Guys, can you remain just friends with a former friends with benefits when sex was good?

How do I know if they are really just friends? They write less but always a few times per year. I think they couldnt be together in a real relationship as she was his best friend’s ex but they have real feelings.

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Also she got some full body orgasms I never got. My boyfriend keeps telling me it would be so good for him if I would get it from sex only but it just doesn’t work with me without other stimulation
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  • Can you be friends with a former friends with benefits? Yes, even if the sex was good. Boundaries and transparency are vital, as well as the health of the new relationship. Having feelings for someone isn't wrong; it's how those feelings are acted upon (or not) that determines the health of the other relationships. That's entirely between you and your boyfriend in regards to what constitutes a legitimate boundary or violation therein.

    In regards to the pleasure, it's a terrible idea to compare your arousal to another. Pleasure, especially with women, is so incredibly subjective and involves so much more than 'press here, rub there'. Your boyfriend and his former partner may have had good intimacy, been communicative with desires, ipen to new things, and generally enjoyed each other. If you've got it in your head that he's crossing a line somewhere, that itself can be enough to derail your intimacy. I'm assuming you know your body and are comfortable with it, because not knowing yourself can inhibit arousal in the moment as well. You mention 'other stimulation', why is that? If you two are intimate, and you want more stimulation, why not do it? What's the caveat?

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  • Yeah I have had sex with a few girls I ended up not wanting relationships with. We are still friends. With one the sex was really good, but would have been a bad relationship…so we are still friends. Both of us moved on, we have no interest in sex with each other anymore. I don’t think you have anything to worry about but doesn’t hurt to ask

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  • No, well kinda but once you have enjoyed someone sexually there’s always that in your mind. So yeah he might just care about her as a friend and your relationship is priority but he still thinks about sex with her so it’s a big temptation.

  • If my boyfriend was telling me about sex with her then no way in hell would I accept them as "just friends" but I would never accept anyone he fucked before as friends... I don't know I probably could never date a guy like that..

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  • I have. Sure the sex was fantastic for both of us but we both realized we did not want a serious relationship with each other and we both started having sex and dating other people but remained good friends who shared some great orgasms together.

  • Yes, you can. Whether sex was good or bad.

  • Yes, and to be honest I found her a job too.

  • I can

  • The answer to your question is that it's very possible to stay casual friends with a former friend with benefits. It sounds like he keeps that friendship at a distance, so I can't imagine it's anything for you to worry about.

  • Yes and still are. My present girlfriend knows. And i know who her past friends with benefits are. We just don't talk about it. Past is past.

    Trust is the main thing. No trust no relationship.

  • Ahhh i don't think so i may be fall in love with that person.

  • based on my ex he couldn't

    I finally had to tell him to stop calling/texting me

  • Yes, it is only sex.

  • No. You're not friends.

  • I could I think. I’m married and remained friends with exes. Haven’t talked to them in a while.

  • Yes, I've remained friends. The spark will never fully go away, but times change and you are adults

  • Men and women can never just be platonic friends unless both parties are not sexually attracted to each other (i. e. both are physically ugly, or the guy is purely gay). Other than that sexual attraction is instinctual and can't be prevented via having social standards of not wanting to smash your "friends".

    Keeping it real.💯

  • why not? if there's non-aids pussy then hell yeah I am down for that

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  • So he’s still cool with someone he used to hook up with and it makes you feel uncomfortable and/or threatened. All I can say is to do what gives you peace of mind. You can’t tell him to cut her off but you also can’t go about your days with his ex hookup and their sex life taking up so much space in your mind. If you’re gonna stay with him thats ok but you should really focus on what’s important. Besides If he intends to cheat there’s no stopping him, even Megan Fox got played.