Guys (girls too ) are those things (physically) on girls really important?

[Clarisse623]

Because we are insecure about lot of things.

(not talking about weight only morphology/ even underweight those things stay the same)

Not having a thigh gap, no flat stomach, big arms, wavy/curly hair, no hip, no hourglass body, do not look ’clean’ (like great clothes, makeup, perfume) ALL the time (some girls are like that even during night), thin lips (not paper but not big like those girls on social media neither), the shape of the boobs, having an outie or an innie, having glasses, clean nails but not manicured, hip dips, acne on the back, clear skin so we can see some veins on legs/boobs/arms, having bodyhair down there (not like forest but just the re growth of one week or two (even two days) after shaving), small boobs, do not get dressed like those ‘clean chic girls’ and do not look cute at every gesture, a lot of beauty marks, is 1m70 (5’6) a great height on girls? (I feel like men loves ‘petite’ and ‘weak/innocent appearance girls ), the stomach making sounds during digestion, not wearing bra often, plain cotton panties with sometimes childish designs (like unicorns or the sentence ‘cutie pie’ )- is it a turn off?, no pink nipples…
(those are a mixed of what I’ve heard and of my own insecurities)

Remember that I am not talking about one night/day but a daily life (of course some of those things like shaving or makeup or manicures can be done during dates or special events)

If you want/ or are insecure ask me some insecurities and I’d tell if I care or not as a girl.

[ohsheeT]

This is such a good Question.
Because I have written page after page after page trying to explain something
And Page after page after page I erase it.
And start over because I can't say what I'm trying to say right

So let me try it this way

In so many different ways you almost sounded like the perfect woman
Just because you acknowledged everything that you did

In a roundabout way you confronted everything that you have or you don't have

You acknowledged your insecurities your wants your desires

And with all the answers you got everybody did the same thing

Because everybody took a good look and they pictured what they wanted what they think is right in societies choices what we should all look like or how we should perform

Now everybody that answered this question and you too close your eyes

Keep them closed

Now who are you what do you see

What do you want in another person guys talking about their girlfriends now what do you see

Now tell me what size boobs you want tell me about your thigh gap tell me about your pubic hair tell me about your weight what do you see what do you want now who do you want to be

Keep your eyes closed everybody keep their eyes closed what are you going to change about yourself now now what insecurities do you have

Now what our society's rules

Now when you meet somebody you have to meet the real person who they truly are what they truly think what they truly see without their eyes what do they feel because that's the most important we all wear a mask the mask might have big boobs that might have a big cock a little cock any cock will do I like that fat gap on you when it really boils down to it who gives a f*** it's who you are on the inside that's the only thing that matters because that's the only real part of you is that energy that Spirit your soul your brain your heart your wisdom your knowledge the things you care about

What's really important now now you don't even know what color anybody is so nobody's going to b**** bark and bite about that s*** it might give people New Life a new understanding of life

How are you going to pick your friends
How you going to take the clothes that you like do they really even matter
Nobody has any more insecurities

So now you can't judge yourself or you can't judge others for what you look like for what they look like

Now who are you going to choose to be in life and how do you make that choice

Because now you have to be the real you

The thing is even with your eyes closed you can still see things you just see them a little bit different

Now you have to become one with yourself you have to like yourself no matter what from the inside out

Now you have to become one with others is a deeper emotion a deeper Bond not what they look like but who they truly are

And now you become one with the universe with everything because you're just a part of everything like everybody else

This is how I truly see things

Like I said you almost sounded like the perfect woman you just have one flaw. Just like everybody else in the world

Well I thank you for this question

And this is what I like about gag through our questions and answers we get to know each other we get to know who they truly are the real them

From the inside out
I have said it since day one that I've been here there's something special about this place that we've all been here so long we all know each other but we don't and this is the reason why right here because we know the real person
the person on the inside

This is why I find it disgusting funny and ignorant when there are guys on here that answer questions and they give the asker of the question such a hard time they bully them they be little of them they don't even know who the person is

Just because they read some words they didn't like could you imagine if they saw who that person was who they really would be sorry two different subjects but in around about way the same

Once again I don't even know if this pertains to your question like all my answers it's just something that I feel like saying it I guess LOL LMAO how funny anyway thank you for the question I love it it's probably one of the best questions on here

[Clarisse623]

Your answer is really interesting and so ‘real’, I answer late because I needed to think about it throughout my day… Those kind of platforms are really showing our true self because nobody know us and everything is ‘anonymous’ so we are more open on what we dare to say. I have so much insecurities and that is kind of weird because I find my own insecurities on other really beautiful. I’m less strict with how I see the world than how I see myself… Yeah I think our own choices are lead by the society but inside our hearts I’m sure we can hear what we really love and care about. Thanks for your answer, really it was really interesting to read !

[ohsheeT]

Very true think back about people that were in your life whether they did something or said something negative or positive are they still there did it really even matter the only thing that matters is you are truly who You are once you are 100% you one with yourself one with others one with his universe so everything just slides off your back who cares there's no reason to argue about anything there's no reason to be negative about anything you don't judge you don't pick sides you live your life be happy for people that's when you will grow and grow I have no idea what you look like I could tell you this so every question you have asked everything I've seen you answer I can tell you that you are very beautiful person and it starts with your heart and it goes all the way to the outside of your body you have something that most people don't have and that's honesty true honesty I don't know you 100%, but what I do know of you and with your words you're very good person so that means all of you are good the whole package is good you just have to accept that you have to acknowledge it and live it because that's all you can do take what you have and make it grow and glow

[ohsheeT]

What I was trying to say there was even though I don't know you I know you and you're the type of person I would call friend just to get to know the rest of you

[Clarisse623]

That is really kind of you…I could say the same about you sincerely. Thanks again, and I’ll try to accept myself as I am ahah

[ohsheeT]

So what's so hard to accept yourself as you are I mean you always have to accept yourself you always have to love yourself no matter what the Way You are and just follow through with the work in progress that you're trying to change if anything but that's what helps change whatever it is that you want to change is that love for yourself

[Lynx122]

Wow you really have a lot of insecurities. I'd say you're overthinking it. Try and socialize more and over time you'll figure out more about people and also yourself. You'll be more comfortable not being perfect. For me my main problem with women is when they're not really interested but just wanna keep you around for attention. Thankfully my girlfriend is not like that but it doesn't feel good when that happens and I might overreact when I feel like things are headed in that direction. And there's always some fears in the background that you don't even realize until they pop up or so but I don't have any big insecurities about small things or superficial things. I used to be really anxious but I've overcome a lot of stuff with time :) I hope you can do that too

[Clarisse623]

Ahah yes I have a lot of insecurities and be glad I didn’t list all my insecurities about my personality 😅 Yeah I understand you, you have a great girlfriend if she’s not like that. Yeah maybe those little things I hate are because of my anxiety 🙂 I overthink things too much… I’ll try to work on that

[Lynx122]

You can try therapy if you can afford it :) With time things will get easier :)

[Anonymous]

I'm not a supermodel, but all of my parts work for attracting guys. I have nice long hair, pretty face, nice small body, nice legs, pretty feet, not fat and not too thin, I stay fit and clean. If I changed any one of those things, short hair, ugly face, fat body, unclean, whatever, many fewer guys would be attracted to me. If there were 2 things not so good, even fewer guys, and so on. All that before even talking about personality, intelligence, good family, mental health, etc. As I get older, some things will not be as nice as they are now, and not as many guys will be attracted. Circle of life and what-not.

[Clarisse623]

Yeah you may be right, it’s the circle of life

[CoolCatMar1]

I have small breasts amd I still get stared at and all the guys who i went out with before my boyfriend liked my body a lot. And my boyfriend prefers small ones I don't think that's a flaw tbh every guy likes different things. Manicure destroys nails and causes skin cancer because of UV light so it's better to have natural nails.

[Clarisse623]

Your comment about manicure made me laugh, and I’m glad you said that. I feel like boys always say they don’t care about the size but always end up fantasies/prefer about big boobs.

[CoolCatMar1]

That's not true about all men.

[CoolCatMar1]

Also my breasts aren't that small especially if i put a push up bra they just look big af. I personally prefer my boobs looking natural though i love my size and i would never change it. I think it suits me.

[Clarisse623]

Yeah mine aren’t like flat but I don’t know…Good you love your boobs, I wish I could. One day I will.

[CoolCatMar1]

Why shouldn't i like it? It looks beautiful

[MrOracle]

Most guys see all of those things as minor issues or not an issue at all. A girl who had a bunch of them, and maybe the more extreme versions of some of them, might be a problem for some guys, but honestly, most guys don't expect a girl's body to be perfect. Most guys are pretty grounded and are surprisingly reasonable and aren't that picky.

[Billlewis]

For me personally, her feet and her butt are much more important to me than her boobs. In fact, I don't mind if she's basically flat chested, as long as she's got a big butt, and if the only thing she has going for her is that her feet are pretty, that's often enough by itself.

[Clarisse623]

by the way what’s a big butt? Like just not flat butt or more than average? The feet? Ahahah I understand

[Billlewis]

There are many different types of butts that turn me on; a flat butt can still be very appealing if it's plump and chubby:)

[richardcory]

Lots of men are interested in "real" women, not plastic models. They are not "settling", they just don't care about physical perfection - since they know its not something that lasts.

[Clarisse623]

Yeah you may be right. But I feel like they’re a minority…

[richardcory]

I don't know how to tell how many there are, but I think there are quite a few. I know a number of men who are married to "real" looking women, even thought they could attract "perfect" looking women if they wanted to. Some of it is that those men are out on social media talking about how much the they like women with big tits. They are enjoying life with their partners.

[AaronKrieger]

It depends on the guy, but for me attractive is attractive and any flaws can just add character. Hell, some of those "flaws" I might prefer on a girl or to do. For example, a girl being tall (5'8 - 6'5), having belly fat/being bloated, digestion sounds are cute, thick thighs, and there's other shit too. A lot of what you mentioned I am either neutral on or find attractive.

[Mansearching]

Depends on what you're thinking about when you say, "things". If trying not to say what im thinking you're trying not to say, then those things are what make you a woman or female.

Same as its important that certain things or thingys that make a man a man or male.

[Clarisse623]

Yeah you’re right but it’s hard to love those things when women in porns are literally perfect

[Mansearching]

No they're not. They have issues just like ev1 else. Mostly they've had everything touched up by plastic surgery. Yes even the private area in some shape or form.

[Clarisse623]

Yeah you’re right

[MikeInHawaii]

Women expect men to be perfect. Any woman who’s halfway cute and less than a complete bitch can find a man.

[Clarisse623]

Yeah maybe, but finding a man and finding a man that finds your body beautiful is two different things…

[DerekC321]

I am insecure about my height and, honestly, the length of my penis. I know plenty of people say it doesn't matter, but honestly I think it must.

[Clarisse623]

I can assure you it doesn’t matter at all. Seriously I know it’s a thing between men : length of the penis. But seriously? As long as you know OR/and CARE how to pleasure a woman then the length doesn’t matter. 25cm but doesn’t care about her then seriously that a 0. For height as long as you’re not 1m50 then that’s not a problem (If you don’t have any problems with taller girls)

[DerekC321]

Thanks yo. Appreciate what you said.

[Twalli]

Some are, but most I don't care about. I love the panties and small boobs specifically. Not thrilled about the veins although I would need to see it before deciding.

[Clarisse623]

It’s not like veins everywhere, it’s like we can see some. Thanks for the answer, it’s interesting to see the difference between all mindsets

[Twalli]

At the end of the day it really depends on other factors. Obviously looks are important, but most guys aren't looking for a 10 in looks as long as her personality is good.

[Mcluven08]

I have been attracted to many girls different shapes and sizes. We should just be comfy in their own skin.

[In_Trance]

You need to get off the internet and meet real people

[CoolCatMar1]

Huge lips are overrated

[Clarisse623]

Yeah I will I promise, I know it’s because of social media but it’s hard to get away from this mindset

[Clarisse623]

@CoolCatMar1 really?

[CoolCatMar1]

Yes I personally prefer normal lips

[Averageguy69420]

For me looks usually don't matter as long as there's like an instant like attraction or chemistry like you just look at someone public and be like wow I want to talk to the person. There's no one specific look of like I need a specific type of girl there's nothing like that just somebody that I have chemistry with.

[Clarisse623]

Yeah, that how I feel about men too : Just chemistry. But I feel like young people from 2000’s don’t really care about that anymore.

[Averageguy69420]

Yea I constantly hear girls needing tall muscular men with big dicks and wallets.

[Clarisse623]

Really? No as long as the man knows or CARES about pleasuring women. makes the girl know that she’s being loved then no matter the size or the muscles.

[Averageguy69420]

See I love pleasuring others especially orally