Guys do you view a girl differently after you’ve had sex with her?

I’m 24 and a virgin and I’m scared I waited all this time and when I have sex I’m no longer “pure” and he won’t find me as attractive as before. I want to have sex but I don’t want to be seen lesser than after the fact.
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  • It depends on the guy and how their mind and emotions work.


    For some guys, who are all about the adrenaline rush of the chase, where having sex with a woman was their goal, then once they’ve done it, then they may begin to get bored over time and want to feel the rush of the chase again with someone else, and experience that “sexual conquest” all over again with someone new. Some men operate like that. I don’t think that’s a good way to live life because that’s no way to hold a long term relationship.


    Other men, whose brains aren’t desensitized to the natural bonding effect that’s supposed to happen during sex, will actually feel closer and more attached to a woman after sex.


    Sex and love aren’t supposed to be compartmentalized into separate boxes. They’re supposed to go together and feed off of each other.


    But with enough systematic desensitization, people can separate love and sex. And that compartmentalization isn’t natural.


    Your brain releases a hormone called oxytocin during sex. It’s a bonding hormone. It’s supposed to facilitate attachment. That’s also why it’s so common for friends with benefits to eventually catch feelings. Sex is SUPPOSED to create and strengthen attachment.


    For me, I develop an attachment to someone when I have sex with them. That’s why, I don’t have sex with anyone that I don’t have a close and meaningful relationship with. Because it’s like after we have sex, they’ve taken up a part of my heart. And for us to just split, will feel like my heart is being ripped apart. For me, love and sex are closely linked.


    But, everyone is different.


    It would be good for you to be on the same page with whoever you’re with.


    Is sex more like a drug to them? A powerful rush, a pleasurable sensation and nothing more?


    Or is it something meaningful, a way to nurture and reinforce a close bond?


    Is the rush more important or is the bond more important?


    That’s something that you’ll have to figure out, and it’ll be important to see eye to eye.

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  • I never have. If anything, she becomes MORE attractive afterwards! At least for guys that aren't jerks and assholes!! There ARE SOME guys that'll fuck a girl and never want to see her again!! Basically, he talked his way into her pussy and, once he got what he wanted from her, he threw her away like she would a used tampon! I used to have 2 guitarists in my band that were like that! Even when they HAD a steady girlfriend or wife, they STILL fucked anyone with a pulse that'd stand still long enough!!
    Just don't give it up to the first guy that comes along! Take your time and make sure he deserves it!!

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  • Yes. Sex is one of the most intimate thing two people can share. So having sex with my girlfriend or wife, would bring me closer to her and make me love her more. It’s not something that I believe should be undertaken lightly.

  • Yes, but in a good way. For most women, having sex with a new partner means that she trusts me enough to reveal herself and her vulnerabilities to me, and she trusts me to treat her body with respect. That is a great compliment and it makes me feel closer to her.

  • Yes, but certainly not in a negative way. In reality VERY few people are virgins at your age. At the end of the day no one really cares if you are or aren't.

  • Better to get married first

  • If you mean 'attitude' wise, no. But I do LOOK at her differently, because I have seen her nude, and if I was smart, I would have looked at all of her body parts 🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️

  • Yes. Grateful she gave herself to me.

  • Virginity has no bearing on attractiveness.

  • Yes, we view her differently. Sex is the most intimacy you could possibly have with someone. All kinds of things change when you've had sex with someone.

  • I'm sorry, but who put these silly ideas in your head? Your husband won't think less of you after you have sex with him. He'll be absolutely thrilled! He'll be overjoyed and ecstatic! 😀

  • To a certain extent, yes, but not necessarily in a bad way

  • I would n we very would change anything about her know matter how many times we had sex the good times or the bad times or wouldn't change anything

  • for me yes 100%
    so if u had sex with me then ur cheap and i could fool u...
    if i am seriously love u and want to continue my life with u i have to marry u...
    i advice u to still pure and virgin till u fund a man who suits u and can take care of u..
    never be cheap to anyone on this planet...

  • I have a better connection to her and a stronger bonding but I am not religious and I don't care about virginity.

  • Yes, but that is not a bad thing

  • U must choose the right guy who take your virginty
    Make ur pussy for just one
    Thats the best thing i swear
    And never give a guy ur virginty easy

    • I wish you read my opinion

  • I don’t. But I’m sure that is the only thing some guys want

  • Most guys won't find you as attractive after you have sex; unless they are the one you are having sex with. That said most guys ditch girls once they have sex with her.

  • Why would it matter if you are no longer "pure?" He isn't exactly pure, either. Probably had way more partners than you. Who cares what he thinks after you from the basis of the sex act alone? You don't need his approval. Own it.

  • Just make sure it's someone special who won't just use you.