Guys, do you know/think you have more power in the relationship once a girl has sex with you?

Like, do you perceive it as an investment that she has now made, whereby you now have some walking away power, and that if you did walk away afterwards, she may feel as though having sex with you was a mistake? Or how do you think the two of you would view that situation?

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  • Absolutely not. I'm a very "no expectations" kind of guy. I don't expect anything from her. I don't want her to expect anything from me. I don't want her to think that she needs to do it, or that I'd try to use it against her in some way, and I make stuff like that very clear.

    If I did end up having more power somehow, it wouldn't make a difference to me, and I would endeavor to not make it an issue for her either.

  • I'd just want her to love me, I wouldn't want to walk away. If a guy walks then that woman should find a guy who won't.

    • Thanks for the MHO.

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  • Usually they get more secure and relaxed and out in way less. effort special if she made him wait.

    • This is one reason why I treat women so much better when she's never allowed me to have intercourse with her, because men are so inherently selfish and lazy.

  • Well, it depends. In most cases, due to legislation issues, it might get dangerous. But if we put legislation aside, it would be a strong declaration of positive intentions on her side.

  • Lol whaf? This is one of the weirdest questions I’ve seen on this site! How, seriously how, would a guy possibly think he’s somehow got some magical power over a woman just because they happened to bone? Yo, news flash: y’all men who think like that are weak and don’t deserve the attention of anyone!

  • No, actually relationships are about the bond and the feelings and not about domination or competition!!

  • I’ve learned that some girls have no problem walking away even after sex. For me it was always that if I had sex, then I needed to consider this person as a potential life partner. I thought the other person would feel the same way, but turns out they were fine moving on. So I’ve learned to not take things for granted because nothing but marriage gives any certainty that they’ll stay.

  • I'm never allowed to have any penetrative sex whatsoever, but I think she definitely has more power over me after she's had sex with another guy.

  • no, I am not an absolute douchebag

  • I don't really look at it that way. I can just as easily walk away before vs after sex if things go sideways. I've stayed in unproductive relationships before, and I just don't have time for that anymore. If I DO walk away, then, well, quite frankly I'm no longer concerned if she thinks it's a mistake because whatever she did to persuade me to walk away also erased any concern I have with her outlook on our relationship.

  • well i certainly feel so, she opened her body to me once now i can use it to end arguments i don't want to deal with or take the lead back even if i was wrong.

  • not at all

  • No, we probably have less power since she knows how to get us to do her bidding... after we've had sex.

  • If the relationship is healthy neither party is thinking in terms of power. Does sex give power to an abusive person, male or female? It very well can..

  • Hell yeah! Once I put my sperm in her, she's completely under my power! It's like I've installed a new program into her floppy drive and she'll, now, do anything I tell her to. She no longer has a mind of her own. It's great!

  • Can't speak for other dudes, but not me. If anything, I would feel more invested in the girl if I ended up sleeping with her

  • Nah I still get ghosted all the same

  • I don't know.

    I know every thing I did do with my ex brought us literally and figuratively closer. There was no power struggle. It was more wanting to give in reciprocation. I could have done much better.

  • I don't think so. There should not be a feeling of power in any relationship

  • I never felt that way. I have never had sex with someone until after I was emotionally attached to them.

  • I don’t seek power in a relationship. I simply want our power to be equal.

  • No, not really a factor in that way.

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