I am a gay man and an exclusive bottom who just loves getting fucked in the ass. If done right, anal sex does not really hurt at all, but can be a great source of pleasure for the person receiving it.
The key to success is physical and mental preparation. The physical part requires a clean hole and a lot of lubrication... The mental part is about relaxing your body and your asshole. Once your hole relaxes, it can stretch beyond your wildest imagination to help take your man's cock into you...
A butt-plug may also help. This has been one of my biggest helpers to stretch my hole in order to be able to accommodate guys with really thick cocks. To that end, I'd recommend starting with a small enough plug that you can wear at the beginning. But, it should still be thick enough so you can feel the walls of your asshole stretching a little. After wearing that for a few days, you can gradually move to the next larger size, and then increase the size of the plug to really thick ones that you could not have accommodated at the beginning. This way, I've been able to enjoy really humongous cocks in my ass. I sure hope you will, as well!..
About your question on size comparison, once you get used to being fucked by a big cock, smaller ones will not really satisfy you anymore. This has been the case for me. As I have been able to accommodate and eventually enjoy really thick and long cocks, I could not really feel as much the guys with smaller dicks inside my anal walls anymore.
Please feel free to write back if you have any more questions. Good luck!..
I never got any pleasure if he was too big cos it just hurt too much. My partner is 7inches and I think it’s average in thickness and it feels amazing but any bigger n I don’t think I’d like as much.
If your not experienced in anal invest in a set of training plugs before even trying to take his dick
If if truly is "absolutely giant" then it very likely will hurt.
You gotta remember that you're stretching a muscle there, a muscle whose sole purposes is to stay closed for the overwhelming majority of the time. Have you done any preparation? You absolutely need to do that before actually having sex like that. Even if he had a small penis of recommend "training" (I can think of no better term) on your own first, plugs et al would help there. The prepwork for both that and the actual act includes warming up and possibly loosening, in some form or another.
Now, as to what's the difference: It is true that larger ones can be very uncomfortable or even painful (which is why I personally refuse those), especially if done incorrectly. I think that somewhat below average is, at least for me right now, the best size, as it is long enough and wide enough then to be very enjoyable.
What kind of preparation do you suggest? I am so nervous and plan to get drunk on the day and use a bunch of lubricant. I really want him to fuck me in my ass and it sounds so hot but i am scared at the same time. What are your suggestions.
Suggestions: Don't get drunk. If you need it for confidence, the follow the other steps I'll list doubly so, but I wouldn't recommend intoxication. Prep work before any insertion: Cleaning: This should be self explanatory. Normally surface cleaning (wet wipes) is sufficient, though if you recently were / soon will be on the toiled I'd recommended some form of internal cleaning as well. Warming up / loosening: Ever taken a run? First you jog for three minutes, then sprint for two. That gets your muscles warmed up, so you can stretch before the actual run. The anal sphincter is a muscle. When something is inserted it's being stretched out. When I say warming up you can take that physically. Rubbing against it eases it and physically warms it up. It's a muscle you can't control yourself, so unless you ease it first it will stay shut. To ease it a rimjob is the procedure I'd recommend, or aforementioned light rubbing if there is no partner.
Prep work before the first anal sex: Stretching: Should be self explanatory. The sphincter had the sole job of staying shut. It was not made to accommodate a large object prying it open. As such I'd recommend you prep yourself, over some days or weeks, with either fingers that you use to spread the sphincter until you can reach the desired size or, preferably, some combination of plugs and dildos that grow larger over time. What needs to be ensured during any insertion: Pace: Don't just go all in. Put the first bit in and let the partner adjust. It's a weird feeling. Then go a bit deeper and wait again. Adjust as necessary, over time the pace will increase, as is to be expected. Personally I found pulling out to be the weirdest feeling, just as a heads up. Lubrication: The more, the merrier. Protection: I'd highly recommend condom use. Relaxation: Unless the passive partner is both mentally and physically relaxed penetration will be unpleasant, painful, or impossible.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!I think it's about how much it stretches the sphincter muscles (there's two). The depth I think it would feel deeper in the fact more of your anal canal is being filled and stimulated and those nerves in there are pretty sensitive. But the biggest issue I feel most people that engage in anal sex (taking it) is the stretch of those sphincter muscles. If you're not used to that much stretch, than it's going to feel somewhat unnatural perhaps or surprising. Hurting or not depends on the person. But if you're worried, you should work on training your anus to be used to that amount of stretching and accommodating the size difference. So butt plugs with different size graduations, as well, there is a type of toy that inflates once inside and it manually can be pumped and the valve closed so then that size is regulated so you can get used to each size difference at your leisure. Or, you guys can practice either you on your own or with him on training your ass to accommodate bigger sizes such as manual play in that area while increasing the amount of insertion or size of insertion is used, or just frequency at a slow pace.
But LUBE is very important regardless.
Everyone has their preferences. Some live for the stretched and almost painfully full feeling, but im not one of them.
This is sickening
how big is he? make sure to practice and prepare before you actually do it or you won't enjoy it as much
7.9 inch. WHat kinda practices? I am new to this.
in my last relationship i had she was able to take my whole big guy and i am above 9.5" inches big and 5.6" inches in girth and thickness
Big and thick
Like your own?
@ZanyInternetName yeah
practice for bigger.
It will defentely hurt... big or small. Prepare well for it. Relax as much as possible and strech up your asshole first with fingers and lube. Alwayd use enough lube hehe
I disagree. "It will definitely hurt" is false as a blanket statement. It must not necessarily hurt. I certainly remember my first time.
What about guy's who like being pegged?
what about them?
I have the same problem, when I ask any woman I'm messing around with about anal its always no cause I'm too big.
Big and thick
I have a 9 inch
I love big dick
Depends on who the guy is if I actually like them and can see myself dating them
I prefer small
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