Gender identity, sexuality and dating?

I’ve been dating this guy for two months and things are going really well except I just found out he likes to dress like a woman sometimes and put a wig and makeup on. I’m trying to wrap my head around that but everytime I think about it my attraction for him vanishes and I feel so weird, I don’t know what to do we care deeply about each other and I don’t wanna jeopardize what we have
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Most Helpful Girls

  • Well my advice be his mistress use him like a slut they love it! Force him into his dress cause that is what sissy's want!

    If he is trans same thing he wants to be a girl. Do you wanna bang a shemale or have lesbian sex?

    If your straight end it before you get more involved and hurt! Or if you can't dominate him then he will find it else where after your married!

  • Depends on whether this is a need for him or something he can do without because it bothers you. Basically it will be up to you both to decide what is more important the relationship or the kink. What I mean is if he needs that can you put up with it or can he stop it. If the relationship is more important then one of those two things has to happen. Good luck.

    • I don’t know if I can ask him to stop it, but you’re right I should definitely ask if it’s a need for him or a kink… thank you so much !

    • Welcome and good luck. Hope it works out.

    • Thank you for the most helpful opinion!

Most Helpful Guys

  • You should speak with him about it and see if this is just something he does for fun and can stop doing or if this is part of his sexuality. If the latter, you and he might not be compatible.

    • That’s very helpful, thank you. If the latter I don’t know if I should tell him I don’t think we’re compatible because of that, I don’t wanna hurt him..

    • You’re welcome. You need to decide what is important to you and what you want to spend the rest of your life dealing with. If cross-dressing (or even more extreme effeminate behavior or perhaps even gender binary/trans) is a major turn-off for you, you need to decide if it could cause serious problems for your relationship down the road. If so, it’s perhaps better to hurt him now than to break up years from now, which would probably hurt even more.

  • if you don't feel it , attracted then dump him

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  • That is understandable. It can be a turn-off.

  • Why would you want to be with a gay man?

    • cross dressers aren't necessarily gay, probably the majority are straight. I think you are more likely to find gay men wearing jeans and a leather jacket than women's clothing.

    • @richardcory *cough*bullshit*cough*

    • All the surveys I can find show most cross dressers as being straight. It makes sense if you think about it - gay men are not going to be attracted to people who look female, they are (by definition) attracted to other men. Its not a big sampling, but none of the gay men I know dress in a feminine style.

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