Get Out of Toxic Relationships While You Still Can :(

Get Out of Toxic Relationships While You Still Can :(

If you’re in a toxic relationship, I’m begging you to GET OUT NOW!!

Examples of Toxic Relationships

• Being mentally/physically abused

• Being threatened/forced to stay

• Being taken advantage of

• Someone saying they’ll change, but haven't

• Someone forcibly keeping you from loved ones

• Being constantly backstabbed/cheated

• Feeling unsafe when around someone

• Being asked/told to do something you dont want to do just so you can get something you want in return

My Story:

I took a class with this class clown. He annoyed me sooo much. He wasn’t hot, but he was somewhat cute. And he kept trying to flirt with me but i just wasn't interested.

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He turned out to be my next door neighbor. After getting to know him more, We started hanging out a bit that Christmas break. I fell more and more for his goofy, humorous side, and well eventually we ended up dating.

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The first couple months was good. But then everything escalated so quickly. He knew I wanted to wait til marriage to do sexual things. However, I guess he wasn't gonna back down.

He was my first boyfriend and i was happy being in a relationship. But I was so naive. One day he goes, “So if i have to wait til marriage to have sex with you, can I at least get oral from some randoms?” I was speechless. I was like, “wait what?”

I honestly dont think i ever answered this question. But he went and did things with other girls anyways. I found out from my friends... and enemies.

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He denied doing these things and told me that there were things I could do to assure he stayed faithful. First, He had me strip butt naked. Then he told me to bend over while he circled my body like i was some kind of nude exhibit. Then he told me to sit up and that he needed to finger me to make sure i was wet and tight.

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I didn't want to give in, but the pressure got to me. He pushed me against the brick wall of my neighbors house... But it wasn't just simple fingering. He wanted to see how much a virgin could take. I was in so much pain.

Get Out of Toxic Relationships While You Still Can :(

He took futher advantage of my naiveness and constantly pressured me into more doing things. So one day he walked me into the woods where he said he wanted to try something.

Get Out of Toxic Relationships While You Still Can :(

He started kissing me then took off his shirt and layed it on the ground. I don't know if i was more surprised that he started randomly stripping or that he layed a white tee on a dirt ground haha. So he layed me down on top of the shirt and started kissing me. I wasn't sure what to expect by i was just so hypnotized by how great of a kisser he was.

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He then paused. Said he loved me. Then said... if we’re going to continue waiting til marriage... you have to at least let me “see if it can fit”. I kept debating and he kept throwing reasons at me why he needed to “try me”. He kept saying it wasn't sex, just a test to see if it could fit.

I don't know it just kept going on and on and on and he just wouldn't stop asking. And i gave in and said “ok but only see if the tip can go in”... but then he thrusted instead, repeatedly trying to shove his whole dck in.

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Afterwards, I just layed their crying since i had practically lost my virginty. He kept asking “Did i hurt you? Are you okay? You said i could get in at least 1 thrust right?” I was just so traumatized. I was speechless.

Get Out of Toxic Relationships While You Still Can :(

He stood me up. Told me to get dressed. I just held my head down and started walking home. It was so painful to walk home. It was raining and I was wobbling home like a duck.

Get Out of Toxic Relationships While You Still Can :(

Get Out of Toxic Relationships While You Still Can :(

Next day he tells me, “You know, you're not a virgin anymore now. So you may as well keep on having sex with me. You dont want me to have to do things with other girls, right? I mean, you do want me to marry YOU right?”

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Gosh, I hated how in love I was. And him being my first made me cling to him even more. It was an odd connection i felt to him. Lets just say i gave in to some stuff. He changed me.


I don’t even want to go into detail of what all ended up happening. But basically He continued to cheat on me with both friends/enemies. He supposedly knocked my friend up and denied it. He told me if I were to ever get pregnant that I needed to drink bleach.

Get Out of Toxic Relationships While You Still Can :(
Get Out of Toxic Relationships While You Still Can :(

We broke up during the whole friend being pregnant thing. But months later i took him back. I told him i still didn't want to do oral. However, one day he whipped out his dck while i sat next to him. He kept begging for it. In the middle of me saying “No”, he slammed my head down on his dck. It hit the back of my throat and i was in pain the rest of the day.

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So the next time he asked again, i pretended I wanted to do so. I teased him as i licked down his body. Then i whipped out his dck. Kissed the tip. Then took a huge bite out the shaft.

Get Out of Toxic Relationships While You Still Can :(

Get Out of Toxic Relationships While You Still Can :(

Lets just say My teeth marks were left in his dck for about a day. He was pissed and chased me through the house. Thank goodness my mom was around to Save me because i was about to get choked to death. Hey, he never asked for me to go down again tho...

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He told me he wanted to try doggystyle sex. I thought he meant vaginal from behind but he slammed his dck against my anal hole. Its not like it went in bt it still hurt. I shoved him away. I was in pain for a whole week. I would never purposely do anal. Guess this just made me hate that form of sex even more.

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One day i caught him selling weed. He held the knife to my throat and forced me to sniff the bag. He also knew i had asthma and didn't need to be around smoke. Apparently he had smoked a blunt and held the smoke in his mouth. He forced me to kiss him and he blew it in my mouth. I felt like i was dying. I had to run home and get my inhaler.

Then there was that time He held a gun to my tummy when I finally tried to leave him. Smh, If it werent for him going to military school, I wouldve never escaped him.

Years later we reconnected and i tried to be cool with him. I tried to tell him how he hurt me years ago. He laughed in my face and told me i shouldn't have been so naive and that i was the easiest thing he ever scored.

Im not asking anyone for pity. I know some people feel i deserved this. I do blame myself for being so naive. I just don’t want to hear that someone went through this... or something worse... IM BEGGING YOU GUYS/GIRLS TO GET OUT WHILE YOU CAN!!

#FeelFreeToList #aDizzyDesiiTake

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  • I've never even been in a relationship before, and it seems like I'll have to be hella careful if I ever.

    • Def be careful

  • It's sad to hear when guys take advantage... there's An idea that maybe she just needs to loosen up, she's being too serious. She will thank me when this is all over. Like he's having a dream sequence... But honestly being respectful of a girl is the best way to make the relationship move faster... It's the right thing to do... I'm sorry to hear that happened to you :(
    The warnings at the top are great too, they all make sense

    • Thank you for listening

    • You are welcome Desii :)

  • I honestly couldn't agree with this more, having been in 2 toxic relationships over the years and having friends who have and some who have only just recently gotten out of them... I can say getting out is more important... BUT... is never as black and white as many might think... it's not as simple getting away than many believe.. nothing ever is in that regard...
    if you are the focus of a narcissist and they have gotten a good grip on your mental state and damaged relationships with friends and family... you'll find it far more harder to escape their grip... than you would if you was able to have seen sooner and got out sooner

  • Sjeez Desi, not a happy story. We'll keep your advise in mind: get out of a toxic relationship BEFORE it's too late and you're "in prison" :-(

    • Why would i be in prison

    • Not literally... I mean you'd want to get out of the relationship before you get the feeling he has you in his power :-(

  • For some reason it seems like many girls have been down this road at least once lol

    I mean he was a jerk in every way possible BUT it worked lol... and seems to work so often...
    Some girls actually respond better to rudeness than kindness...

    • What you mean but it worked

    • Well i mean i always keep hearing how girls ended up dating the dick head So im saying being an asshole works to some extent Like in your case maybe you can help me. What was so appealing about dating a asshole type of guy

    • He didn't come across as an ahole when we first met. He was just super goofy. He seemed somewhat innocent. His true colors showed after he took my virginity. But it was too late to realize he was an ahole cause he was my drug by then. I was hooked

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  • Toxic relationships change you. You may get out but you don't leave without scars and being damaged. It's good you got away.

    • It changed me in a bad way because it made me want to do more sexual things. But im tryna be celibate and hold out

    • I know you are.

  • I am so sorry that you went through this. This sounds like such a horrible experience. Back in high school, I also had a shitty, abusive boyfriend. He had the same manipulative tendencies and tried to get me to sleep around with him countless times, which I never did. He made me miserable for like 3-4 years, constantly kept breaking up with me and I stupidly kept taking him back.

    When he broke up with me for the last time, I knew it was coming, but I still felt horrible. It was when we had a meeting in the school auditorium and I wanted to sit with my friends, but he forced me to sit with him instead. After the meeting was over, I saw my friends and ran over to them and decided to spend lunch with them. After awhile, I felt bad for running off and decided to go back into the library where he was and wanted to apologize to him. When I try to apologize, he aggressively takes my hand and drags me into the cafeteria and slams me down onto a chair and he sits next to me, his eyes bloodshot and looking at me like he literally wanted to kill me. If I even said one word to him, he would do nothing but yell at me. I just sat there and cried.

    When he saw that I was crying, he dragged me to the bathrooms near the cafeteria and shoved me into the female bathroom and looked at me like I was an annoying little child and said "Get out of here when you're done" and he walked off and left me, going to class. I worked in the library as my last period for the day. While I was rearranging books, I got a text from him. I hesitated looking at it for the whole day because I knew what it was, but I didn't want to have to actually see it.

    My friend at the time told me that I need to open it and accept whatever is on it. Thanks to him, I had the courage to open it and of course, it was a breakup text. He told me that he didn't love me anymore, we were incompatible, and that I wasn't attractive enough for him and that I was ruining his life and keeping him from doing drugs (I wasn't..). So I'm just sitting there, crying my little heart out. I just talk to my friend for the rest of the day. Fast forward a few weeks, and this dude from my Spanish class comes into the library looking for one of my friends who also works in there.

    He sees me and sits at the table I'm at, I guess because he knows I'm also friends with the friend he was looking for. I was already kind not feeling so good because of my ex boyfriend. He starts talking to me and we kind of have a conversation about what I was drawing and that junk, I don't know. I told him about my ex boyfriend and the break up we had and how it was affecting me. He seemed like he understood, so I thought there would be no issues.

    We start talking everyday after that. Fast forward a week or two later and he asks me if we can hang out after school one day. I was hesitant, but I thought nothing of it other than we were probably just going to go shopping and eat out. So on Saturday, we go out, things go as normal, and then after we eat, he gets in the car and forces himself on me. I was disgusted and kind of just wanted to go home after that.

    Then he takes me to his house, does some unpleasant things, pregnancy scares and sooner or later he ends up convincing the whole Senior grade that I'm some kind of whore or slut. There was no virginity taking involved, but I still had pregnancy scares, I don't know why. I do regret not calling the cops.. but that was like years ago. Mine is nowhere near as terrible as yours. My heart goes out to you and I hope you're doing worlds better now. Very sorry. :(

    • Yep we kept breaking up and he’d come bacj and with him being my first, i kept taking him back smh. Wow the way he broke up with you! He was mad controlling. When mine broke up withh me our last time, i didn't see it coming. We didn't even breakup. We had sex and then he told me he was moving away after. I assumed LdR but nope that didn't happen. I get letters from him 6 months later and he's hooking me upnwith military buddies who he felt suited the good man i deserved. Like wtf. Whoa he forced himself on you? Its so hard to tell when its rape vs taken advantage of because we didn't want it but we also didn't fight it. I don't know but im sorry for both of us. Sucks we went through that. And yep i had a pregnancy scare but only because he kept tellin me he was purposely trying to get me pregnant at 15. And yea mine made otherw think i was a hoe and told everyone i sucked him under a bridge. I confronted him and he was like “oh yea i forgot you dont give head, mustve been the girl i cheated on you with.” But yea yours still sounds worse than mine. Im sorry girl

  • Wow this was a great story Desi.. It's good you got out.. But "Gosh, I hated how in love I was."... If it was love you wouldn't have hated it.. You were a teenage girl in her first relationship afraid to lose that relationship.. You had strong feelins & an infatuation for what he could have been what you wanted to relationship to be.. 8)..

    • I guess

    • I'm always bein a smart a$$ ain't Desi?

    • Yea this wasn't the time

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  • That guy deserved to be impaled in every hole he has.

    And if he didn't have enough, he deserves artificial holes!

    • Yea it was tough

  • My dear Desii

    A few years ago in my church I somehow became the person with whom the people who had been through some of the most terrible experiences. Church members and non-members alike, mostly during the week.

    For some reason the more broken people - men and women - gravitated to me, told me their story and then prayed with me - or rather asked me to pray with them.

    As a result, I've had several people confide in me the story of their rape. Reading your story brought back memories of that time, some of which I'd rather not have recalled right now for reasons I'd rather not go into here.

    You were raped. Manipulated, definitely. But raped nevertheless. And terribly abused afterwards, made all the worse for having been convinced by him that you were responsible for what he did to you, wholly or in part.

    If you can still do so, then use the strength you've shown here telling this history to us to report what has happened. For some reason there seems to be a limit to how long afterwards a rape may be prosecuted, as if the pain and damage caused is somehow less than a lifetime in your memory.

    My dear, dear Desii, use your strength to see this manipulative bastard who has made you believe it was your fault charged, arrested and jailed so he can't do it to another young woman.

    • It took place on 2009. Its too late

    • Only for criminal. Nothing to stop you pursuing a civil case?

    • I don't know. I feel its too late now. But can you believe he's a dayher to a daughter now

  • Damn honestly if you were my sister this guy would have been laid out in a hospital be if I found this stuff out. I hate sexual predators of any kind. And that's what he was, a sexual predator. Glad he got his dick bit. Just wish your porch pooches would have torn the whole damn thing off tbh. All the things he did to you was trash. he's a garbage human being, not two ways about it. To your conclusion, I'll try Desi. I'll really try.

    • Thank you 🤷‍♀️

    • *wrong emoji * 🙏

    • its okay. I'm sorry this happened to you. I'm glad I have another shoulder to lean on, even if not physically. You're like a tough sis I never had ahah!

  • What’s his social and current address. Tell him I just wanna talk 🤜🏾

    • Lol someone shouldve beat his ass long ago. but he in a gang now. Stay away from his crazy azz. This was in 2008

    • Lol I know people *cough* *cough* and places

  • Well damn...
    Hope you re doing better now

    • Yea it was 8 years ago

    • Uff😅 How old were you? 23 is your real age? If it happened at 15, it is understandable to be naive

  • That guy is a piece of work that's for sure.

    Yeah I agree though, don't around in a bad relationship get out before you get hurt or worse.

    • Thanks

    • Np..

  • What the actual fuck...

    • Yea i made this post like 2017 i think lol

  • My gosh Desii and so young too :/

    • Yea i was 14 when things started and stayed with him til 16

    • 14? Holy shit what a scumbag for taking advantage of you like that- you were still child! F all these comments saying that you should know better especially he was manipulating and threatening you to stay with him.

    • Yea we were both the same age

  • No woman should ever be put through what you have. He should have been locked up and the key thrown away.

    • Yea... he went to like a bootcamp school but only cane out worse

    • Then he needs to be castrated like the pig he is then.

  • That's horrible 😢😢😢. I feel very sorry to read that :(
    What a jerk!
    I hope you are with someone way better than him because you deserve better! :)

    • Yea he was my first. I didn't trust someone again for sex until like 8 years later. That guy screwed me over too when he was ready to run out of fear that he got me pregnant before HE was ready. Something we discussed beforehand and he claimed he was happy for it. So yea he lied

  • Fuck that's harsh.

    • Yea it was nuts

  • It's not just girls who are in relationships like this. But you're absolutely right. If you're in them you need to get out of them. And I know someone close to me who is in one and in really deep. Deeper than you were. Not that that makes it any better, cuz anyone who is in any kind of relationship where there is toxicity is always carrying a huge burden. And it always leaves scars

    • I didn't direct this at just women. Men and women need to escape toxicity

    • Yeah, I hear you. And it's impressive that you are willing to be vulnerable to show how dangerous they are

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