Girlfriend refuses anal?

My girlfriend and I have been dating for 3 years and have been having sex for a little over 2 years. We tried anal once and since then she refuses to try it again. And I know I shouldn't pressure her. Is there anything I can do?
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  • Yeah man. Maybe one day she'll decide she might want to try it again, but it's hard to convince a woman to want to have anal when she is totally convinced in her mind that she doesn't want to try it. This is without coming across as an asshole or a dominant or too pushy mind you.

    Maybe, talk to her about it and see where her head is at about it. Like you have to be casual when you talk to her about it. Not bring up what happened really. You can even do reverse psychology, in that, you can say, "Man I love your ass right now, I would love to play with it". Or something like this. Get it in her head that you enjoy being around that area and that she is beautiful around that area. Most women that love anal, are confident in that area of their body or are confident that the person they let touch them in that area loves to be around that area of their body. Usually, the reason women don't want to be touched in the anal area is because they feel it's dirty for both involved, or it will hurt, or it's not proper. If you can get her to see that you or she won't feel this way about you being in her anal region, than she will be more receptive of you playing with her ass and eventually anal perhaps.

    But, you can't push it, you have to let her feel comfortable with it again.

  • she tried it once you had your shot, you should have made sure she liked it, lots of lube etc etc, you cannot expect her to try again, if she didn't liked it its going to be scary as hell for her to try again.
    my suggestion is to stick with Normal sex, lick her pussy good! be playful with her ass, show her how much you love it, start with fingering the ass, with lots of lube, if she finds fingering good she will keep it relaxed, and once she is good with fingering she would want something bigger! thats when dick one in the game.

    wish you luck..

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  • Well you could ask her why she doesn't want to try again. And maybe sometimes ask her during sex if you can try it out again. But ya, if she really doesn't want to do it, nothing much you can do about that. Just have to respect it.

    • Yeah that's good advice. Thanks a lot :)

    • You're welcome :)

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  • Respect her wishes and don't push it. She doesn't like it from what it sounds like and I don't blame her. Anal is not natural and is often harmful for the woman. If you truly love her, you can learn to enjoy natural vaginal sexual relations with her.

  • Well, dont then. The only thing you can do is not have anal here. If she doesn't want to do it... there's got to be a reason behind it. Talk to her. And if she doesn't want it, then youve got to forget the idea of anal.
    Stick around woth her more.
    All the best. Cheers

  • Give it time and start small and slowly gently approach do not ever just dip right in the backfires u must lube the hinges very well and take it very slow then she will get the same enjoyment and maybe even a phenomenal orgasm you may even use an oral approach with a delightful surprise pinky

    • Backdoor not backfires lol

  • Three years! Are you guys married yet?

  • Ask her to keep a plug in for some time.. it'll help her deal with the pain..
    Mine had same problem..

  • Dude she tried she didn't like it either let it go or start licking it and over. Time start prkding with fingers over time getting deeper until she saids she's uncomfortable again that's your limit don't push that of the door will close

  • Don't pressure her if she doesn't want to do it again. If you want it and she doesn't then break up if that's the only thing you're after her for.

    • Where did I say that's the only thing I'm after her for? I simply asked a question. If you can't share an opinion without being mean or assumptive maybe don't comment at all?

    • I said "if" that's the only thing you're after her for. I didn't make an assumption about anything nor did I call you names. I don't know how this is being mean.

  • She doesn't like it. Just leave her alone about it.

  • She refused because she's not a degenerate freak.

  • move on? pay a hooker? fuck a man?

  • I actually think pressuring her is a good ideia. She has already done it once, why the hell she doesn't want it now?

    I just think she's being selfish bro. You can force her too if you want...

  • Try anal lube and do it slowly... if she wants to.

  • THIS is why waiting for marriage to have sex is a bad idea. You're lucky you can leave her and find a woman who is more open minded.

  • Try showing her it is not that bad. Learn how to take something in yours and show her it is not bad by having her take you with a strap on.

    My girlfreind did not want to try it until she got to shove something as big as a dick in my ass. Now we love anal play and she has a fun time taking me with a strap on before she rolls over and lets me fuck her ass.