Girlfriend always wants to be big spoon? is this strange?

every time me and my girlfriend go to sleep she always wants to be big spoon. Now I'm OK with it sometimes, and its actually kind of comfortable lol. but at some point, its just too much. I'm masculine, I gotta be big spoon. I usually end up just flipping her over anyway but I feel like it pisses her off any other girls prefer big spoon?
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  • My boyfriend and I switch back and forth. I'm about 5'6 and he's about 6'0, so it's comfortable either way. I don't think either of us has thought that one position was more mascuilne/feminine than the other. I'd say we do them both equally or at least close to equally ... especially because we both switch sides when we sleep.

    I do like being "big spoon" sometimes because I can take in his scent really well and that comforts me. Also, I like having my hand on his chest with his hand wrapped around it and pressing against his strong, muscular back. You feel a lot more body-to-body contact being the one pressed against your partner, because the front of your body seems more aware of touch.

    I do also like being "small spoon" because it's an innately sexual position and feeling his d*** against my ass is sexy, to be blunt. Also, it's nice to have his arms wrapped around me. I feel more "surrounded" by him in this position.

    Also, most of the time, which is more comfortable just depends on which side of you body you prefer laying on. Especially as many of us have at least one body part that aches or goes to sleep quickly. Does her preference change if she is laying on her right vs. left side, for instance?

  • I don't prefer it but I think my ex liked it, or at least that was the way we ended up sleeping. I didn't mind it, it was a more comfortable position for my arms (my left arm felt so awkward when I was the little spoon, like I might elbow him in the face on accident lol). And I got to touch him more and rub his back and whisper things in his ear. But I do like being cuddled and it can feel like a bit of a cold position. If you really want to be the big spoon,wait until she gets in bed first and then try it.

  • my guy absolutely LOVES having his back rubbed while we're laying in bed watching TV or about to go to sleep. soo, obviously, I wind up being the big spoon quite a bit! and I actually do prefer it...because not only does rubbing his back relax him and put him to sleep, but it also has the same effect on me (and I know, that's weird...lol).

Most Helpful Guys

  • The only time I'd want to be a the little spoon is if I'm in a bad frame of mind for whatever reason. Maybe I'm not feeling well, maybe something happened that I might need a little consolation, whatever. Other than that, I'd rather have my girl in my arms every time. Being the little spoon would make me feel more like I'm being cared for than anything. I want to be the protector of my girl, not the protected.

    • thats what I mean. I want to be just big spoon, but I'll allow her to be big spoon if she really wants to be. its just weird. I've never met a girl who wanted to be big spoon like that.

  • remind her of your masculinity and fart on her while she's big spoon :P

    • ew

    • Lol downrated a joke

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  • my friend told me to tell you she said...

    "maybe she thinks you have a really sexy back and she likes snuggling up to that part of your body"

  • sometimes when I know he's got a lot on his mind I'll wanna be the big spoon. (he does most of his deep thinking at night in bed). I've never done it because I don't wanna make him feel less masculine.

    • its not the worst thing in the world, I think we all want to be big spoon the majority of the time but occasionally, its ok.

  • No, it's not strange.

    My partner and I spoon both ways. Sometimes it's nice to be held, sometimes it's nice to hold someone. Sometimes being the "little spoon" can feel too restraining/constrictive to me, particularly if its when we're trying to go to sleep.

  • I prefer little spoon. I don't gt too much affection like that.

  • Sometimes I like it. It lets me show him how much I care but the vast majority of the time I prefer being the little spoon. It is just so comfortable.

  • Whoa. She's secretly a man.

  • Let her think she has a di*k and puts that between your tighs boy XD

  • Used to being little spoon, find it very confining. I've recently stared seeing a guy that likes to be little spoon on occasion. I have to say it's nice to be big spoon sometimes. More freedom in movement. And I like to rub his back and have my hand on his chest, I find it comforting to be able to take in his smell. I also get warm when I sleep and it makes it a lot easier to cool down without feeling like I'm pushing him away.

  • Maybe she just prefers to lay on that side?

  • She's a dude , brah...

  • Isn't that pretty awkward? Maybe it's because I'm short, but if I were big spoon, I would look more like big spider. But I guess if you're around the same height it wouldn't be too weird. I don't know, I've never tried not being little spoon.

  • I like it if we're going to sleep. I can lay with my face/body against his back and when I get hot I can turn over and it's not going to disturb him if he's already asleep. Why don't you just ask her why she likes it so much and tell her sometimes you just wanna hold her instead. Doesnt have to be a big deal just ask her...dont mention the whole masculine thing just say "how come you always get to be the big spoon?" and see what she says? she might not even realize it lol

  • Um...what's the size difference between you two? Is she bigger than you?

    My boyfriend wanted to try being the little spoon once but since his shoulders are super broad and he's 6'5 and I'm 5'4, it didn't work. If we were closer in size maybe I'd be more interested in laying behind him.

  • Ugh I hate that too. I need my space.