Guys, do you ever play hard to get? Why/why not?

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Aerolyn · Accepted Answer

I think I have in the past, but unintentionally.

I've had someone that I was involved with in the past tell me about how my lack of intrest is annoying, but attractive.

I never made/make moves, I always have the moves be made on me, but it's only because I've always seen (and the more I get involved the more it just reinforces the beliefs) dating and romance are that aren't worth pursuing, but maybe worth taking on if it so happens to come my way, this was my stance on it all before I ever did anything with anyone.

Now with all the experience I've had I'm pretty much at the point where I actively don't want shit to do with romance, sex and or dating, because my experiences showne that there really ain't much worth value for me to put time and value into those things.

What I got from the following things:

Dating: Trauma

Friends with benefits: Bullshit scenarios that wasn't worth it

Hook ups (Only tried it once): A fucking std (Herpes).

So I'm just at the point where I'm like, fuck it, I've tried and just like how I thought before I even did any of that shit it just ain't for me.

Especially since I'm not really a lovey dovey/romantic person.

Like I can be, but it really takes someone special I guess, I don't know.

Even when dating my ex I would just say shit like "lOVe iS jUst a cHemiCal EmbAlNcE oF tHe bRaIn".

So yeah, when I play hard to get it's more like the person has intrest in me and I just don't have intrest and them 9 times out of 10 and it comes from a place of just not wanting to deal with relationships.

Which is probably a problem, thankfully I got therapy tommrow, if I can even make it because things are about to get hectic asf with work.

NathanDavis · Accepted Answer

nope... I'm easy

my last girlfriend literally said

"was that your girlfriend?" and when I said no, just someone I was chatting with here at the party, she jokingly said "good, now you're mine" so I said alright... lol

and that lasted a few years, lmao

dustybiker · Accepted Answer

I’ve only seen men do that if they are single and currently have several woman trying to get their attention. It buys them time to decide. Players (or men who have been told they are attractive and don’t want to settle) have options.

Jennz6 · Accepted Answer

Pinay, of course they do…lol

Guy13 · Answer

I do not have patience for that game playing in others so naturally I could not behave that way. 😎

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

Not super hard, but I do want to know she's serious, and will offer lesser opportunities as character tests. If she can't be damned to see a fireworks show together in a group as an outing without flaking out at every given turn, she probably isn't organized enough to be wife material.

spartan55 · Answer

Never, and never known any guy to do it. It's stupid and counterintuitive to me. If I like a woman I will go for her.

iiyuizx · Answer

I do. most of the time at least. but it's most likely because I am not interested or want them to get even crazier about me. that is how I manage to make them obsessed with me even tho I am a solid 7/10.

SnowedIn · Answer

No... I'm a peopyplease. Playing hard to get is too hard for me.

Topaz1979 · Answer

I did it as a teen because I didn’t know any better but nowadays if I like a guy I befriend him and then if we click and if he likes me as much as I like him then we date and make things official.

Adam1978 · Answer

No I don't play games. That said I don't make it easy either, I don't spend effort to make their attempts bair fruit. So you can get rejected because you picked the wrong approach.

FriendlyDrugDealer · Answer

Hmm not really, I usually am transparent when it comes to things if you ask the right questions. I don’t like drama or unnecessary situations. If I’m available and I think you’re really awesome, I’ll gladly let the person know

OlderThanILook · Answer

I don't. Girls don't like me enough for that shit 😂

HighValue · Answer

No, that is only for people that are too immature for a relationship. Get to know someone and decide that you are either compatible or incompatible and move on. Playing mind games is not a good way to find a good long term partner.

AviatorTom · Answer

No, that's something women do more than men. Women like to be chased, and men like to chase, but not the other way around.

Dargil · Answer

I have not. If I got an invitation, I accepted or graciously declined it.

xJeremyx · Answer

No. I usually just keep quiet. People have told me they are unable to judge who my crush was. No point playing games.

If I like someone but I know they do not look at me the same way, I just keep quiet. Often, they never find out.

Otherwise, I am upfront and straightforward about it.

RavVid · Answer

Doesn't work for me. Girls move on.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

No, I don't. I'm not an insecure guy, so I don't need to see women trip over themselves to know whether they are actually interested in me.

Andres77 · Answer

Just hold to a standard and be patient

d3n0939 · Answer

I don't play games. But I only met women who played games. Not even a single person who had basic sympathy at least

Sparkie460 · Answer

I have never played hard to get. I thought only women did that.

AndrésC64 · Answer

Obviously I can't speak for all guys. But I don't think that guys do that anywhere near as much as girls. Girls have the luxury of being able to play hard to get, supply and demand.

Havthrills · Answer

I'm not sure, I guess it would help to be chased. Lol. I guess I would never know. Before, I don't think I played hard to get. Do it too much and the person will lose interest.

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