Gf caught me masturbating in bathroom. Should I just not mention it unless she brings it up? Girls how would you feel if it happened to you?

[Anonymous]

I woke up horny. Soon realised gf wasn't in the mood. Went to bathroom and she caught me. I left pretty quickly for work to avoid having to talk about it. Now it's playing on my mind as I don't know what she is thinking. Girls what should I do? I'm thinking I don't mention it unless she does. Also does anyone else masturbate while their so is in the house?

[MaskedSanity]

I think you need to re-evaluate your entire relationship, if your girlfriend can't handle you having a wank.

Seriously, anyone who freaks our and/or doesn't talk to their partner WHO THEY REGULARLY HAVE SEX WITH ANYWAY, needs a good smack back to reality.

This has always baffled me how couples get all weird around each other over masturbation.

You've seen each other naked, you've fucked before. You're in your bloody late 20s, mate. This sort of reaction is ok for a teenager, who has only just discovered what their naughty bits do.

Your girlfriend needs to grow up and you need to grow a pair. Nothing shameful about masturbating and you shouldn't have to hide it from your S/O.

[Asker]

So what are you saying? I should have done it in the bed?

[MaskedSanity]

I don't see why not. It's your bed just as much as it is hers. Sure, it would be rude if you did it in her presence against her wishes. But feeling ashamed for being caught in the bathroom is ridiculous, imho. How can masturbation be an awkward subject for people who actively engage in sex? It just makes no sense.

[Asker]

I don't think I could do it next to her in bed. I would feel like I would be pressuring her to help me out.

[MaskedSanity]

If you don't feel comfortable around your partner, why are you dating her then? Never in my life have I felt pressured by my s/o wanking. If she does, she has some issues she needs to work on.

[Asker]

So your bf has had a wank next to you? If so have you ever done nothing because you weren't in the mood?

[MaskedSanity]

He has tried having a wank next to me, but it ended in sexytimes because I'm a horndog. Sometimes I was not in the mood, so he would have a wank in the bedroom or bathroom and it is never an issue. We're very open and relaxed about sex.

[Anonymous]

I don't see any problem with it. I mean you was horny and she wasn't, you could've kept asking her until she gave in but you didn't. I wouldn't think anything of it if I caught my husband jacking off, I mean sure I might pick at him a little but that's just us. He would do the same thing to me if he caught me playing with myself. :)

[AutumnJust18]

Guys masturbate, girls masturbate, sometimes when other people are around.
If it's uncomfortable for you, don't mention it.
I wouldn't be offended or anything, I'd probably be a tease and say something like "I hope you were thinking about me!"

If it's a big enough issue for her then she'll bring it up.

[ZettaiX]

I masturbated in bed next to my gf. She had the covers off and was naked. She woke up and saw me and asked what I was doing. I said I was so horny, but I knew she was exhausted and didn't want to bother her. She finished it (handjob) while we kissed. I think it all comes down to how you approach it. But if she asks, be honest, if you need more sex and intimacy you should tell her.

[sovetskii13]

You seem to be uncomfortable with bringing it up. So, don't bring it up. If she does, talk about it. If not, forget about it. Just try to avoid acting different around her. Try to avoid that awkward silence at the table or other times when you two normally talk. Know what I mean?

[CursedAngel]

I would've got turned on if I saw my guy masturbating!!! I would've helped him too :)
Nothing embarassing, really! We all have our needs...

[islands7]

Oh, she'll bring it up and if not, then you do... your point would be that you would prefer she does it to you but respects her sleep/mood/whatever sign of hers that told you not to ask.
She'll respond positively

[kheserthorpe]

You didn't turn her down for sex. She turned you down.

If anything she may feel guilt that she doesn't satisfy you. That's her burden.

[LittlemissTourettes]

If I caught my boyfriend masturbating, I would drop to my knees and suck him off.

[malakkaman]

Your a kind and decent woman!

[thetrvpgoddess]

Lol there really should be nothing wrong if that ur gf

[clutchgroupie]

I love watching my man masturbate. Hell we even do it together sometimes.

[yaddayaddayadda02]

There's no need to bring it up at all.

[knotme]

Yes, i have and there is no need to bring it up

[zombiebabe]

keep silent and there's no need for you to mention it since its a normal stuff-she might clearly understand it

[26ukdude]

Well it might be embaressing but if you can see she is not in the mood or she doesn't want to, and you need relief then you are entitled to have it. Its ridiculous to try and stop anyone masturbating.

[everything_emilyy]

I used to feel sad and insecure when my bf watched p*rn because I knew I could never measure upo to those girls but I matured and now I don't give a shit

[WaterNymph611]

I wouldn't mention it unless she brings it up first.

[Ghostbusters]

I caught my bf doing same thing :[]

[Asker]

And what did you do or say?

[Ghostbusters]

Nothing:3

[Kavyarox12]

Talk to her openly :)

[Anonymous]

Why is that embarrassing? I'd be turned on if I caught my guy masturbating. I'd probably give him a blowjob too if he was masturbating in the shower. My guy never has to masturbate if I'm around b/c I'm always eager to give him a blowjob or he a deepthroat if he wanted it. I just love it when he fcks my face.

[Anonymous]

I'd of helped you out

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't mention it. I would do the same thing. Yes, I have masturbated with s/o in the house- In the same bed actually, While watching television and I on my laptop.

[Anonymous]

Just be truthful and crack a joke while you're at it. You guys already had sex anyway right?

[Asker]

Yes. I always try to get her to touch herself in front of me but she won't. And she doesn't want to watch me.

[Anonymous]

I haven't but I would. If you can have sex with her you shouldn't be embarrassed about her seeing you masturbating, I highly doubt she minded, I know if I caught my bf I would be turned on lol