Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
If you’re in a toxic relationship, I’m begging you to GET OUT NOW!!
Examples of Toxic Relationships
• Being mentally/physically abused
• Being threatened/forced to stay
• Being taken advantage of
• Someone saying they’ll change, but haven't
• Someone forcibly keeping you from loved ones
• Being constantly backstabbed/cheated
• Feeling unsafe when around someone
• Being asked/told to do something you dont want to do just so you can get something you want in return
My Story:
I took a class with this class clown. He annoyed me sooo much. He wasn’t hot, but he was somewhat cute. And he kept trying to flirt with me but i just wasn't interested.
He turned out to be my next door neighbor. After getting to know him more, We started hanging out a bit that Christmas break. I fell more and more for his goofy, humorous side, and well eventually we ended up dating. 
The first couple months was good. But then everything escalated so quickly. He knew I wanted to wait til marriage to do sexual things. However, I guess he wasn't gonna back down.
He was my first boyfriend and i was happy being in a relationship. But I was so naive. One day he goes, “So if i have to wait til marriage to have sex with you, can I at least get oral from some randoms?” I was speechless. I was like, “wait what?”
I honestly dont think i ever answered this question. But he went and did things with other girls anyways. I found out from my friends... and enemies.
He denied doing these things and told me that there were things I could do to assure he stayed faithful. First, He had me strip butt naked. Then he told me to bend over while he circled my body like i was some kind of nude exhibit. Then he told me to sit up and that he needed to finger me to make sure i was wet and tight.
I didn't want to give in, but the pressure got to me. He pushed me against the brick wall of my neighbors house... But it wasn't just simple fingering. He wanted to see how much a virgin could take. I was in so much pain.
He took futher advantage of my naiveness and constantly pressured me into more doing things. So one day he walked me into the woods where he said he wanted to try something.
He started kissing me then took off his shirt and layed it on the ground. I don't know if i was more surprised that he started randomly stripping or that he layed a white tee on a dirt ground haha. So he layed me down on top of the shirt and started kissing me. I wasn't sure what to expect by i was just so hypnotized by how great of a kisser he was.
He then paused. Said he loved me. Then said... if we’re going to continue waiting til marriage... you have to at least let me “see if it can fit”. I kept debating and he kept throwing reasons at me why he needed to “try me”. He kept saying it wasn't sex, just a test to see if it could fit.
I don't know it just kept going on and on and on and he just wouldn't stop asking. And i gave in and said “ok but only see if the tip can go in”... but then he thrusted instead, repeatedly trying to shove his whole dck in.
Afterwards, I just layed their crying since i had practically lost my virginty. He kept asking “Did i hurt you? Are you okay? You said i could get in at least 1 thrust right?” I was just so traumatized. I was speechless.
He stood me up. Told me to get dressed. I just held my head down and started walking home. It was so painful to walk home. It was raining and I was wobbling home like a duck.
Next day he tells me, “You know, you're not a virgin anymore now. So you may as well keep on having sex with me. You dont want me to have to do things with other girls, right? I mean, you do want me to marry YOU right?”
Gosh, I hated how in love I was. And him being my first made me cling to him even more. It was an odd connection i felt to him. Lets just say i gave in to some stuff. He changed me.
I don’t even want to go into detail of what all ended up happening. But basically He continued to cheat on me with both friends/enemies. He supposedly knocked my friend up and denied it. He told me if I were to ever get pregnant that I needed to drink bleach.
We broke up during the whole friend being pregnant thing. But months later i took him back. I told him i still didn't want to do oral. However, one day he whipped out his dck while i sat next to him. He kept begging for it. In the middle of me saying “No”, he slammed my head down on his dck. It hit the back of my throat and i was in pain the rest of the day.
So the next time he asked again, i pretended I wanted to do so. I teased him as i licked down his body. Then i whipped out his dck. Kissed the tip. Then took a huge bite out the shaft.
Lets just say My teeth marks were left in his dck for about a day. He was pissed and chased me through the house. Thank goodness my mom was around to Save me because i was about to get choked to death. Hey, he never asked for me to go down again tho...
He told me he wanted to try doggystyle sex. I thought he meant vaginal from behind but he slammed his dck against my anal hole. Its not like it went in bt it still hurt. I shoved him away. I was in pain for a whole week. I would never purposely do anal. Guess this just made me hate that form of sex even more.
One day i caught him selling weed. He held the knife to my throat and forced me to sniff the bag. He also knew i had asthma and didn't need to be around smoke. Apparently he had smoked a blunt and held the smoke in his mouth. He forced me to kiss him and he blew it in my mouth. I felt like i was dying. I had to run home and get my inhaler.
Then there was that time He held a gun to my tummy when I finally tried to leave him. Smh, If it werent for him going to military school, I wouldve never escaped him.
Years later we reconnected and i tried to be cool with him. I tried to tell him how he hurt me years ago. He laughed in my face and told me i shouldn't have been so naive and that i was the easiest thing he ever scored.
Im not asking anyone for pity. I know some people feel i deserved this. I do blame myself for being so naive. I just don’t want to hear that someone went through this... or something worse... IM BEGGING YOU GUYS/GIRLS TO GET OUT WHILE YOU CAN!!
#FeelFreeToList #aDizzyDesiiTake
What Girls & Guys Said
27 69You probably don’t need it but you have my sympathy. I’ll remember your advice.
Thank you :)
Np my dude
Pun I’ve done the last think a hand full of times to you Being asked/told to do something you dont want to do just so you can get something you want in return
@Julia420 what the hell are you talking about? 😂😂
Umm the main one that comes to mind is the baby photos
@Julia420 uhhh that is not at all similar to anything she said 🙄😂
Being asked/told to send baby I s which you dont want to do just so you can get SOMETHING you want in return
I don't know that’s what it seemed like to me
@Julia420 don’t worry your little mind ☺️ I really don’t care 😂
spot on. Get out when you can
Yess
Wowza. Hope you aren’t hurt by this jerk
It was 8 years ago. Im good now
Oh. Right
cool!
Thanks for sharing, this is why I don’t date as well...
Yea its hurtful but i’ve grown so much
“I just don’t want to hear that someone went through this or something worse”
Whenever you want me to tell my part just say the word but it won’t be through here in public
These kind of people who are abusive, manipulative, toxic, monstrous animals who shouldn’t walk the world shouldn’t even exists at all ik people who have that kind of behavior and it literally boils the shit out of my blood there’s a saying that goes Getting revenge is hard you fight the bees off from the hive till you get the SWEET taste of revenge something like that
I’m sorry you’ve been through that kind of treatment of this crazy animal I always recommend my female friends to carry a small knife (jack knives) or even pepper spray when times get rough with horn dogs want a slice the law has more protection of women than we guys will ever have so there’s nothing to fear on butchering or spraying pepper on dudes you can legally buy pepper spray on Amazon for like $10
I only couldnt be mad nor consider it rape because we were dating and ig i allowed him to take advantage by not stopping him. You’d think i’d be apart of this metoo movement but im not for that
Wtf is the “metoo movement” 😂 and true if y’all dated then you can’t do nothing about it if you tried to stop him then yes it would’ve counted I don't know I’m not a lawyer but do you have any remorse of it?
I'm replying because I read your post, but I am at a loss for words. It just really blows my mind that these people exist.
Yea he was nuts
Nobody needs to be told to leave this kind of relationship unless the person is mentally disabled. It’s so obvious to leave if this is going on.
You callin me mentally disabled?
Well you said you left...
But i kept taking him back. I wouldve never fully escaped him had he not had to go to military camp
Ok so then yes, that’s what I’m saying
Kinda rude considering how “in love” victims can be with the guy/girl who manipulated them
It doesn’t matter. If you’re in love with somebody but then you start to realize that they’re manipulative, then leave. Why stay and let yourself get manipulated?
I didn't wanna stay. I was in love and whenever i left, he came crawling back promising to change. I was just naive. Rude to say mentally disabled
But that’s your fault though, not his. Yes, he’s manipulative and that’s wrong, but it’s your fault for falling for it
I said that above. Clearly you're the mentally disabled one who can't read. Read the last part in bold idiot
Have you ever thought about seeking therapy for these things? There's nothing wrong with it. I've seen therapist before due to panic disorder which I have fully under control now. My mom placed a lot of pressure on me to be the best and brightest and school. So I did a lot of things I shouldn't have done to get ahead to be at the top of my class. I love her but this is how a narcissist is born.
I used to think i needed it. But i repented in 2017. Im good
Hunny , take the therapy. Repentance is spiritual thing and therapy is a mental thing. God loves wisdom therefore it must be used in your circumstance because the damage is showing.
I dont see where the damage shows
Wow, are you serious?
I like public sex when sexually active and have an incredibly dirty mind. But thats it. I mean I've been celibate by choice for years every now and again. Im doing well
what does that have to do with what I saying?
I dont get what other damage
Something is definitely wrong psychologically here. You dont understand a lot of things at your age.
What if you are the toxic one?
Then you gotta work on yourself and stop hurting others
I think the reason some people are in abusive relationships is because they don't know about better options, and they believe they already got the best they could possibly get. That way of thinking will keep a person miserable. They don't really know what true love is, so they just accept that way, no. I'm sorry you had to go through this, I just hope you learned from this.
I knew i had better options but there's a connection you get when with your FIRST everything. So i kept taking him back everytime he apologized
I haven't had my first yet so I don't know the feeling. But you should take into consideration, the possibility that he comes back, will you accept him? If you do, he will keep coming back because he thinks you can be easily manipulated.
This was 8 years ago. His stuff doesn't work anymore
Good
I’ve never even come close to that.
I did have a girlfriend who put me on a pedestal and would do anything for me.
It was fun at first, but got old fast. When I ended it she said she was going to kill herself. She never did...
Yea that happens sadly
That must have been painful luv, I understand how it feels to be manipulated and forced to do things you don't want to.
Glad you were able to get out, I wasn't so lucky, cause I didn't have any other choice but to obey, and that changed me and brought me into bdsm.
I really hate that happened to you. Do you even still try to fight it or have you succumbed to bdsm now
I was a sub for my aunt for three years after that she left me alone cause she thought I am not good enough now. Then I became a dom, it had been two years this year but I am trying to leave this lifestyle now.
Yea please leave the lifestyle. And thats even more awful that a blood relative did that to you
Well, what can I say I had no one else than her
You didn't have to be raped by her though. I wouldve rather been an orphan than tolerate incest
You know how it feels to be important to someone when you have no one else, it doesn't matter how they are at that time.
If im young yes. If you’re young that makes sense and i assume you were young. However, im never young enough to not know that a family member shouldn't be touching me. I wouldve attacked them for trying to molest me. It sounds dumb but i wouldve tolerated what my ex did again before i ever let a family member touch me. But we’re all different
Yes luv everyone is different. It's a little to late for what happened now, but thanks for telling me what I should have done.
We can't change it now. Im just glsd you're okay
Yeah, ok.
Being an absolute Nihilist, I ain't into relationships. But I'm glad you got out of it, Diz. More power to you
Thank you
Welcome
That's a shame, men, I mean boys like that give us men a bad name. I'm out there getting all I can get , but trickery is straight fuckery.
Yea he didn't ruin my image of me tho
Allways love yourself!! ALLWAYS !!!(no pun intended). I mean like , these people that "try suicide". Come on! I don't understand them. And if they talk suicide around me, guaranteed they won't commit suicide. They'll be praying to GOD for life after the whooping I'd give'em. Cause anybody that will take they're own life, ain't worried bout mine. I figure if someone makes you feel like killing yourself , you need to rethink who you kill.
Yea i love myself now
Cool
I'd hate to have to come give you a whooping young lady.
Dang! Whats with the super ling questions today? You good?
Its a mytake lol. Theyre long. Like a dick
Whats on your mind? 🤣🤣🤣
I just look at the questions, so I never pay attention if its a mytake or question. Lol
Just read this mytake and you’ll see
But its sooooooooooooooooooooooooo long! My semester doesn't start until Tues. Lmao
Dude just read it. Im gonna test you on this homework after
Wooh! Wooooooh! Woh! I have homework before my semester even starts? This better be like 100% of my grade wth extra credit.
It is. I wanna discuss it tomorrow. You have 8 hours to get it done
I like to procrastinate when it comes to English class type lessons
You better be ready
Nope. I just woke up
I was in one for 5 year's. Until October 2019.
I see why there's no turning back now
Nope. Not at all. Lol
I completely agree with you. That is an appalling story to hear, and I wish I had trouble believing it could happen. However toxic relationships like this are far more commonplace than they should be. Humanity has continued to give in to their more basic urges, and it sickens me to no end. But I respect that you not only got out of it, but have grown from the experience so it will not happen to you again.
I agree and thank you for this
My pleasure. You have the right to the truth when it appears.
Wow it seems you really opened up here
These are very traumatic experiences
Thank you for reading :)
Wait wait wait... is this yesnomaybe lol
I know those eyes anywhere lol
I'm extremely sorry you had to go through such traumatizing pain during your childhood.
But my respect for you has increased more now because you are tough now and you're guiding others towards happiness and giving insightful suggestions.
May this new year give you immense amount of happiness in everything you do and I hope you find successful in every moment of you life.
Thank you so much @DizzyDesii for sharing happiness on the new year's Eve.
Thank you do much 🙏 im glad im better. Happy NewYears to youu