Giving sex education to children?

Question

If you are a parent what do you think about giving sex education to your children and how to tell them about sex? So that your children do not deviate from the path of teenage life.

AmandaYVR · Accepted Answer

I don't have kids so I don't have any specific advice on how to talk to them about it. My parents didn't tell me anything, ever (and that was fine with me. They were doing it like rabbits so I didn't want anymore sex stuff from them.) As a teenager I used to listen to a sex call-in radio show for 2 hrs once a week and it was fascinating and informative. I remember a sex ed. class when I was about 14 or so. It was co-ed and there was a bunch of snickering, sure, but it felt like the mature and responsible way to look at it all, so I would highly recommend this at this age. With children who are younger than this, I have no idea. There's a pretty iconic book about it that parents use - I forget the name. But things are a bit different now, aren't they? Although the availability of porn is not an education. Maybe an eye opener, if anything, but it probably leads them down the exact path you don't want them to go. The average age that both boys and girls have first seen online porn is 9. If I were you, I'd put some locks on their devices and cut them off at the pass as much as you can.

So other than that brief class I had when I was a teenager, I had no other formal education in it and that was fine. It wasn't a problem. My boyfriend at 16 begged me to have sex with him but I wouldn't (he wasn't worth it, wasn't the one to be my first) and even without my parents telling me "don't have sex" I made my own decisions and did the right thing, always responsible/safe. But otoh, I am a believer in education. So you do whatever you think is best. I think you need to be generally open-minded and create an environment so that they feel comfortable coming to you if need be. But if you don't have 'the talk', if you raised them right, they may be responsible anyway.

And p. s. whether you have a boy or girl, at some point when they're teenagers you should let them know that blowjobs should not be no big deal. Too many young boys are expecting them and pressuring girls into them nowadays. It's a competitive market out there you know.

1Sophisticatedme · Accepted Answer

I think its totally cool to educate young children but at the age of 13 and up, bc thats where a young bodies starts to prepare them in becoming to an adult, and children now a days will be wondering whats happening to their bodies, and feel awkward towards their hormones as their bodies develops. Its a very important issues in a young childrens life and mind... and its perfectly healthy to discuss sex education with young youth... i think anyways.

SpiritBear · Accepted Answer

Sex is a huge part of life for most people, so I do believe that stuff like that really do need to be taught at younger ages, because shame and despair is all too common in the world of kids thinking they're doing something heinous or that they're dying, or whatever. They should know what's gonna happen to their own body. I sure wish I was taught better and earlier in sex ed, cuz it left me scared for many years, and all I got were fucking books to tell me what was going on. This stuff should be taught just as any other class, in person and make sure you understand it.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

As a Health and Physical Education teacher, I teach children about sex education from the age of 12-13 and onwards.
It's amazing how much knowledge some of the kids have already whereas there are some who have no idea at all.

Letting the children know that unprotected sex isn't evil is important information to share as well because in the future they'll be curious and try it just like most of us did as teenagers.

DizzyDesii · Answer

I didn't get the talk til 22 🤦‍♀️ I’d give it to my kids about age 13 when they hit middle school

purplepoppy · Answer

Just because you give lessons and provide information doesn't mean people will actually learn. You can dedicate hours to teaching about contraception and some teens will still get pregnant and blame lack of education.

ushagomez · Answer

I’m not a parent but I believe all children should be told about sex as they ask questions of their parents throughout their childhood. That’s where you learn a little at a time, at an appropriate time and there is no great mystery just a proper understanding

JackSmy · Answer

The schools are incompetent, and they shouldn't be required, as they will FCK it up!!! Sex education is a Parent's job, and for some, there is a religious part.

chriscdi · Answer

dont they do this at school

Iron_Man · Answer

That's for when you get into the 7th or 8th grade not for children

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

The most important lesson for a girl is to remain virgin till marriage. The most important lesson for a boy is to love the girl cause she ain't made for sex only.

JimboGB · Answer

Sex and my child would be incompatible in every sense. I would do what many parents fail to do and be there to protect and support my child. No need to sexualize a child's mind.