Guy I hooked up with called me a slut to his friends?

Why would he sleep with me if he thought I was a slut? I’m so embarrassed he’s telling people what happened
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  • Well, you just learned a valuable lesson about guys your age. I HOPE that since you know he said that he won't be fucking you anymore?

    Hard lesson. As a very young guy, had a friend (sad to say at this point) who was the same kind of asshole,
    regarding girls. He SHOWED me his underwear, (bloody) after he screwed a neighbor girl, obviously a virgin) Guys in your age group use getting laid as 'counting coup" (look that up) and SOME never get past that point. I PERSONALLY, as a very young person, and later did not do that, and many men DON"T.

    You Gotta be more selective about the men you have sex with, as you will end up with that kind of loser.

    Sorry, that happened to you, sweet pea

Most Helpful Guy

  • I'm sorry this has happened to you, but take this as a lesson for randomly hooking up with a guy or just hooking up with any guy in general.

    Not everyone is a nice person, this guy sounds like he's not.
    If you've just met him and you went straight to sex, then this is the risk you take unfortunately doing that kind of thing.
    Just try to maintain calmness and move on with your life. At the end of the day he's just saying words about you, I know words can hurt, but you can always use your own words to challenge such a derogatory branding if anyone says anything to you.

    Be safe and I wish you all the best.

    • Excellent for a young guy of 20, mature beyond your years. I told her the same only in somewhat more crass terms. These fucking guys, ruin men's image for girls that age.

    • @Bricealan Agreed 100%. Thank you man, I really appreciate the kind words!

Most Helpful Girls

  • Unfortunately younger guys (not all, but many) like to brag to their friends about their sexual conquests, usually to elevate their standing among their peers, but at your expense and it’s very wrong, so I’m sorry. You can try and stop this the best you can, like telling him to his face with witnesses around that you didn’t hook up (think Maddy in Euphoria lol), and threaten to report to his parents, principal, social media, etc what he’s doing. Or you can just ignore it, wait for the next topic of discussion to pop up and be done with it. Regardless of your decision, I’d say try to make better choices going forward. Pick a guy you can commit to.

    • Great advice, ANON, she does have recourse against that kind of trash. Thank you

  • Sadly some guys do that, especially younger ones. They like to brag, think it gives them a social standing. It's wrong, but not all people are decent. It's difficult to deal with, if your at school you could see if teachers will intervene. If it gets brought up with you tell people he was terrible.

    • If she is in HS, she may have recourse with the Administration. I worked with a moron in a MFG company that did worse regarding a coworker, and he got his stupid ass fired on the spot.

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  • If you engage in sex with people who you do not know and cannot trust, you will continue to have stories told about you and those who know you will eventually begin to look at you differently. When older people suggest that you slow down and not rush into a physical relationship, they are not simply trying to deny you physical gratification; they are suggesting that you be more careful so that you can continue to be proud of yourself and so that you won't develop a sordid reputation.

  • I think you answered your own question,

  • He slept with you because he thought you were a slut. Move on. He's a jerk. Be more discriminating with the men you choose to share your body with in the future. This, too, shall pass. If he is doing extra by slandering you to your co-workers or in your community, you may consider filing a defamation lawsuit against him through civil court.

    • Probably better advice than I gave her. Never thought about the filing of the slander suit but wonder if the moron (whatever his age) would be subject to that as a "minor' if he is a minor. She is under 18.

  • Just say he was bad at sex and ignore him

  • What he said was accurate since you did a hook up, but he is the same. He is also a slut/player, etc. since he did the same thing.

  • If you just jumped into bed with him when you first met him maybe he is right.,

  • He's an immature A-Hole.

  • Some men do that, in fact me and my friends do it often, to show off.

  • This is a wonderful example of the double standard surrounding sexuality between men and women

    • Men and women are different. Women have the job of keeping sex to guys who will commit, men have the job of trying to get it. I don’t personally sleep around and don’t support it but I do hate these “durr men and women are the same so therefore” logic comments

  • Are you somewhat promiscuous?

  • Unfortunately that's what happens when girls have sex with guys that aren't their boyfriend. People think they are sluts. Don't give yourself away to shit bag dudes who just want to get in your pants and that won't happen.

    • If this is a guy you hang out with regularly, then he's a piece of shit. If you had sex with him the first time you hung out with him, I recommend that you do not do that again. You shouldn't have sex with guys you don't know, it's asking for trouble.

    • Basically, the equivalent of what I told her. Hate to hear young girls get shit on like that. Leaves them feeling dumped on.

  • Keep that to yourself, but get rid of that clown.

  • If you sleep with guys outside of a relationship you are pretty much a slut and word will spread in the male community, they will do everything to get a piece of that so best turn the ship around now and wait for a good boyfriend

  • Just wanted to see if you do it with him

  • that what some very (too) young men call girl they sleep with it stupid they think it get them honner top dog more like dog poo if you ask me, a nice boy would only say he enjoy your company and never what he may have done,

  • Same thing happened to me too. I got called a slut by a girl after I hooked up with her. And worse, she’s my wife now.

    • Well, see... You deserved it LOLOLOL 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🤷‍♂️

    • @Bricealan I really did have it coming…. literally and figuratively

  • Yes it is a red flag.

  • He’s an asshole. Start telling people his dick is tiny.

  • he's just trying to brag and trying to at cool make sure it is the last time you sleep with him

    • My advice exactly

  • Guys your age, are not mature

    Sorry you're having to go through that. That's why I don't think girls and guys your age should be having sex

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