Girlfriend wants to 'experiment' with another girl?

Question

Ok, so me and my girlfriend have been together for 3 years now, she is bi-sexual and I am straight.Lately, she kept bringing up in conversation that she wanted to have a sexual relationship with another girl, for 'one time', because she has never experienced it before.I completely understand why she want to do this but now I feel like I'm not good enough for her. We have never had sex with anyone else but with each other, and I'm worried about feeling like I'm being betrayed.So we sat down and talked about it, and she said maybe we could have a threesome, which we have both never done before, so we both agreed, in concept.I then learned that if this concept was to happen, my girlfriend doesn't want any sexual activity between me or the other girl, now is that a threesome? I mean I understand not having sex with the other girl, but I consider oral sex to be OK, but my girlfriend doesn't. Is this wrong for me to think I deserve the 'experience' as well?I will never be able to have sex with another person ever, since me and my girlfriend are in a committed relationship, but she will, and I'm not sure if this is fair, is it?Any feedback and advice is appreciated.Thanks,halochrisf

eurochick · Accepted Answer

I am bisexual and have had a number of FFM and FMM 3 somes. I think that as an 'introductory' 3 some then it may be fun for you to watch your girlfriend be with another girl. For us, we touch everybody involved but make sure we talk about how each other feels towards jealousy.

MissConfused93 · Accepted Answer

I wouldn't agree to a threesome so I have trouble wrapping my head around it.

BUT no, it's not fair. You should be able to have sex with the other girl too. Oral and actual sex. If she doesn't let you then tell her no threesome because fair is fair.

katiesmuff · Accepted Answer

It's only fair if you are on board with this as well.  If this is going to be a problem perhaps the two of you need to rethink your relationship as unless you are both happy it's not going to work for long.

yaddayaddayadda02 · Accepted Answer

She wants to cheat with your permission.  Tell her that she can go have sex with a girl outside of the relationship ONLY if you can go have sex with a girl outside of the relationship.  If she balks, dump her.

Belgie · Accepted Answer

"now is that a threesome?" Only technically. The way your girl friend is suggesting, she might as well just film her and the other girl, and give you the tape afterwards. It is completely unfair.

Ovrsees · Answer

Take what you can get ... being involved with a threesome even if you can't have sex is an awsome experiance ... ! ! !

Kupacus · Answer

Just quit, it's useless. Unless you participate on it as well, then its official.

evenlift · Answer

Tell her that you're committed to her but that, if this is going to happen, it's got to be a proper threesome.

05Jueey · Answer

Whatever works for you two is fine. If you are OK with just watching or whatever than I think if it makes you both happy, more power to you :)

RemarkableT23 · Answer

That’s nice of her, break up with her if you don’t like it. I don’t like the stigma and bi-curious girls are going to get dumped for sure as well as openly bisexual girls. It’s my opinion.