Girls who "like" porn?

Well, this is the situation. Four years ago I was in an incredibly toxic and bad relationship. I lost my virginity to my ex-boyfriend and... it was an important issue for me but for him it was nothing so I felt used and I closed myself (literally) to sex. I actually developed something called vaginismus. Over the years I focused on my university, work, friends, family and put that issue aside. However, some time ago I felt that it was time to take sexual power again and try to know that part of me, it has been revealing and somewhat strange but exciting. What happens is that I haven't had sex with anyone since that relationship, mainly because I need to share an emotional bond with that person (and my town seems to be full of idiots) in addition to the fact that mentally and physically I can't seem to accept those touches of no one even if he longs for it. So I opted for porn, it's private and comfortable for me but sometimes I think maybe it's a bit "loser" on my part, girls don't usually talk about it much and guys can take it in another way so it's been difficult (impossible) to express it. Should I drop my fears and go out with someone?
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  • As a porn watcher myself I genuinely think that watching porn isn't natural or good especially long term wise, and I'm trying to get rid of it honestly because I miss how I felt at the beginning of my relationship (I'm 20 now we've been on and off since we were 17) back when I had never watched porn, it desensitizes (both sexually and emotionally not just sexual) you like crazy to shit that you would have loved otherwise, so yea drop it, my advice would be to look at the guy's overall personality, if you know he's a player don't fuck yourself over and try and date him (regardless of what he tells you that's the main issue here) , at least at first go with someone you like but overall isn't that type of guy, just to get yourself back emotionally ready, then as you get more comfortable you'll feel better about the entire process...

    • thank you for your advice

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  • you shouldn't drop your fears, cause your fears are there for a reason. they protect you from a danger that's real. but i think it would be appropriate to risk it, cause not every guy is like that and watching porn isn't really a problem in this context in my opinion. so in essence i think you shouldn't stop being scared. you should be scared but do it anyway.

    • Thank u

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  • To me a "Loser" is somebody who hurts other people or goes around lying, cheating and has kids that they neglect, or they have no life so they gossip about others constantly. Being loser really has nothing to do with porn unless you're into watching illegal, hurtful, disrespectful stuff that would disgust anyone with a heart.

    • Agreed

    • I'm sorry, my first language is not English and maybe I'm misusing the language. when I wrote "loser" I was referring to the feeling of feeling pathetic about it, I mean maybe I'm giving too much importance to the fact that I was wrong with whom I had sex for the first time, many people in the world do it and have closed me... therefore, it makes me feel a bit silly... Thank you very much for your words and advice.

    • I guess if sex was something that had absolutely no consequences it might be considered "Pathetic" for anyone to choose an alternative such as using porngraphy to masturbate with. The reality is that sex is serious business with consequences that can lead to pregnancy, sexually transmitted infections, or possibly relationships and attachment with new people. You shouldn't feel pathetic about using porn to get sexual release until you find a partner. I personally think it's better than being sexually frustrated and then jumping into bed with the wrong people out of desperation.

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  • Yea more watch than admit to watching. How do guys take it a bad way?

    • as something more... dirty

    • Tbh any guy who judged a girl as being dirty just because they watch porn seems ignorant to me. Wouldn’t that be like saying she masturbates so she must have a dirty mind?

    • by the way that’s awesome you decided to take back your power! Must feel exciting

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  • I think you shouldn't force yourself. It'll come when you're ready. In the meantime you could do research. Read and watch stuff to get a feel of what you think you might like.

  • I think you should find a suitable man for you. you must let go of your fears

  • Its normal and very natural, girls watch porn as much as guys, just mostly not accept or express.