Girlfriends sex drive goes to nothing with birth control. Yet she refuses to get off of it?

[Anonymous]

So my girlfriend and I have been dating for 2.5 years. The first year we didn’t have sex at all because I thought she wanted to wait for marriage but she wanted to do it so we did. Ever sense we’ve had sex once every few months. Granted we don’t live together and only see each other once a week. All this time she was on Birth control.

last month she got of birth control because she was tired of it and I could see that her sex drive increased a ton. She wanted to do it every weekend. But now she’s back on it because she gets cysts. And I can see the difference. And she says she wants to wait until we are engaged because she’ll feel better about it. She had been saying that all the time but when she gets Horny we do it.

Is it wrong of me to want her off birth control? I feel like it’s the real her without it and I want to ask her to marry me but I’m worried with her on birth control well never be intimate.

[Barbaric]

The birth control pill is actually terrible. It's not healthy at all. That's why it causes such problems.

There's also nothing wrong with you wanting regular sex from your girlfriend at all. That's normal, part of any healthy relationship. The birth control pill is making her unhealthy. I know retards will say that doctors wouldn't prescribe it if it were unhealthy, but like I said, retards.

Point is, if she were to try to guilt you for that, that says more about her dumb ideas about how relationships should work than anything else.

The problem here is that you're the type of guy to simply do whatever your girlfriend wants. That's why you're afraid to say anything. Therefore she runs the relationship, and you most likely won't listen to my advice anyway.

But if I were you, I'd be thinking about leaving. That's the only thing that would make her think about it and consider your side of it, the idea that you might leave. She ignores you and refuses because she knows you'll stay and put up with it.

[winterfox10]

You might be able to ask her if she's willing to look into other brands of BC. A decrease in sex drive is fairly normal, but she shouldn't lose her sex drive entirely.

She's definitely not alone though, I've heard and read countless people saying that they saw the same sort of things happen to them too.

[Asker]

She might not loose it entirely but it’s not very often. At least like it is without. She just switched to a different pill with a much lower dosage.

[G3tAClue]

She should look into other types of birth control. Some are not as damaging to your hormonal levels.

[Asker]

The thing is she gets cysts on her ovaries and she said she doesn’t want to come off it until she has kids. But I feel like if I ask her to talk to her doctor about it she’ll take it personally and that it’s only about sex.

[G3tAClue]

Then I guess you’re in a stand still until she’s ready to listen to you.

[1CentWorth]

maybe she's just tired of the sex and is blaming it on the pill? My understanding is that the pill doesn't kill sex drive.

[Asker]

I don’t think she’s blaming it on the pill. She’s never said anything. I can just tell because when she came off it last month and couldn’t keep her hands off me. I thought well she wanted to wait till we are engaged but I caved.

[1CentWorth]

I don't know man. there's only one reason I know of for a woman to lose sex interest in her SO for, like, ever: Lost interest.

[Asker]

I’m not saying she lost interest in saying it’s too little while on birth control. She came off it and her sex drive went way up. Now she’s back on it and I can see it going back to the same old thing.

[0112358]

Some women the pill absolutely kills their drive.

[1CentWorth]

@0112358 What's the point of BC then? Or is that the point of BC?

[0112358]

It doesn’t have that impact on all women. But it does on some. They are pregnancy mimicking hormones.

[1CentWorth]

@0112358 No, I get that that. and on additional thought I also get the other thing...