Girls, do you like anal? Why or why not? What does it feel like?

My dom wants to do anal and I’ve never done it before. He said if I don’t want to do it that’s fine and that I shouldn’t force myself to do something for him that I don’t like cause consent is sexy. I am very hesitant to try it but knowing he wants to do it kinda makes me feel bad. I’m thinking in the far future I might be ready but I’m not sure. I talked to him about it and he told me he’d go slow with lots of lube along with a variety of other things he’d be doing to me that undoubtedly turned me on. I want to please him, naturally, but I’m pretty scared to do so. I’ve gotten feedback from a few friends and coworkers, some say they like it, others it’s a hard no. Thoughts?
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  • Women who don't love anal typically fall into one of both of two categories. The first are those who have a mental aversion to just the idea of anal. One of your female responders here is a great example (the one who wrote "It's vile, filthy, disgusting and totally unhygienic."). Even if it felt amazing for her, she would never enjoy it because of her irrational mental aversion to it.

    The other group are those who have tried anal and had a bad experience with it. Unfortunately, this is really common because most people still don't understand how to prepare for anal, so they try it for the first time unprepared and it is, of course, painful and unpleasant. It's like someone trying to do the splits before spending the time to stretch and tone the appropriate muscles. Of course it's going to hurt. But when a gymnast does the splits it doesn't hurt at all, because her muscles are prepared for it. The muscles in your ass are no different. Women (and men) who enjoy anal simply have muscles that are in much better condition for the experience.

    If you want to try anal, do yourself a favor and get some good water based lube and the appropriate training toys and spend a few months training your ass while you masturbate. Go slow and stay in your comfort zone. And most important of all, have lost of orgasms while you do it, which will associate the feeling of anal stimulation with pleasure in your brain. You'll enjoy anal sex much more once you are finally ready to try it with your dom.

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  • I’ve only had it a few times. First time hurt a lot, second time was uncomfortable, now I’m beginning to like it but takes some getting used to. It’s a very full feeling and can feel very strange but also very intimate. I was really excited to try it and scared too. Only do it if you’re ready and be prepared the first time.

    • Exactly. Use lots of lube and have privacy. It takes time before it gets 👍🏼

    • How old were you when you started trying it?

  • Like trying to put an old iPhone charger into a new iPhone port. It doesn’t fit and isn’t meant to 😣

    Girls, do you like anal? Why or why not? What does it feel like?

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  • Try it on your own first.

    read up on it, especially about dilation as it’s not just about lube.
    find out if you feel okay with it, try different positions.

    if you don’t like it don’t do it, I appreciate the desire to please, however it’s not good when you know the other does not like it.

  • I think the more you talk about it with him, and research ways people prepare for it will help you out. Just remember there is no "time to be ready" for it. When you think you have done some research just give it a try. It's not like he needs to go all the way deep on you the first time.

    Also, try sex toys that can get you ready like a thin highlighter get the feeling of something there. Then move up in size. Get used to working up to bigger things with multiple sessions.

  • Sure, it takes a little getting used to. Not a big deal though.

  • I would suggest maybe later.
    Now you should experiment with toys first so you get used to it.
    Your Dom sounds like he cares about you, which is great. He will go slow and easy.
    But it is a very different sensation than the vagina... enjoy.

  • No.
    It's vile, filthy, disgusting and totally unhygienic.
    N/A.

    • Vile? Yeah it's not everybody's thing but you don't need to badmouth someone else's sexual preferences that have nothing to do with you.

  • Some wonen are dead set against it wuthout even trying it. My ex wife was one of them, then all of a sudden she suggested we try it, and then she wanted it all the time after that.
    I can understand that some women don't like it and may have had a bad experience with guys who don't take enough care to do it well. You man sounds like a considerate lover and if its something you'd consider trying, definitely do it with someone you trust and is considerate. My philosophy is always try something once.

  • Just try it. Get a small butt plug or let him penetrate you with his fingers. It should not be painful.

  • Try it yourself first. Insert a finger and see how it feels. If it feels good, try something a little larger, a butt plug if you have one, or a dildo. If it feels good to you, then try anal with your guy. Talk with him first about it and set your ground rules. Make sure you use lots of lube, and have him go slow. And, if at any time you are uncomfortable, just tell him to stop. Enjoy!

  • i love it n do it all the times honey n trust me u will love it once u get hold of it

  • I think ita upto you... but if you want to experiment he is doing the right things by building upto it.

  • I love anal. I will not say no

  • don't dive into it blind finger your butt first then move up to a butt plug training kit it has different sizes. ease yourself into the idea most guys will force their way in and go harder and faster, I have also had amazing experience with bisexual men they understand what it's like so they are gentler and it feels amazing

  • Love love love it

  • It's really about comfort. My girlfriend likes it, but says that it also makes her feel like she has to shit.

  • If he is your Dom then you should be obeying him...

    • Yes I obey my dom but consent and making sure both parties are ok is key in a dom/sub relationship. And since I’m a brat that just further justifies consent since we have lots of punishment rounds. He doesn’t want to hurt me or anything do anything I don’t like

  • Your guy seems to be wise and caring. He will fuck your anus slowly and carefully. You will definitely love it.

  • I don't like

  • Do some proper research on how to build up to anal sex for the first time it's a long process of anal play and toys to get you ready to finally take a dick in there with no pain.

  • Do you like it or not?

  • I have not much experience with it so can't give you advice on that but it wouldn't matter anyway. You need to go with your feelings. If you are interested but need a bit more time then that's what it is and what you're guy should respect

    • Same here and totally agree

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