GUYS: Do you get nervous and awkward around a girl you only want to sleep with?
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If you are only looking for a hookup how do you act vs. when you have deeper feelings?
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Andres77Master
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I'm married, faithful for 17 years. we had a new female employee. She and I had to work side by side for about 6 months. I'm old enough to be her dad. Impropriety was never a question but she was just the sweetest person, hard working, knowledgeable, good attitude, no drama. Honestly I was just so impressed. So even though y never intended to try anything and I wasn't fantasizing about her she was in my mind a lot. I'd just see her face in my mind all the time. Then she got pregnant and quit. Her husband is a wonderful young man. They both impressed me so much. If my daughters turned out like her I'd be so pleased.
Now she's gone and other stuff floats through my head all day now...
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Asker
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Awww. That's so awesome. So you had a deep admiration. And she didn't make you nervous. I'm guess I'm getting what differences in behaviour romantic vs. Purely sexual triggers.
Andres77
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Sorry, I forgot... yes! Nervous, I never stutter... I was so tongue tied around her, and... I'd still leak a little every day.. I really had to discipline my mind. I always wanted her to remember me as a sweet older guy that respected her and always treated her as an equal professionally, even though I was much older.
Asker
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So it seems nervousness is tied to admiration. Appreciation of the person's character and essence.
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Andres77
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Heaps of admiration... yes. Stuttered, tongue tied, I used cologne on a regular basis instead of once in a while... I don't mean for this to sound bad but let's just say she was not a conventionally pretty girl... but she was one of the most beautiful people I've ever met. When I'd walk in the shop and she'd smile at me I felt like I'd won a prize. Yes, I was attracted to her, I have ED so I seldom get erections any more but I'd leak all day. I'd have to check to make sure I didn't have a wet spot on my pants every day. But I don't fuck around and she was so sweet and her husband was a good man. I wasn't going to let lust or attraction or inappropriate behavior fuck up our lives and I like the idea she always remembers me as a good man. Now I'm getting redundant...
loves2learn
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Wow! Good story. I’m 20 years with the same person, never cheated either. I’ve def had some wild dreams about coworkers and work is reallly awkward the next day. I always like to tell hubs about the dream, but I just say it was about him. 🤣 I’d never act on it, I like to talk about it and I can’t control my dreams. 🤷🏻♀️
Andres77
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@loves2learn oh yes, dreams are a major adjunct to our sex life. She's woken up at 3 am and sat on my face telling me that she dreamt she was in an orgy in a brothel in 18th century France or some raunchy crazy stuff... she just keeps thinking about her dream as I get to work with my mouth.
loves2learn
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Holy shit. That’s hot
Andres77
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@loves2learn dreams have been a wonderful tool in my life
loves2learn
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🥰🥰
loves2learn
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@andres77 We have mirror plans. Just didn’t put them into motion yet Lol
misanthropistkevXper 5
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I will act like the most awkward, lame, weirdest guy you ever met if I really like you like I stutter and everything smh🤦♂️ Only with girls I like I talk to ones I wanna fuck like they’re guys or just be kinda aloof and distant Not in an uninterested uncomfortable way but in a calm, quiet or gentle which from my experience makes then want to even more
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Asker
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This really gives insight. Thanks!!
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loves2learnMaster
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That’s a thing? I guess I never knew this because I don’t see vulvas close up. I can’t even imagine how no lips would work.
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loves2learn
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We forgot the mirror. We got too caught up. Lol. It’s on the list.
Pretty standard thing... a girl you not interested in you can be the life of the party, sound so confident and lead the conversation, make jokes, make them laugh... then with a person you like its... er... hmm.. err.. so.. you errr.. doing much today?
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Asker
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No, I mean would you get nervous around a girl you only want sex from and nothing else.
MrHopper
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hmm... nah probably not... i think as you were not really that invested you be more confident
Asker
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Cool. Got it. If you were "head over heeels" would your nervousness and awkwardness in rease?
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loves2learn
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@mrhopper I find this so endearing. Thanks for sharing.
MrHopper
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I think so, at least from experience i know when i am talking to a girl i like am so boring... but some older woman at work i can laugh and chat with like no tomorrow! and thank you @loves2learn kind words :)
Josh4206Xper 6
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If its a hookup I wouldn't get nervous but when I actually love the person I definitely fo get nervous
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Asker
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Wow! Love... strong word.
loves2learn
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Love it 🥰
Likes2driveMaster
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I get like that either way
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Glasgow55Xper 6
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At my age, I'd sleep with almost every female I meet, so no, I don't get nervous.
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loves2learn
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All the ladies you meet sleep with you? Do elaborate? 🤔 Are they younger than you? Your age group? You are 4 years younger than my dad and I’m having a hard time wrapping my brain around this.
Glasgow55
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@loves2learn All the ladies I meet don't sleep with me, lol. I wish. I'm 66 and I have more sex now than I ever have - and I've always had lots. My wife and I have a great sex life.
loves2learn
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Lol. Do you? That’s awesome for you and your wife (I’m barfing inside thinking about my parents). Do you add others or are you just being cocky? Lol
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Glasgow55
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@loves2learn We don't add others, but I would.
loves2learn
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I look like the most innocent mom next door. As does my mom. 🙈🙈🙈
Glasgow55
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@loves2learn Really? And you're not?
loves2learn
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Nope. Please don’t tell my dad. 🤣
Glasgow55
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@loves2learn Lol - okay. Take care and stay safe.
COMMODOREIIMaster
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That peach looks so good. 😋
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Asker
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Facts
COMMODOREII
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The peach (Prunus persica) is a deciduous tree native to the region of Northwest China between the Tarim Basin and the north slopes of the Kunlun Mountains, where it was first domesticated and cultivated.[3] It bears edible juicy fruits with various characteristics, most called peaches and others (the glossy-skinned varieties), nectarines.
bullforcucksXper 4
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Not even a little
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Asker
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And gor a girl you want to have a relationship with. Not even a little?
bullforcucks
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not really if i like someone i tell them and see how it goes :)
Asker
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Makes sense.
ValnacGuru
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I’m a confident guy and girls don’t make me nervous.
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Asker
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What reason would a confident guy get nervous around a girl he liked?
Valnac
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There may be circumstances that I could.
BUNroasterXper 6
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Yeah sometimes. Less so but still. You get focussed on the impression you give off. Coming on as a creep, desperate, over complimentary never works so you have be inbetween a gent and I can make your bed bent. In any case even if they dont want sex, that approach will typically work if done right
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loves2learn
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Bed bent. 🤣🤣🤣
Asker
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Just bent?
EaterPeterGuru
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Pretty same feeling? Yes, nervous and awkward around both. Weak in knee. Vulnerable. Exposed.
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Asker
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Exposed? That's an interesting choice of word. Care to elaborate?
EaterPeter
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When I like someone romantically or sexually. I feel weak something shifts inside me my heart. At least 3rd person can read my body language. Or person I like would know. I feel afraid and exposed that what if they know. They may use me or misunderstand me.
Asker
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Yes, I see. If you were embarrassed about it would you the girl so she might think you hate her?
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EaterPeter
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You know sexual agendas. If you find someone sexy. Guys get rejected left right and center. Let alone sexual feelings.
EaterPeter
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Is that a picture of Peach?
Asker
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I don't understand your answer.
Asker
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Yes. It is a peach.
EaterPeter
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I am sorry I don't understand question well either. Can you please simplify a little.
EaterPeter
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Probably if you go to a woman and say I am just sexually interested in you. Would they be offended?
EaterPeter
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If I were to go to*
EaterPeter
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Wouldn't she be*
EaterPeter
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TBH I like to go down on woman. They must have kind of vulva I like. Now is there a good polite working way to ask them hey can you please drop down yours pants 👖so I can look feel and taste your vulva? Whether I find it appealing or not.
loves2learn
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@eaterpeter please elaborate? What kind of vulva do you like?
loves2learn
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And that is awfully forward. Def don’t walk up to a woman and say “I’m sexually interested in you.” Lol Smile, flirt, body language. I feel like it’s pretty clear from eye contact and body language if you are into each other.
Asker
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@loves2learn hey can i pm you?
loves2learn
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Of course! :) One sec.
EaterPeter
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I find it hard to describe. I believe I like outies. I believe there 40 different types of vulvas. I thought I liked at least 30 35 of them. I would call them meaty.
EaterPeter
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There are 40*
loves2learn
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I have a vulva and this innie outie talk goes over my head. Asker maybe you can pm me if you get it. Aren’t all vaginas innies?
EaterPeter
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I like lips. Visible lips. Hidden buried or no lips are turn off to me.
Asker
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@loves2learn noooo someone shared a vagina post with 13 dofferent types and yeah there were defoo some outies. Weird looking vaginas
EaterPeter
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No they are not all innies at least that's what my understanding is. I believe more than 50% are outies and this is not based on real data or proven research.
EaterPeter
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Isn't weird is subjective?
EaterPeter
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We all don't find exact same thing weird or asthetically pleasing
loves2learn
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I need to see these 13 vagina pics. Lol. Now I gotta know.
EaterPeter
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I hope asker can help you with that. I haven't seen the picture she is talking about.
loves2learn
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I’m gonna Google it. I’ll share a link if I find something good.
EaterPeter
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Please, Thank you
loves2learn
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@eaterpeter - I found 29. My mind is completely blown. I think I’m 1. Possibly 4. I guess I’d have to take a really close look.
Wow. Ok. So if she’s spread eagle, still not appealing?
EaterPeter
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I think I am in to curtains
loves2learn
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No clue on 31. Lol
loves2learn
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That’s cool
EaterPeter
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I guess spread eagle would be absolutely appealing.
loves2learn
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Alright. Ok. Cool. Good talk. :)
EaterPeter
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Good talk. Thanks for all the help. 🙂
jirwin7979Yoda
+1 y
no i would get strong feelings if a girl was to have sex with me with out a condom yet i am not lucky enough
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Asker
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That was not the question.
Sohorny4younggirlsXper 1
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Noo just very horny and my underwear soaked in precum i was a round a super pretty girl most of the day and i always had a boner. And i jerked off daily in the bathroom thinking of her
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Cheeky_ScorpionXper 3
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I'm never a very comfortable man I know what I want
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Asker
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Ummm... so your answer to the question is?
Cheeky_Scorpion
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No, I'm nervous, I want to sleep with him, I want to make him happy as a man in bed. How are you?
Cheeky_Scorpion
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It is not good to be nervous, one should leave yourself alone. Are you comfortable about this?
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loves2learn
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@cheeky_scorpion do you mean he or she? I’m not following.
Asker
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@loves2learn Neither am I. I think gay hookups have a dynamic that don't factor into my question.
loves2learn
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Correct. I’m giving him the opportunity to correct his English if he needs to.
Cheeky_Scorpion
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@loves2learn What do you mean, who will you follow
loves2learn
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@cheeky_scorpion - the question was about men’s feelings and actions towards women. Your answer is men to men. Is that what you intended?
Cheeky_Scorpion
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@loves2learn no i love women
Cheeky_Scorpion
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I don't stress around women
Asker
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@loves2learn Thanks, love. 😃
Cheeky_Scorpion
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🥰🥰🥰🙈🙈🙈🌹🌹🌼🌼
loves2learn
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That’s what I thought. ☺️
Cheeky_Scorpion
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@loves2learn what else did you think?
loves2learn
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Your pronouns referred to men. I didn’t think that was what you meant.
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