Girls, I'm a pre-op transwoman who intends to get surgery in the next couple of years, but sex as a woman terrifies me. I just need a friend.

[Anonymous]

After having been raped, sex just seems so.... Violent, especially for the receptive partner. While the idea of living with the parts I have is unbearable, the idea of only ever being able to be a receptive partner scares me too (not that I've been anything but in the last 10 years)... What's worse is that I know that if I'm going to have any kind of happy healthy relationship with a man, and I'm not much into the ladies, he is going to expect sex.

Its not much of a take, but it's what's ping ponging around my head and has me worked up... I guess I just need someone to talk to to convince me it's more good than bad.