Girls, are guys really bad at sex?

I see a lot of people saying guys suck at sex and oral and how its hard for a girl to come. THEN they always say lesbians have better sex lifes, but I dont want to be lesbian :/
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  • You probably don't; there's a REASON the phenomenon of "lesbian bed death" is so well-known (and in case you're not familiar, it's not NEARLY as sexy as it sounds). And the domestic violence rates are downright scary (hint, hint, legislators- violence isn't actually any less awful when it's committed by women!).

    Now I'm not a girl, but I've heard this before, and usually it comes down to one or both of the following: 1. women who don't communicate and rely on their man's psychic powers, and 2. women who are sexually passive and entirely reliant on their partners to get them off. You can probably see how the first one's a problem; most men are NOT psychic. The motions of vaginal sex are instinctive, for obvious reasons, but those of oral sex are not: if you want him to do something, TELL HIM. If you want to learn to things and have him try them, ASK. He'll probably be happy to try, at least; "Hey, babe, I heard about this website with a list of cunnilingus techniques and positions we could try, and a checklist to mark them off as we do them; I think it might be fun to see how long it'd take us to do them all" is not a sentence that's going to terrify him; it even appeals to his competitive drives. You will never hear of a relationship that was derailed by having too much open communication. Requests, instructions, and feedback: they're the keys here.

    The second one is, if anything, stupider: sex isn't something that he does TO her, but something that you do TOGETHER. It's a perplexingly common attitude, but no less annoying for that; if all you're doing is laying there, what makes you think you DESERVE an orgasm? If guiding him doesn't work, then defy instinct and socialization and take the active role: tell him that you're taking control and that you're in charge tonight (despite what you might think, most men will actually find the prospect arousing, especially if you sell it as your desire rather than your frustration), then get on top and SHOW him how you want to be stimulated.

    Being "bad at sex" is more a matter of poor communication and lack of creativity than anything else; if your partner isn't satisfying you and you're doing nothing but bitching to someone else about it, they're not the one who's bad at it.

  • Don't trust lesbians on this. Or straight girls.
    Also, don't trust men, gay or straight, on this as well.

    I had a plethora of experience with gay men saying men are better at sex and women don't know how to do it, and them having literally the same complaints as straight men when it comes to sex with their partners.

    Same shit from gay women, by the way. Actually some extreme complaints from gay women that includes "she won't let me touch her", which is the sort of complaint you don't hear from gay guys.

    I had a gay friend who frequently hit on me complaining that his partner didn't knew how to fuck ass, when his whole sale of himself is that he knew how to sit, so my solution to his problem was "well, he's better than me with you, he can get his dick hard. Just let him lay down and you do the work, what about that?"

    I had a friend that frequently bitched that the girls wouldn't suck her, touch her, and I'm like "have you tried fucking lesbians for a change?"

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  • Statistically, lesbians orgasm more often than straight women. With that being said, good sex don't necessarily require orgasms, and orgasms don't always happen no matter how good at sex the guy is.


    I think guys are more likely to suck at sex than women because they are socialized from porn and culture into thinking that PIV intercourse is the only thing that matters when, really, pleasure in sex can come from a wide variety of activities. For many women, good foreplay and oral can be even more gratifying than PIV penetration.


    Guys also tend to have fragile egos when it comes to sexual performance that they shut down immediately whenever their partner tries to talk with them about sex, which doesn't help at all. Guys take it as a personal failing when they are unable to make the girl cum, when in reality there's likely multiple reasons as to why the girl isn't enjoying the sex, and a lack of communication between partners can really be the main determining factor of whether the sex is good or not. The communication can't lead to anywhere productive though if the guy refuses to take what the girl wants in consideration because he is too busy seeing the penetration part as the ultimate goal rather than the goal being enjoying each other and having fun.

  • No, it's not all guys. The ones who are passionate & want to learn are generally going to be better at it. It's the selfish, demeaning and unmotivated ones who are bad at it

    • *& lazy

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  • Not all of them. I guess another girl is instinctively better as we know what works for us. With a boyfriend it is all about having the patience to train them up and of course their willingness to learn …..

  • there's just some guys who dont realy care about you getting off so they are realy bad dont take time etc.
    But its not all there's a lot of guys who are realy good in bed

  • The thing is that girls expect guys to be good at giving oral but many guys suck at it because they get their pleasure differently.
    If you wanna get a woman to have an orgasm you need to take time, you can´t go down on her right away because if she´s not in the mood and if she´s not eased and relaxed she´s not getting close to an orgasm.
    Guys on the other hand are different, they need less time to prepare for sex and you don´t much patience either to get them hard.
    Guys aren´t born as sex gods just because of us have watched porn most of us don´t know how to lick a pussy properly because no one has showed us how. Porn starts with the guy already licking pussy. If you don´t show a guy how, he´ll probably will never learn it.

  • theyre saying that because theyre unwilling to be responsible for their orgasm. Just tell him what you like and if he still isn't capable after the third time then you've done your part. You can't expect every guy to automatically know what you like, some do but not all. Probably about 10-20% of men already know what you like sexually, the rest you'll either have to tell or move on to someone else that understands you sexually if thats most important to your happiness.

  • You know lesbians have the least amount of sex out of all the relationship types? They also have the highest rate of domestic violence.

    • Lesbians do have the least amount of sex, but their sex tends to be better and last longer statistically.

    • @Oceation I wonder how they compare to gay men.

  • Well, see: "Women, And Sometimes, Men" - Do both. a good bisexual will eat your pussy like never before eaten because she KNOWS your pussy. Men just want to stick their penis in it, fuck it for a few minutes and shoot their wad in it.

    Try, Women and then sometimes men !

  • If you ask the guy, he'll tell you he's the best. Guys who care would definitely not be bad at sex. No matter who their partner is they should try to do the best if they care they would. If they don't care and they're bad at sex get rid of them or help them let them know what makes you feel good especially if you're helping them an important tool that we have and it's free. Communication use it 👅

  • The reason lezzies have a better sex life is because they already KNOW what it takes to get another girl off!!
    Girls, have you ever bothered to tell you guy what it takes to make you cum? I've been with three girls, so far and, not a single one of them said A WORD to me about what I should do to get them off!!! It's NOT rocket science! You tell us what you want done and, chances are, we'll do it!! How simple is that? We MIGHT have a little trouble if it's something really freaky like, shove your dick in me, wet your finger and stick it in a light socket! Or, put some peanut butter on your dick and let the German Shepard lick it off while I ride your face. Other than that, ask and ye shall receive!!

  • It's a bad guy not a bad race

  • Depends on the guy and his experience

  • Apparently sucking during oral feels good for girls

  • Lots of girls can't be satisfied ever, so it's not the other person's fault. But maybe you might try being bisexual to see if that helps you.

    • nah, I dont want to do that, but would it be a good thing to start bringing toys in the bedroom so me and him can both ensure we're having. a good time?

    • That's fine, but yes toys can be fun in the bedroom. I hope you have fun with that, and it will help :)

  • Only the selfish ones are bad at it.

  • You can't shoose of you are a lesbian or not.
    I bet most guys such in bed but believe they are the best

  • I’d say until you get old older both are terrible.

  • no honey, guys better f. ck you than girls, believe me. these girls didn't meet healty guys.

  • An important aspect to sexual climax is the engagement of the mind, it seems counter productive to go into it telling yourself that you are going to have a bad time.

    I could make you cum, easily.