Girls, Premature ejaculation and few experience: what's better to do?

I'm 21 and i've had just three night stands experience. In both cases girls take the venture. In both cases i came really fast i think in two minutes or less. The first time was terrible she gave me a quick blowjob i was almost going to cum and when we started to have sex i came immediately after two push inside her (she hasn't had the time to finish to say "tell me when you're about to cum"): super dissapointing for both of us, but i gave to her oral to try to fix. The second time, with another girl, i've cum during the blowjob always less then two minutes, but when she saw that i was still hard she's told me to penetrate her and we had a really wonderful and long sex (around 35/40 minutes). But the second time i had sex with this girl it was the worst experience: i've cum even faster with the blowjob and i couldn't had again erection, she worked a lot on it, but when i reached it again i've immediately cum again while she was giving me oral. That day i was really nervous and i've met her with the idea of doing even better than the first time and maybe this influenced me, i don't know. Even if i've had these experiences i still feel myself like a virgin (don't say that male can't be virgin: i feel a virgin mentally). What do you suggest to me? What can i do to do better in bed and satisfy her? And is it a problem if i came with oral to last longer later? Someone told me to stop when i start to have the feeling of the orgasm, but even if i stop i cum really soon later. I don't know what to do.
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  • I used to cum quickly when I first started having sex, but it was ok because I could go over and over right away. Later though when I was married my now ex would withhold sex as a way to take things out on me. That caused me to cum really really fast, like within a few thrusts. It was partly because I wasn't having regular sex, but most if it was mental and the confidence I lacked from her abusive behaviors. I was so desperate to have sex and have her like me that I was almost to climax before I got my cock out. So, I believe a lot of it is mental and some if it physical. You should talk to your partner and see if she would be ok helping you with frequent sex, so that you can develop confidence. Talk to her and let her know that you need her to express her desire for you. One technique I read about was to have get fully erect and have sex and as soon as you think you are going to cum stop completely. Let your cock go flaccid and go do something non sex related for a while. Then do it again and try to go 1 or 2 strokes longer. Try this several times and probably ejaculate at times in between sex sessions. This is supposed to help you take sex and you level of excitement less seriously in a sense and help calm you. I think like anything practice makes perfect. And don't worry about it too much, that will make it worse. Also, I say don't try and hold back in the middle if sex, it just makes the tension 10 times worse for me. Now I have a lot of and sometimes I cum too quickly, but fir the most I have the confidence in myself that I don't feel like I desperately need to have sex. If any of that makes sense.

  • Hello, i have this problem too my friend. If you can get on an SSRI (anti depressant) they work for some people also cock rings try a ring first before meds. Foreplay is essential a boner and ejaculation is a total mind control game. When fucking her pulling out when you get half way to jizzing eat her out or tease her endrogenous zones, she will love the tease of holding your dick back from her when all riled up.

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  • My cousin and I were left alone together babysitting the other kids while at the lake house our parents rented. We were watching tv and as I reached over him to get the remote we kissed, before we I knew it we were getting all hot and heavy taking off our clothes to have sex, I pulled his penis out and he exploded in my hand. He appologised and we went back to watching tv.

  • Strictly theory: I read that doing kegel help. Give it a try?

    • Kegels help hold back the physical aspect of orgasm or helps stop cum from cumming out, but that just increases the sexual tension. As soon as you start again your ready to cum. It's very mental and calm and relaxed mind is what helps

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  • It will get better with experience