- many transgenders are joining into woman’s sport and that how debacle

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