Guy stuck his hand down my pants during a make out on the third date. Was this unreasonable of him?

[Anonymous]

I've been talking to this guy for a month, and then on the third date, things got heated. We started making out. I asked him if I could touch his crotch on the outside of his pants. He said ok, but for some reason he thought it would be ok to stick his hand down my butt crack after that. I never once touched him beneath his clothes, and me asking if I could just rub his dick on the outside of his pants was not consent for him to touch my bare parts. Am I in the wrong for being upset/not wanting to see him again?

[Finchie40]

The thing is we aren’t mind readers , so if a girl is making out with me and asks to rub my cock I am going to assume she wants to fuck as well , so I am going to just go for it , I am not thinking that’s all she wants to do if she stops me I will just assume she is a tease

[AviatorTom]

Simple answer... yes, you are wrong. You initiated sexual contact by rubbing his crotch, which turns him on, and all he did was touch your butt. Must be another reason to stop seeing him.

[summiter]

He should have asked... but you were touching his dick!! Did he have a boner when you touched him?

[artgorgeous]

Ask him to stick his finger, that would be super fun.

[Dargil]

Yes, it was.

[FunkyMonkee]

Only if it was something you didn't want him to do.

[TheSpaceGnome]

This is a grey area. While I can kind of understand why you were upset, I also understand why he thought you were giving the green light to touch anywhere.

You asked to rub his dick and did so. Outside the pants or not, thats a clear invitation to sexual touching.

It would be a good idea to be more clear next time. But if you love him enough to make out and rub his crotch, why exactly does it bother you that he did that? What is your specific concern on the matter?

[Alex-Snow]

You kinda opened up the door when you touched his dick even with pants on. He should probably have asked you however... but what was your body language telling him? Do you eventually want to have sex with this guy? How old is he?

[Asker]

He's 29. I wanted to.. eventually, but he's blocked me now after telling him that it was a turn off when he put his hands down my backside without asking beforehand.

[Alex-Snow]

Sorry to hear you were blocked that kinda sucks. If you can't contact him maybe it is time to move on?

[gorydetails]

Yes, you're in the wrong. You didn't convey your expectations.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Yeah, you are in the wrong. What you expect if you are touching and rubbing a man's penis?

Don't be silly. You're an adult.

[KrakenAttackin]

How would you have wanted it to go? A consent letter signed? A quick audio recording of "I consent"? Him begging to shove his hands down your pants?

[In_Trance]

What's wrong with you?

[shortster]

Your butt your rules. Did he at least apologize?

[2021biguy]

What's the problem? You wanted to touch him, let him touch you.

[Guido]

What he did would be the next natural progression from you rubbing his crotch. You are free to say at any time that is far enough or only touch me through my clothes. Once you state a boundary has been reached then that is where he must stay.

[LunarEclipse433]

You have to set boundaries for your comfort level

[azgınteke]

what's wrong with that? you're going to make love anyway, it's inevitable...

[Anonymous]

Yes you just dont do that in front of a woman girl anytime.

[Anonymous]

3rd date leads to sex usually so not unusual

[Asker]

Not if you have standards

[Opinion Owner]

Usually making out at least, usually the 5th date leads to sex in most cases lesser waiting for marriage

[Anonymous]

Make it clear to him. Some people don’t know what you’re thinking all the time.