Girlfriend won't let me cum anywhere on or in her, advice?

[Anonymous]

Ok, so I love my girlfriend, she's amazing. But when I'm about to cum, she won't let me do it anywhere on/in her. She doesn't want it anywhere near her face, boobs, stomach, etc. When I asked if I could come in her mouth, she got really upset and said, "You get a guy jizz in your mouth, and then you can." The same goes for anywhere on her body, she just really hates the idea. And I'm the first guy she's ever dated, so she was a virgin. So ladies, (onto my question) do you find this degrading? And can you explain why?

[Anonymous]

Porn has made this a male fantasy. And that's why women hate it. We see female p*rn stars as degraded sex objects, and want to be everything but. So your girlfriend may consider this gross because she does not want to be like those women. To her, it may seem like you are asking to sign your property after use.

Think about why you got this idea. Was it from p*rn? Why does it turn you on?

On the other hand, you may feel like she is rejecting you here. As long as you are a clean, healthy human being, your ejaculate should be completely injestible to the opposite gender. It isn't gross or unhealthy, and you should't have to feel dirty or unclean because she does not want to.

But women have been bombarded with ideas from day one that say that we are whores if we enjoy sex too much, that we must behave a certain way and can only have certain fantasies. Your girlfriend might think she is supposedto think that this is gross.

Sit her down at a time when you are not hooking up, so she does not feel that you are criticizing her performance, and tell her that when she gets grossed out by your ejaculate, which is a part of you, it hurts your feelings a little bit. And then tell her why the idea of you doing these things is hot, and put to rest her worries that doing this will make you think of her as a sex toy. She might be open to experiment when she hears that way. But everyone has a comfor level, sodomy be too offended if she does not do all of these things after the talk.

[Freetobe007]

This is the opinion of one woman. She cannot speak for thousands of women whom she has never met.

[Opinion Owner]

That's true! I am not trying to summarize the complete thought process of women at all! Everyone is different. I'm just saying that these are some common notions in the media that a lot of women are influenced by, and many in turn think this way. I'm just speaking from my experience in media studies and psychology.

[heatherlu]

How long have you been together?

I mean, considering she was a virgin before you slept together - this is all new to her; and I mean, if it's early on she'll probably prefer things to be a bit more vanilla. It will probably just take her a bit of time to get used to the idea.

I know when I first started having sex, I wasn't keen on things like that, it took me a while to warm to the idea. I mean, I'm still not a fan of a guy cumming on my face - I don't know, I just don't find it hot, a guy will usually come in me, in a condom. But yeah I mean, I'm sure after a while she might grow more open to the idea.

[queenofpeen]

She's never tried it and she's that opposed to it? :/ She could at least give it a shot and see that it's not that bad. I think some girls see it as just another gross bodily fluid, haha. Or maybe she's seen it in p*rn, where most of the girls ARE being slightly degraded. When you're with a partner, it's much more intimate than it looks in p*rn. Maybe if you tell her why you want her to and how much you'd like it, she'd try it?

[Asker]

I know, I haven't had this problem with any of my girlfriends. It's probably p*rn though, she doesn't like the idea of anyone seeing her as an "object".

[queenofpeen]

Ah, yeah, maybe you could explain to her that it's not like that at all. I don't know if you feel this way, but I know it makes my boyfriend feel awesome for reasons that have nothing to do with degradation or "power."

[toulouse]

What reasons? I'm curious.

[queenofpeen]

Well, here are things he has mentioned (we're really open about sexual things): 1. It's a turn-on in itself that I'm eager and willing, haha. The attitude. 2. If it's on my boobs/face, it's visually appealing. Nice to see when you're in the middle of an orgasm. 3. If it's in my mouth, it's kind of like I'm "accepting" him? I'm not sure how to phrase it. It adds a lot of intimacy for both of us. I also think spitting or making him finish into a cup or tissue would ruin the moment.

[SometimesWonders]

Slightly?

[queenofpeen]

Depends on what p*rn you watch :P I actually wrote this answer before I watched much hardcore p*rn, I didn't know how common seemingly nonconsensual face-f***ing is.

[CrashOverride]

Okay, and I thought I was screwed with my wife, lol, she also don't like come on her body, nowhere that is (not on her t*ts, belly, butt, face...) and she is even grozzed out with the idea to come in her mouth... she gives me BJs with a taste condom or she does without when we take a shower. But she stops when the precum comes out.

She hates the taste, the texture and the stickiness, not mentioning the smell (she things it smells like a public swimmingpool and taste like ice-tea)

So a nice titty-f*** is out of the question too, althought she let me do it occationally but here she has the excuse her breasts are to sensitive in a bad way too.

Anyhow, I respect her for not wantig me cumming on her face, I would not like it myself and swallowing sperm isn't my idea of fun so why should she. Therefor I ve the same probs like you have mate but I'm 36 and married with her for 16 years now and still she didn't came around.

[Fatale]

Well if she is not willing to open up to her sexuality and stop believing stereotypes about swallowing cum or getting it on her face, then she is not the one bro. A woman worth marrying is one that's willing to accept you completely in & out of the bed. You should accept her completely as well. For those of you that are married, her body belongs to you and your body belong to her so she must realize that not accepting a part of your body can hurt your feelings. If she never asks you about how you feel about her squirting all over you when doing oral on her, but she whines about you wanting to cum on her face then she is not worth it. That's manipulative which in most cases apply to many women when it comes to sex, but that's a argument for another day lol. Simple fact is if she cares about you and you care about her you will accept each other completely sexually and emotionally. That's just how i see it. :)

[indian_empress_91]

as she gets older or more experienced she's get into loving it...just keep telling her how hot it makes you to come on her...

[Asker]

Haha that would never work. My girlfriend is the smartest person I have ever met and wants a well thought out explanation for why I want to do that. I tried doing it in the heat of the moment and she sat up and said, "What do you think you're doing, get a towel."

[toulouse]

lol niice. sorry but funny -- thatd be me ;)

[KimmyB]

Wellllll, her not wanting you to come inside her is self-explanatory and pretty much the only thing that I think girls consider degrading is having a guy like come on their face. I personally think it's a turn on watching guys cum, and it's not like she'd have to deal with the taste or anything if it was on her body away from her face. It's probably because she's never done it b4 and she's scared. I'd just try to talk to her without being pushy and def don't bring up doing it on her face if you want her to change her mind! :o)

[lorene]

i felt like your girlfriend does come grosses me out so I started dating girls, I'm not trying to say she's a lesbian but that was my problem

[ncsquirll99]

thats one way to fix the problem lol

[jonny21]

She sounds BOOORING.

[Rave4happy]

Haha!

[cinderelli]

So weird lol

[bubbakong2006]

Once your in her just do it don’t say anything just cum and hold on till your finished she will probably settle down once you have cum in her already if I’m inside of her I’m sorry but I’m going to finish just how it is

[Angelo75]

Perhaps she's traumatized about something in her childhood?
Usually a woman who's really in love with you will let you do almost anything with her.
As long as you treat her right, and the particular act is not triggering some PTSD truama or so.

[cestlavie123]

Sorry, but she needs to get over it. That is very selfish of her. Being cummed in/on is a very intimate special moment, and she should respect that. I love when my boyfriend cums. I've always had self-image problems, but the fact that my boyfriend finds me attractive enough to come for me got me over that real quick. She should be savouring it, not rejecting it...

[joycifer]

i think it's degrading for her to say that comment. tell her how hot it makes you when she takes it in the mouth. that'd work if a dude said that to me, but I have no problem with cum.

[Anonymous]

some people like different things, I myself hate come on my face anywhere else is meh but I love it inside. she may just not like the feeling of come or the clean up, just ask her why she doesn't and tell her why you like it. in sexual relationships it may be hard to talk about it but you have to really try to otherwise your relationship is doomed to fail.

[Anonymous]

I think it's hot. Cum looks yummy like white chocolate syrup. I'm a virgin and I would love my man to come all over me

[SometimesWonders]

Cum is actually clear so more like a glaze

[Opinion Owner]

not the come I've seen in p*rno

[Anonymous]

I don't like the face (find it degrading) and don't do inside when I'm not on the pill and don't prefer him cumming in my mouth when I'm not giving a blowie. Also, it doesn't always taste so good ... but sometimes its tastes OK. Maybe if you told her you'd kiss her after you finish in her mouth, she'd be inclined to give it a try. Eat lots of peaches!