Girls, would it be mean if a new boyfriend picked on you for your feet smelling bad? Do you think she overreacted?

I've been seeing a girl for about 3 weeks. Yesterday she came over after work, bank manager, still wearing her heels and skirt. She kicked her heels off and laid on my couch, so I walked over to her and picked her feet up and set them on my lap to massage. They were a little stinky, so I jokingly said, "wow, your feet stink". She immediately pulled them away and started bitching at me. Saying things like, "NICE! I come to see you after work and you're going to pick on me"? I told her I was just kidding but she was pretty upset. Do you think she overreacted or that I'm a jerk? I'm also thinking there might be more to it. Like maybe she isn't that into me.

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  • Yeah you’re a jerk. Pointing out peoples flaws aren’t funny and actually a form of emotional abuse, you can look it up. Especially when you haven’t even dated more than 3 weeks this just isn’t ok and no matter if you didn’t mean anything bad by it or think it’s a big deal it is and you’re just ruining things for ypurself by making her feel insecure and uncomfortable around you. Now she’ll always worry about and obsess over how she smells, especially when she’s around you. No just the feet either, but in general too and she won’t feel comfortable and like she can be herself around you.

    • Yeah. I think she is no longer that comfortable around me, like you said. I feel terrible. I tried telling her I was just joking but she didn't care. Said it was "rude and disgusting" for me to say that. Thank you for your honesty.

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  • She obviously is into you that is why she came right after work.. but you hurt her feelings, maybe she over reacted but women are sensitive. We are not men, we don't want to be your buddy who you tease and bully..

    • Thank you! That was a very thoughtful opinion. The only reason I question if she likes me as much as I thought she did, is because of her reaction. I would think if she really did like me she would laugh when I said it, knowing I was teasing or even teasing me with her feet. But she got pretty upset. But it could be too early in our relationship to tease like that and like you said, it could have embarrassed her because she could be the sensitive type.

    • Yeah it is defo too early for that lol She is just learning and getting to know you so she needs to feel fully comfortable before she can handle the jokes.. but she might also be the type of girl who doesn't like jokes like that.. I would say just focus on being more romantic lol You should watch that tho because me and my husband started of friends and we always teased and joked with each other, but as time when on it is like all he ever says to me is rude stuff.. he says he is joking but he never says anything sweet or nice to me anymore so its really not good for a relationship.

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  • The thing is, you know you're a jerk for saying something so unnecessary and so totally insensitive !

    I also think you've posted this question tongue in cheek, you know full well she's not into you. Lastly - you're definitely not a romantic guy are you, you're probably well aware of that?

    • I'll be the first to admit I'm not romantic. I've been told that a lot! But, I honestly do think she overreacted! That's why I question (now) whether she actually likes me as much as I thought. If she really liked me, she would have laughed or even teased me with them. She wouldn't have completely blew her lid!

    • You're lack of sensitivity is actually kind of sad tbh ! Sorry but I can't help applauding her for blowing her lid at such an undiplomatic and romance-deflating comment !

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  • this is disgusting ahahaah