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Sexual Health Guys and Girls: What do you think of a female who masturbates?
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I remember back in high school, one of my friends masturbated and she was still a virgin. When people found out, everyone called her a desperate whore. Which didn't make sense, considering she was a virgin. She would cry because everyone called her a slut. I would defend her, and even though I was a virgin back then and had never even kissed a boy, some idiots said I was "a slut by association." Idk, so what do guys and girls here think about female masturbation? Or even guys or just people masturbating? And yes, I do have sex toys and use the shower head, but I don't like fingering myself, maybe just playing with my nipples. So go ahead and label away lol Just honestly curious about this. . Thanks in advance :)
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Thanks for the responses so far people! I wish I could have show her these comments back then. She was a bit overweight and already insecure about herself. So being called a "fat desperate whore" just drove her self esteem lower. :(
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16 50See every boy or girl they do them self and feel happy at some time. No need to call them as slut or bitch or whatever it is. more than 90% people do it. well, unless the other person knows it they will keep this matter quite. everyone was good till they found out by somebody in this issue. U told that u r some other was slut are they virgins? definitely they out, but they act it was! Even if i found it, i won't tell her that she a slut or any such words to anyone. lets it be, who won't masturbate them self. everyone will do and feel happy if they don't have boy friend or girl friend with them.
Its good! And helps you learn about yourself. The only thing j would hate about it is if a girl was using some ridiculously big toy and shoving it in there. And then I come long and get nothing from it and she has regular sized guys
Truth be told thumbs up that u masturbate. i masturbare and im proud of my sexuality. u must be proud of yours my friend. i think no shame of you that u have sex toysand you use your showerheads. all i see from that is girl who is confident in her sexuality. so let the truth be told. Thumbs up butchita.
Lol thanks. Hey, you can't love others until you love yourself right? ;) haha
Thats right. im a virgin and i dont know how esle i would deal with my urges if it was for masturbation. im a proud masturbator. and there is no shame in you masturbating my friend. it take fery confident people in their sexuality to admit they masturbate. we are here for ya butchita.
That's good :) When I used to be single, I say there's no shame in it. it keeps you from fucking the wrong people haha. I should make shirts that say that, "Proud masturbator," so people will see that most people actually do it, not sure how many people would wear it, I would :p
U can also count me in as well. haha another thing i wanted to mention is that as a female yourself masturbating. that is very sexy to us males. may i ask when was the last u masturbated
Sweet lol so now I have a masturbation supporter! :3 And a couple days ago. I like to sometimes, and that joke about not wanting to do it but feeling obligated to when your alone in the house, lol so fucking true! Cuz then you're like "man, when is the next time I will have the house to myself?" And you also don't have to worry about keeping your moaning low. I don't know if guys moan during, but I do. So I have to do it when there's no one around or try to keep my mouth shut (which is hard to do sometimes! especially during orgasm)
If kids these days are really such Puritans then maybe hope for the human race is not lost. That said, I don't think masturbating makes anyone a whore. I do it myself, and am still a virgin. I do believe in celibacy until marriage though. So I'm against the whole "Don't Slut-shame!" movement, but also don't believe in calling anyone who touches themselves a whore.
Haha, I didn't expect a patriarchy person to have such open mind to female masturbation. But even then, if someone does have multiple sex partners, male or female, why do other people care so much? Like seriously, unless they're putting those genitals in you, in a child, in an animal, in a dead body, or without consent, why the fuck do you care? And don't give that bullshit "lock and key" analogy, unfortunately, human sexuality is more complex than everyday objects like locks and keys. Some explore their sexuality via masturbation, others with other partners. I really don't give a shit, unless they are cheating or helping someone cheat, or if they put them without consent. If someone's genitals or sexuality are that much of an issue to you, then you need some maturing because humans are more complex than our genitalia. And that's not an insult, we can all use maturation and growth, and I understand that it takes time.
STD's and children without fathers. We at the Patriarchy believe men should also be celibate until marriage. So we do not condone that bullshit lock and key analogy. Masturbation doesn't hurt anybody though, so enjoy.
That's true, but I feel like our sex ed could be better. Not just from schools, but our parents as well. That's why I'm not fond of people being too prudish or puritanical, because they usually think sex should never be discussed. Now we have adults that perpetuate sexual myths, and kids who are too afraid to even talk about anything involving sex, including masturbation. You wouldn't believe how many people don't even know the proper way to put a condom on. Would I prefer if teens masturbated instead of sex? Yes, hell I think even adults should masturbate, it keeps you from fucking the wrong person. But in the end, the choice is theirs, if that's the route they use to explore their sexuality, so be it. They have to learn and mature for themselves. Shaming people will get you no where. My dad was a complete alcoholic, drug addict, sex addict, womanizer, you name it. He had too many vices for a single person to deal with. Shaming is never a route for help. You must love yourself
It's all about discouraging bad behavior. I will not allow moral corruption to spread in my presence.
See, sex isn't bad though. And not everyone has the same "moral codes" as you. Imposing or forcing your morality on others would be "wrong" in my book. Suggest it, fine, but don't force it. As you can see, I feel that people ought to be more free to openly ask about sex. I don't find sex or nudity to be "morally corrupt." Life is created from sex. Idk, I get what you are saying about people spreading diseases and their seed everywhere and having unwanted kids left and right. But making stuff taboo just has worse effects than planned. Shaming people usually produces the opposite effects as well. From my experience, seeing my dad fight all his vices, shaming and bringing up their past just leads them to hating themselves and feeling inadequate. When people hate themselves, they usually look for others approval and attention, if not, they go to substances. It's a vicious cycle that could easily be prevented with acceptance and love. You can't love others until you love yourself ;)
Acceptance and love do nothing to discourage irresponsible behavior. I have seen terrible things come from acceptance and love. Terrible things.
Most likely that love and acceptance wasn't "true" or genuine. Love is the absence of judgment. If you still have even a trace of judgmental mentality, than it isn't love. Love doesn't really hurt either, unless it's unrequited or love that isn't mutual/reciprocated. I can't describe it but, if you truly love and accept someone, you just feel no need for shame or judgment. I'm sorry things went wrong. Here is a quote that I love: "A wise physician said the best medicine for humans is care and love. Someone asked, 'if it doesn't work?' He smiled and answered, 'increase the dose.' "
Would you like to see some CDC reports on STD's? Love is not accepting it when someone does something detrimental to their own well-being. Also, I love children more than any adults, and adults being promiscuous is often at the expense of children. You don't know how many kids get beaten, molested, raped, and killed by men their single mothers date and bring into the home. It's time we stop putting our freedom to fuck over our responsibility to care for the next generation. Don't lecture me about love.
I have seen CDC reports and I know about STDs. Yes, people do need more responsibility and accountability when it comes to their sexuality. BUT this puritanical mind set (especially in the US) is detrimental because so many kids are too afraid or ashamed to even ask about sex. Now, you got kids and adults even not knowing how to put condoms on, and too afraid or embarrassed to ask. This ignorance is just breading more ignorance and unhealthy attitude towards sex. Look at the "bible belt" of the US, the puritanical people are fighting left and right to preach ineffective sex ed. It has the highest rate of unwanted pregnancies. Proper education is key. I know my sex ed was terrible, some dumbass church people who basically shunned anal sex, oral sex, masturbation, anything other than missionary sex after marriage. That was a reason why people called female masturbators sluts. It's ridiculous and I stand by my statement. Shame and hate will get you no where.
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I live in the South. In 6th grade and every year after we had a month or two of sexual education in school. And we still had tons of chicks getting pregnant back then. So I don't believe educating people about sex or even about the dangers of it will stop them. Also, condoms only REDUCE the risk of pregnancy or STD transmission.
https://www.cdc.gov/condomeffectiveness/latex.htm
"Consistent and correct use of male latex condoms can reduce (though not eliminate) the risk of STD transmission."
"The most reliable ways to avoid transmission of sexually transmitted diseases (STDs), including human immunodeficiency virus (HIV), are to abstain from sexual activity or to be in a long-term mutually monogamous relationship with an uninfected partner. However, many infected persons may be unaware of their infections because STDs are often asymptomatic or unrecognized."
Hmm. The thing is, the sex ed doesn't even have to have accurate data. And of course they reduce the risk, nearly nothing except abstinence is 100% effective. But condoms reduce it. And it's not even about the dangers, or just sex itself. But different contraceptive methods as well. And just because your school may have had more "comprehensive" approach, it doesn't mean ALL schools in the south do. The data doesn't lie, if it wasn't effective in your situation, but statistics show that better sex education reduces unwanted/teen pregnancies and STDs. So even if your situation lies outside of what most statistics suggest, doesn't mean that it isn't ineffective.
You're extrapolating data out of nowhere. Just become some Yankees say sex ed in the South sucks doesn't make it true. Did those Yankees come down here and sit in our sex ed classes? Hell no. There was not one damn Yankee present, I can assure you, because I was there. This is just Northern prejudice against the South, people assuming we are all less educated because we're a bunch of redneck hillbilly white Republicans. The reason there are more unwanted pregnancies in the South is because people are more promiscuous down here, and that's a fact. It's been that way for over 50 years too. We're not all a bunch of Puritanical bastards who are afraid of sex and don't believe in science. We watch P*rnography down here, we have wikipedia, we know how to put a damn condom on. We also didn't call each other sluts for masturbating in school.
Yea, I have relatives and friends in the south, Texas, Alabama, Arizona. They said it was abstinence only sex ed. Same shit as mine. Abstinence only does not work. look it up on CDC and google it, the results are there (I cannot post any links) Comprehensive sex ed is more effective than abstinence only.
CDC said abstinence is the most reliable way to prevent unwanted pregnancies and STD transmission. Safe sex was also covered in our sex education classes. The reason there are so many unwanted pregnancies and STD's down here is because people did not practice what they were taught in sex ed, obviously. I'm sick of outsiders thinking more education will solve the epidemic down here. Girls young as 13 in small towns in the South are prostituting themselves for meth, and all the education in the world will not stop it. They were taught in school that meth is death, and about abstinence and safe sex. That didn't stop them though, because nobody taught them morals or responsibility.
Point is, shame and hate and all these negative attitudes are extremely detrimental, especially to young or vulnerable minds. If we spent the time, money, energy and resources to educate rather than ban (like drugs, alcohol, guns, sex) we'd probably get further and better results.
Yes, abstinence obviously will stop it. BUT abstinence only faux sex ed DOES NOT. Most of the sex ed is half assed and has little factual data to support their claims. Numerous studies have shown that a more comprehensive approach is more effective in reducing pregnancy and STDs
Getting your feelings hurt because someone calls you a bad name is not going to kill you. If it bothers you that bad you are simply not tough enough to make it in this world. The only thing that has put a dent in the meth epidemic here is the police busting these meth heads who get young girls hooked on meth then turn them into prostitutes. And you know what? Most of these meth heads are free to continue doing this to young girls because soft-hearted people such as yourself thought we needed to "educate" them and that going to Alcoholic's Anonymous and being on probation for a year would reform these assholes. We had actually almost won against the meth crisis down here until some Liberal douchebags made it so we couldn't haul those evil men off to jail. You are young and naive if you think we can educate all our problems away. It's like this nonsense where feminists want to teach grown men not to rape. Some men will still rape regardless of how many times you tell men its wrong.
It seems like you are the one getting your feelings hurt lol And I never said I was a liberal, feminist or anything. You accuse of me assuming white Republicans being hillbillies or whatever when I never even said it. Now you assume I'm a liberal and a feminist. Do I think some people need tough punishments? Of course I do. I completely dislike those who bring harm to others, especially children. I still believe education will help, I never said ONLY education (another faulty assumption you made). Obviously if some meth head gets a 13 year old girl addicted to meth and forces her or even just pressures her into prostitution, then yes, I do prefer him or her being prosecuting to the full extent of the law, hell I even agree with perhaps even capital punishment in extreme circumstances. BUT I also think educating along with proper punishment will help. It's not just one or the other, we need a balance.
I believe you're finally beginning to understand where I'm coming from. Unless we "punish" slutty behavior by calling it what it is, and ostracizing those who partake in whoredom, they will continue to do it. Sluts and players ruin lives just like those meth heads when they infect people with their diseases and bring unwanted children into the world. Using condoms properly does not 100% prevent STD's or pregnancy. Abstaining from sex is just as important for your well-being as abstaining from drugs. If you choose not to abstain, you will ultimately suffer consequences no matter how educated you are. A college professor fucking a hot student can catch AIDS just as quick as a homeless man shooting up heroin can. Calling someone a slut could save really their life. If you think being called a name is too harsh of a punishment, you're clearly too soft-hearted to tackle these kinds of issues. It is more kind to rebuke someone than it is to watch them bring about their own demise silently.
See, we are somewhat in agreement. But I'm not saying that calling names is too harsh. I think it's just ineffective. As I stated, my dad had nearly every vice in the book. Calling him names got nowhere. It just led him to feel more vulnerable and self loathing. Now, there's a difference between hurting yourself and others. IF and ONLY IF it comes to the point of hurting others, than perhaps harsher treatment is warranted. BUT, if they are being responsible, than who are we to dictate what is right and wrong. ALSO, the problem lies when it's complete strangers who are doing the harsher treatments or intervention. Unfortunately, most people will not care if a complete stranger says "hey, you're a meth head, you should come clean for your health." Will it hurt them, probably, but it will most likely not lead to a miraculous recovery. Even hearing from your own family will not yield positive results, usually.
Do I think we should encourage people to lead healthy lives, yes. More than yes, I want to be a doctor. I'm majoring in Nutrition and Biology because food is more important than we think. But in no way am I advocating mistreatment of other human beings. Whether they are strangers or relatives. In the end, it doesn't help. Like same with unfit people, you cannot make them hate their bodies and expect them to change. If you love your body, love yourself, than you will do everything to keep it safe. (And I hate the whole "fat acceptance" movement, or the dumb "everybody's beautiful" campaigns.) But hate and self hate may work for some, but the majority of humans do not respond to it. I speak from watching uncles, cousins, my father, so many in my family trying to fight or overcome their vices. Self hate and hate or shame does VERY LITTLE TO NO positive effect to curb unwanted results.
Then I guess we should just outlaw premarital sex and haul anyone who engages in it off to jail? Shaming might not always work, but sometimes it does. The main thing I think we need to do is teach people it's wrong before they engage in it. People who want to engage in premarital sex make up all kinds of excuses to make themselves feel better, but they are doing more harm than good by teaching this bullshit to young people. I drink, but I don't go around telling young people there is nothing wrong with drinking and that they should try it. Let me give you an example. Heroin Addict: You won't catch AIDS if you don't share needles, man! Sex Addict: You won't catch AIDS if you use a condom, hun. There really is no difference between the two. None whatsoever. In fact, drugs are the leading cause of prostitution.
Call me soft hearted, call me a punk. Liberal pussy, whatever. But I stand by my statement. I prefer people to respect one another. To care and help each other. Does thins mean we should be door mats? No, there are boundaries and taking advantage of others is not respecting each other. Do some people who severely cross the lines and hurt others deserve punishment, yes. Especially if they hurt children. But if the damage is just to themselves, unfortunately sometimes they have to learn the hard way. “For a seed to achieve its greatest expression, it must come completely undone. The shell cracks, its insides come out and everything changes. To someone who doesn't understand growth, it would look like complete destruction.” Sometimes we don't understand other's actions because their growth is different from ours. I still feel kindness and love will help most people.
I never said there aren't consequences. Obviously there are. And yes, we should let teens know about them. BUT also include ways it affects us, the chemicals that are released, basically the positive and negatives. People need to be able to understand the risks AND benefits to better determine if the action is worth the negatives. If they choose incorrectly, they will learn. If they don't learn, it's not up to us continue saving them. Personal growth is just that, personal. They need to know HOW to think, not WHAT to think. And some people don't want to get married. What then? Expecting them to abstain is not for everyone. Don't get me wrong, I think abstinence is wonderful, unfortunately, not everyone will feel the same way or willing. So it's best to give them accurate, unbiased information for them to make their own decisions. It's their lives. Teach how to think, not what to think and allow room for mistakes and growth.
Unfortunately when people like me try to teach the benefits of abstinence, we are often met with criticism from people who do not want to abstain. It's like trying to teach people how meth rots your teeth out, and some jackass stands up and says, "THIS IS BULLSHIT! METH DOES NOT ROT YOUR TEETH OUT! I'VE SMOKED METH TWICE AND MY TEETH ARE FINE!"
See this is where we are in agreement. I'm not against abstinence. I think we should give people options and let them know the risks and benefits from each. If you choose abstinence, tell about the positive, negatives, and the stuff that's in between. Tell teens about if they don't choose abstinence. Give adequate time and information for both or all parties to establish and defend their view points. This is why I don't really like political parties. Liberals and conservatives both are too damn stubborn to hear each other's views and don't really want to hear each side, or don't want the opponents side to be heard. Hear both or all sides, and if there is disagreement, maintain civility and respect.
Give adequate time and maintain respect, even if the opposing party has differing views. Also, name calling should be avoided as well. Respect is key. Shaming people more often than not will lead the person to ignore you rather than hear your views, even if you have the best or most informed views. Respect and education will get us further than we give credit.
Well this is what I am doing, because everyone is always down-playing the repercussions of sex either because they are promiscuous themselves, are trying to be politically correct, or are indoctrinated to think that way by extremely Liberal media and education. If anything, schools aren't teaching enough abstinence. Contrary to what you said about sex-ed in the South, the general attitude of teachers that taught sex-ed here was, "Eh, you're gonna do it anyway, just use protection." Most people down here are using protection, most women down here are on the pill, but they still get pregnant, and they still catch diseases. Abstinence really is the only 100% sure way, and monogamy is the second best prevention according to the CDC.
No, there you go with judgment again. People will not be willing to hear your side when you make assumptions like "because they are promiscuous themselves." Schools are teaching only abstinence. They need to teach abstinence and non abstinence so people can make their own decisions. I don't think banning either view would help, but both or all sides are ideal so the people can have the information and options to choose what they feel is best for them. Not everyone will come in agreement with your viewpoints. They may agree with some, but making constant assumptions and judgments will unfortunately lead people to believe you or your perspective should be discredited for personal attacks. Teach sex ed, teach abstinence sex ed. But teach both or all views. And although abstinence is 100%, there is the in between or "negative" that means no sex. To yourself, maybe that isn't a negative. But not others will share the same viewpoints.
That's like saying instead of schools teaching that we shouldn't shoot up heroin, that they should say it's perfectly fine for adults to shoot up heroin responsibly, long as they don't share needles. I'm not saying they shouldn't teach what condoms and birth control are, but understand birth control and condoms have failed many, many people. Also, no one is teaching the risks associated with birth control, even most doctors who prescribe them have no idea what medical risks they have. A lot of girls die from taking the pill. Condoms also tear a lot, all it takes is one condom to tear to get pregnant or catch something. What I'm saying is we need to stress abstinence more than we do safe sex. We got all these people out there thinking they'll never get pregnant if they're on birth control so they can have all the unprotected sex they want. We have people out there thinking condoms will keep them from getting pregnant or an STD that still got knocked up or catch herpes.
Sex isn't the same as shooting heroin though. Wow. Lol soo those two aren't really comparable. And our sex ed taught that all the time, saying how ineffective condoms are. Both parties need equal time. Although you value your opinion as more worthwhile, not everyone will. Both or all viewpoints need equal time. If you insist that your views are best, or more worthwhile, people will have a harder time respecting your viewpoint. Abstinence may be the answer for you, but not everyone will agree. You can have all the information in the world, but it's not up to you to tell them what to think. Even if you drill it or attempt to drill it into their heads, they will still be the ones who ultimately use or ignore your words. It's best to teach people especially the youth, HOW and NOT WHAT to think. Letting people learn for themselves is often more effective than having a random stranger or even a loved one call you "stupid" at every mistake.
Well I've covered about everything I needed to with you. I'll leave you with a couple of links.
www.lifenews.com/.../
https://thepillkills.org/
Contraceptives may reduce the chance of pregnancy and STD transmission, but their prevalence has caused way more people to have sex, which has actually resulted in more pregnancies and more STD's. Oral contraceptives have also killed many young women. This is never mentioned on television or in sex ed or anywhere else though because an extremely Liberal ideology has pervaded the minds of the American people.
Here's a quote from that first link that sums up my feelings on this ideology.
"It seems that in this case, science has taken a backseat to ideology, and as a result, Catholics and other faiths are being systematically mistreated as a result of their religious beliefs. That makes this a case of bad science and religious bigotry."
It's been nice talking to you.
Masturbation is one of the most normal things people do
C and B are the same. Also who cares what a woman does in her own bedroom, jeez. Religious police, much?
C was just a joke :3 lol sorry
Le sigh Highschool... its her body she can do whatever she wants with it. Its a safe way of being sexually active without actually being active.
I once caught my sister doing that... it was awkward af.
There are two types of people, those who say they masturbate and those who are lying, everyone does, maybe not every day or every week but everyone did and will in the future
I've never masturbated... i don't care if you believe me or not, lol
though i'm not exactly normal, for that and many, many other reasons, lol
Lol na cuz
I voted B. I have never heard of this being said at my school, but thats just horrible. Female masturbation should be accepted like a lot of other things, and screw whoever says against it
That's the way that it should be. It tells me that the woman embraces her sexuality, and won't be a wooden plank in bed.
People are so dumb, "desperate whore" when she's a virgin, lmao!
Anyways, I think there's nothing wrong with it. you're not harming anyone.
hahHa I know right
I have no problem with female masturbation, the people who do are just too old fashioned. It's just a good natural way for relieving stress with the added benefit of pleasure.
It's normal and fine! I find it so hot that a girl masturbates
Women that masturbate are awesome.. More in tune with their sexuality and how they orgasm
Your friend? Is it you or your making that up for anonymity?
I don't have a problem with a girl that masturbate. I would rather adore her.
I myself have a high sex drive, i haven't had sex yet but i love to masturbate. I do it whenever i am free. So we, the girl that masturbate and me would have
No, it was my friend. She was already self conscious and teased for being overweight. It made her even more vulnerable to hear people calling her a "fat pathetic slut." I'd stick up for her, but I'd still get called a "skank by association."
I can't believe this needs to be said.
There's NOTHING WRONG with masturbation.
Unless there's children, dead people or animals involved, let loose.
As a guy who hasn't masturbated in 70days and tried cutting out p*rn, id prefer she didnt.
im trying to never masturbate, I think its beneficial for everyone to go nofap no p*rn
Reading that gave me a hard on damn
Reading about how my friend was labeled a "fat desperate skank" gave you a hard on?
haha nah da last part lol I think female masturbation is normal? We're humans afterall
Lol Ok. Sorry. I just wrote that because people still think female masturbation is uncommon or taboo. I know some ladies are even ashamed. I know when I first started, I was too shy to ask other ladies as to what toys or what "techniques" work best. Masturbation is normal for guys and normal for girls.
It's normal I don't care
Massive turn-on!