It's absolutely, positively not required to get head during sex. That's a convention popularized by the porn industry. I feel sorry for people who received all their sex education from watching porn.
There is no formula for a good sex session. Spontaneity is the key to great sex. It's not like "first do this and then do that".
If I counted the thousands of times I've fucked with a women, a small percentage included her sucking my dick.
If a guy can't get it up without getting sucked, he's not horny for you.
Blowjobs are great, but they are usually given instead of intercourse. Sucking dick is NOT a required prelude to sex. Neither is giving oral to a woman a required prelude to sex if she is already wet and horny.
Bringing a woman to orgasm through oral sex is wonderful. Plus, that's the only way some women can orgasm. About 1/3 of women achieve orgasm through intercourse, 1/3 through intercourse and extra stimulation and 1/3 never realize orgasm from intercourse but only from other stimulation including oral.
I WILL say that you might try learning to enjoy swallowing. It's not mandatory at all, but it makes oral sex so much better.
Here's something I wrote recently in response to the question, Why do guys like it when a girl swallows? Sex is all about sticky, slippery fluids, right? We swap saliva. Sweat and woman juice coat our bodies when we fuck. Guys spew cum. Does a woman mind when a man eats her to orgasm and then comes up with her juice all over his lips, chin and beard? No. She thinks it's hot that he loves to bury his face between her buns and revel in her womanly nectar. She feels adored when he can't get enough. It would be a drag if he was squeamish, right? How would that make her feel? A good woman adores her man's cock in the same way. She eagerly licks and sucks with skill. She wants to please him and bring him to climax, and she also does it for her own final reward. When her aptitude finally pays off and his cock starts straining and pumping as it throbs between her lips, she is gratified and thrilled. It's not the time for her to quit. She milks him and swallows hungrily, as if her warm, delicious meal has finally arrived. A man loves the thought that his soft, feminine, super hero has the ability to not only withstand, but absorb, his most powerful blasts. It's really hot if she makes humming sounds of encouragement that moment, as if saying "Come on, baby! Come on!" Her hums may sound as if she is mildly alarmed by the force and volume. Or they may sound like the gratification of tasting delicious food - "Mmmm, mmmm, mmmm". She can swallow matter of factly like a boss while he is cumming, or afterwards. Or she can save the whole load and swallow with effort, as if the volume is a challenge. Or she can open her mouth proudly to show him before swallowing. Afterwards, if she smiles sweetly and dabs the corners of her lips with a finger, he thinks she is more than his equal. She brought him to his knees and prevailed. She is 100% woman; the divine feminine; a super hero; an omnipotent goddess.
It's not just about ejaculating. It's super erotic to cum inside a warm, responsive woman and fill her up, whether it be inside her pussy or her mouth. It's what men do and it's how women are designed. It's super gratifying for men. And a woman's woman finds it gratifying, too. She loves and craves it. It makes her feel like a woman. There is also the feeling of bonding. When a woman internalizes her man's cum, she keeps a part of him and he feels like he has become part of her. The couple is unified even after the sex is finished. While on the topic, there's one other thing I can't overlook. One of the most erotic things of all is to fuck a woman to the last moment and then have her eagerly suck my cock when it is covered with her own juices, as I cum. That kind of uninhibited, sex-loving woman is a priceless treasure. I'd do anything to give her as much pleasure as she gives me. All that said, some women just can't bring themselves to swallow for some reason. If they spit, it's okay. It's just not as good as when she hungrily devours her man. At least that's my personal opinion, for what it's worth.
Required? No. There really aren’t rules the way you state; everyone is entitled to their preferences. You simply aren’t going to be compatible with everyone.
For me, having oral going both ways is the ideal. I could go without getting oral, though it really is nice. I’d honestly be more disappointed with a lover who didn’t want to receive oral.
Fewer women have an orgasm from penetrative sex, so I think a man ought to make sure his partner gets off one way or another. I disagree with the notion that it just adds to the work. It’s something a good partner does. If getting his partner off is a chore, he’s not mature enough to be having sex.
Sometimes we do things simply because we don't want them to find some hoe that will do something we refuse to do. Going down and giving head works both way though... and it really depends on just what all they expect or used to doing … as far as swallowing , unless it really is nasty, why not...
If you don't like giving head then don't. I mke it clear you eat me, i give head. No tell him that shit is disgusting
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Honestly, I prefer if they don't care for it, both ways.
I don't mind it as part of brief foreplay, and it's not like I'll be a bitch about giving head if they expect it, but I'm always crossing my fingers that they are the type who prefers penetration and is always ready to skip right to it.
Sex for me is penetration, I need a partner who can reach orgasm from penetration.
If they need head to get satisfaction from sex, they won't hear from me again.
No head= new girlfriend. She always gets hers too.
No it's not.
Those men who say they're 'doing all the work' during sex are only good for "ram, bam, thank you ma'am", they're not only selfish, self-entitled, concerned only about their own pleasure but they have no sexual skills at all !!
I like head if im tired or sluggish and i need to get hard, other than that i just have to pull out.
A lady never spits, and you gotta lick it to stick it
My SO simply won't. I accept that. I love giving her oral whenever she wants it. She substitutes a handjob with anal fingering, sometimes on my back and sometimes like this.
I cum like a racehorse and would not switch to a blowjob.
I don't like putting any expectations or requirements on sex, it just pressures people into doing things they don't want or aren't ready for.
Should be required both ways. I swallow but it’s nbd if you don’t.
Some men are generous sexually who would love to “work” to satisfy their girlfriend and lots of men who love giving oral sex. I personally don’t mind if a woman doesn’t swallow (it feels great anyway, so why would I care about that?), and I also think it should go both ways.
Head is not a requirement. It can part of foreplay for both partners. It can also be a great way to finish. Mix it up. There are no rules about swallowing.
Not at all, especially from some gals! Swallowing means no clean up so I guess it depends upon how lazy you are. I don't care what happens to my baby batter after it leaves me.
Not sure if it is required required but, giving head is foreplay, the same way a guy giving a girl head is foreplay. But not really required if yah don't want to do it.
Personally I'd think it's just another natural thing that you do with a woman, if mean i love eating pussy, it's love having the woman writhing and just letting go, i love being able to give so much pleasure, and i love when they squirt in my mouth, so i do think that it should be reciprocal.
Based on your questions, you're a victim of porn addiction. Sad, really.
i mean sometimes, things don't get hard on their own xD but i guess "getting head" is not the only way. i'm not obsessed with getting head anyway.
A girl swallowing or letting me cum on her face is such an incredible feeling of acceptance, that she's that comfortable with me and will let me do that. Rejecting that kinda turns me off and deters me from wanting sex with her, although I wouldn't really say or admit that. Sex becomes more of a chore when sexual desires aren't attempted to be met.
Yes I give oral to her.
There's no "required" anything during sex. It's whatever works for both of you. In case you don't know it yet, don't do the same thing exactly the same way over and over again. Keep it fresh, and keep it edgy.
I think you both give and take. Him saying 'doing the work' is just lazy bullshit. If you're riding him, what work is he doing then? If it's 'work' then it's a chore. Tell him to fuck off.
Swallow or spit, it's up to you. If a girl swallows, cool- I wouldn't- if she doesn't, I've still got off! :)
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