Girlfriend broke up with me shortly after starting birth control? Is there a way to fix it?

[Anonymous]

Hey folks,

So I (26M) have been dating a girl (22F) for a few months now, things were going well and we took it slow. She wanted to get more serious these past few weeks and start having sex but wanted to be as natural as possible with it. I understood and she got a prescription for birth control pills and started taking them the 1st week of August. We decided to wait until at least 10 days after to be safe but at that point, she didn't feel in the mood for it. I tried to be more romantic and open but despite my efforts even with normal intimacy, she seemed estranged from me. Sure enough this past week she broke it off with me. It wasn't a bad break-up in terms of anger or anything, she said that she fell out of love and it was that.

I accept that this could happen but I didn't notice this change until a few days after she had been taking the pill. I am still friends with one of her friends and she says that my ex isn't with any new guys or searching so if she was cheating she never followed through with it. I am wondering if she reacted badly to the pill mentally and that is to blame, and if so, if we could maybe mend what we had if she went off it?

It's just all so strange to me. None of the other 2 girls I dated previously had this problem but we broke up over distance and different relationship goals, none of them were on any sort of birth control.

Any suggestions?

[Smoothing]

It is definitely a hormonal issue. There has been many stories similar to yours. Don't take it too hard. At least she is not with anybody else.

Relationships have broken up due to this by the way. A girl will start messing around with the bad boy type and leave you and yet she actually likes you. Unfortunately by the time she comes back to normal, the relationship could have been damaged beyond repair.

Yours is not to bad. Try and use condoms instead. If you ever get back together. Sometimes I actually think the pill is only for married people.

[TheBigWhistle]

You've only been going out a few months so it's not like it's some long term relationship. It just sounds like she lost interest for whatever reason. It happens. Move on and start looking for someone new.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like her birth control might be affecting her mood and drive - hormonal birth control can absolutely change a person. I’ve heard stories where girls fell out of love with their man as soon as they got off the pill, the birth control can really alter your mind, perception and taste 😬 Is this her first time going on the pill? She might want to talk to her ob/gyn, let’s hope she’s not feeling depressed bc of the pill…

[Asker]

Interesting comment, yeah it's her first time going on it. She doesn't really talk to me anymore but I'll let her know.

[Opinion Owner]

Like what the other comments pointed out, birth control messes with your hormones/brain - when I got off the pill I realized that my sense of smell changed lol So the changes in her mood might be something you really want to look into

[Apple1996]

Birth control messes with a girl's ability to sense pheromones so most change who they are attracted to after taking it. From what I've heard no birth control they are attracted to alpha men , with birth control they are attracted to beta men so it's probably a good thing she broke up with you.

[RiseofArtemis]

The birth control pills fucked her brain up and are damaging her natural cycle. She's not responding well to those.

[Anonymous]

I’m honestly not sure since I’ve never noticed this in anyone but one issue could be a hormonal imbalance that’s all I could think of but that usually causes weight gain