Giving yourself orgasms isn't satisfying?

[Anonymous]

When I first learned how to give myself orgasms I thought I was in heaven. With my vibrator I can blow one in like five minutes. But even if I give myself multiple orgasms, I just don't feel sexually satisfied. Because what really satisfies me sexually is having another person, even if he makes me feel good but doesn't make me orgasm. Now that I know how I've been doing it a lot with my vibrator, but it just ends up being a few minutes of pleasure and ten minutes after an orgasm it feels like nothing happened. Doing it with someone else is just so different and way more thrilling...and something to think about for hours or days. It is a memory and all that. A sex toy can't really turn me on. So to all the men who are threatened by vibrators...even though they give an extremely intense sensation, you shouldn't be! Anyone else in my boat about doing it yourself?

[kheserthorpe]

Of course, otherwise people wouldn't go through such trouble to have sex.

There are multiple reasons people want sex, to be honest, I think 'desire to orgasm' is pretty low on the list. Sex is an -urge- for most of us, its not just about the pleasure. We want to connect with someone, to be with someone we desire, to feel desired by them, to have our own sexuality embraced and recognized and accepted, etc.

[AustinMan]

I once had a shrink say to me: Masturbation gets you orgasms but you don't meet many nice people that way. He was right. Sex is about a lot more than orgasm. It's about the intimacy and, for some of us, the kinks and play and the afterglow.

[Anonymous]

The thing about feeling like nothing happened after the orgasm I totally understand. I just learned how to give myself orgasms too. But I totally agree on being with someone is so much more fulfilling then you and a toy even if it means no orgasms. Actually I was curious because every time I orgasm after it feels like I'm having mini cramps. Does that happen to you?

[Asker]

No cramps. My vagina just feels sensitive to touch and I can get more orgasms if I try but then that fades.

[AustinMan]

There was another question a girl posted about cramping after orgasm and two guys suggest seeing a GYN. I think maybe that's a good idea for you, too.

[cun7n1nja]

And this is EXACTLY why real men aren't something that can be replaced by toys like so many seem to think, who feel insecure and threatened by a girl using toys on her own time, lmao. I mean toys are great, but it's not even close to the same thing, not even really comparable. It's like apples and oranges. =]

[Asker]

Exactly. When I use my vibrator, it doesn't feel anything close to sexual gratification. It just feels like a good feeling separate from anything related to sex. Having sex or even heavy making out and feeling up would satisfy me more than multiple orgasms with my vibrator, as long as it was a guy I felt a strong attraction to. I can't even seem to get a good mental fantasy going with my vibrator. They are both such separate things to me.

[cun7n1nja]

Pretty much. And having a giving lover makes all the difference in the world too, even when you don't always get off. The emotional feel of someone who cares about your pleasure as much as you care about theirs. I didn't always get off with my ex, and the times I didn't were still more satisfying to me than a few minutes with the vibe or showerhead, haha.

[Anonymous]

an orgasm to me is just that, an orgasm. I get satisfied whether its from sex, a toy or just mastubation. personally if a guy sucks in bed the intimacy isn't gonna compare to an orgasm. he can be the most intimate person ever but if the sex sucks I'm gone

[sixstring]

Agreed. Orgasming through a girl is so much more satisfying.

[nina001]

i never satisfied with single orgasm.but masturbating over 2 hours and having multiple orgasms and nipple/breast orgasms is full satisfier for me.

[Jager66]

its better with the right woman but I can satisfy my self perfectly fine without one.

[Asker]

So you feel just as good after masturbation than after sex?

[Jager66]

sorta, sex can fill a need masturbation doesn't but if sex is not available, or if its sex just to get off, masturbation is more then enough to replace it.

[Anonymous]

I have a masturbation technique that almost guarantees me an intense, multi contraction orgasm in 5 minutes or so with very little effort. So long as I come, the most amateurish skin on skin handjob from a sweet naked girl is worlds better.