Getting with a new woman every few months? What do you think?

[Anonymous]

Do you think it is right if a man intentionally gets with a different woman every few months, severing or breaking ties with the previous one every time before the new one?

He doesn’t cheat or force her to do anything she doesn’t want to do.

He doesn’t lie to her about the relationship is, saying that “it’s not something serious, but it could be.”

But he knows he’s going to be with a new woman shorty after the one he’s with.

He goes out with her a lot and tries to become intimate with her before moving onto the next woman.

I guess, in short, it’s some way to morally be with however many women you want, without feeling bad?

If she asks what his intentions are, he’ll 100% tell her

But if not, then he won’t.

[HighlyVolatile]

I did that a lot when I was single but not on purpose. My goal wasn't to date for a few months and end things. I still ultimately wanted a lifelong partner at the end, and I found one and married her. I was just really picky about it so I usually found after a few months or so that I didn't want to spend the rest of my life with this girl. I seemed to be what some called a serial monogamist.

I think in a case you describe where a guy is doing that on purpose, it seems a bit unethical and mainly because of the deception there. If he's not going to tell her what he wants until she asks, I still consider that a form of deception.

[HighlyVolatile]

In some ways, I think it's more unethical if the guy keeps this side hidden than a guy just looking to hook up and being very open and honest about it because otherwise, the girl might get her hopes up that things will work out after such a long period of dating while he's deliberately planning to crush those hopes. I did end up doing my share of that but not deliberately.

[HighlyVolatile]

... and I've been on the receiving end of that with some girls breaking things off with me after a few months when I was hoping we'd last, but I don't think they did it on purpose and so it was very forgivable. Sometimes we just need a few months or more of dating to really see whether we're suitable as lifelong partners. But I think going through those motions with the intention of breaking up in advance seems unethical unless the girl knows well in advance that this is the plan.

[OlderAndWiser]

When he says “it’s not something serious, but it could be” and he knows he wll leave her after it becomes sexual, isn't that a lie?

[Ninania]

Since he's being completely open and honest about his intentions, the women can actively choose to consent to that kind of short term relationship or turn him down if they don't want it.

[Asker]

Only if she asks. The majority of women actually don’t ask these types of questions. If they do, they do it when it is too late and the man has moved on.

[Gwenhwyfar]

It’s called serial monogamy. I don’t like it and I wouldn’t date him if I knew what was going on, but it’s not my business unless it impacts my life or the lives of my friends.

[England4eva]

Word gets around. Women will know of his intentions. Trust me, people talk

[RobT312]

Sounds exhausting

[DonkeyDan]

If he can't be completely honest upfront, not just if she asks, then it's deception, why not just say what his intentions are from the outset. As it's deliberate he's just low life shit.

[SunnyCaliGirl]

His reputation will be known vary quickly and seen as a "player" either he means it that way or not. And what goes around will come back around to him