Guys do you ever turn down sex when your girlfriend offers?

[Anonymous]

All in the question - when your girl offers sex do you ever say no?

[TonyRyan]

Yes. Girls get offered/ask and decline for whatever reasons. Guys can too, you women act like we HAVE to jump at every opportunity. Last night you weren't in the mood. Why am I denying you right now? I legit just busted my butt at work for 13 hrs while getting very little sleep and I didn't eat lunch today, forgive me if I'm a little tired atm, give me a bit to relax and you'll get it.

You jump to self-esteem altering issues so fast at first denial that you fail to realize, we are human and have the right to NOT constantly be in the mood.

NOW, that said... it doesn't happen often, lol.

[MrOracle]

I voted "B", but it's fairly rare for me to turn it down (usually only if I'm REALLY tired). I'm usually up for sex, and I really enjoy pleasing my girl, and even if I'm too tired for full-on sex, I'll usually give her some oral or fingering to tide her over.

Still, we're all human, and no one is ready for sex 100% of the time. The occasional turn-down should not be a big deal, but if it's happening all the time, THAT is a symptom of a bigger relationship problem, and needs to be talked about and addressed, or it will fester and get worse until the whole relationship blows up.

[laseredandpierced]

If a guy refuses sex, he is not worth any other effort so dump him on the spot.

[Red_Arrow]

So if he is having diarrhea, you would prefer him to crap all over you to saying not tonight?

[laseredandpierced]

he can take a diah-stop

[Red_Arrow]

You keep talking about you offering your boyfriend sex as if sex was your gift to him. It is not a gift, it is something you share, and you express that when you want it. So at that moment you are asking him to give you something you want.

Sometimes a gal wants it and the guy has good reasons for not then. It should not happen in that case. That would likely be a good time for masturbation.

[kabooms]

That was a beautiful sentiment...

[Red_Arrow]

Thank you @kabooms

[Asker]

What counts as a good reason?

[Red_Arrow]

He comes home from working a grueling overtime shift and is so tired it is work just to eat. His mother just died and he does not feel at all like having sex. He has diarrhea. I mean do you really want him to do it anyway then crap all over you. And there are plenty of other good reasons.

[Asker]

Ok those are definitely good reasons I agree. What if he just says he doesn't feel like it or isn't in the mood? What if he's tired but the girl offers to do the work?

[Red_Arrow]

Believe me, sometimes you can be so tired, her doing all the work is still tough. but it has a better chance. But if she is the horny one, how does her doing all the work satisfy her?

[Red_Arrow]

As for doesn't feel like it or not in the mood, how about if he agrees half of the time and she leaves him alone half the time?

[Hephaestus]

Meh
not a big fan of the whole "offering sex" thing
it should be a mutual build up that has both tearing the others clothes off

[WitchKing]

Very very rarely. Maybe once our twice total of all the girlfriends I've had.

[gobsmacked3]

Not if you do not want hassle after...

But, honestly , if you really like the woman you will always want her, regardless of the situation

[Red_Arrow]

No, not really. If you come home after an extra long day at work and are dead tired to hte point that even eating seems like work, you don't want sex. When you have just had an emotional trauma, you likely will not be interested in sex. If you are very sick and running to the bathroom with diarrhea you will not be interested in sex. So lots of reasons for not wanting it, some not as obvious as others.

[jakeofalltrades]

there have only been like twice that I didn't have sex with her when she really wanted to, and both times I had to be somewhere else soon, otherwise I would never say no

[shavedblls]

I never turn down sex

[Student_31]

yeah, a couple of times.

[Anonymous]

Only when I'm sick or really tired or have a headache or something. But its not like the excuses girls make up so they don't have to have sex, i only do it when i legitimately don't feel good. Sometimes if i feel fine, but I'm just really tired, i will still finger her and/or give her oral so i can at least please her somehow.

[Anonymous]

I don't have a gf but I would sometimes depending if I'm either not in the mood or too tired

[Anonymous]

I have, yes.

[QueenofArcticFoxes]

Why?