Guys, have you ever been raped?

What happened? How did it happen? How did you recover from it? Did it make you stronger?
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  • Yes. However, before any of you read/respond to this - do not show me pity. I am not looking for that, but just deciding to get it off my chest while I am still in the mood to. I'll answer any questions you have about it unless it specifically has to do with how/what it happened.

    Anyway, it happened when I was 8 while I was left alone with the younger brother of some guy who was fucking my older sister upstairs. I didn't know it was rape until only freshman year of HS, but only some shitty weird experience from my childhood. No one tells you what rape is at that age, so my brain never registered it as that prior to realizing it. After that mind fucking me, it explained a lot of my behavior as a child and even as a teenager/adult, since it definitely has left an imprint on me.

    For a recovery or it making me stronger, it's hard to pinpoint it. I did experience some through exposure to intimacy in past relationships, but it did not help a lot. Outside of that, I really try not to think about it 95% of the time, as I would rather move on with my life.

  • Yeah big brothers girlfriend. He broke up with her, and she thought "well I'll just fuck his preteen little brother then!"

    Obviously a long while back, and I was a miscreant youth anyway. But when I did eventually turn my life around, I processed the guilt and all the baggage that came with it. I suppose it did mean relationships were short lived. I was just into the sex more than forming meaningful relationships.

    You could say I came from the brink in many ways.

    • Oh wow I'm so sorry that happened to you. Smh that's so awful.

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  • I have yes. 3 times.

    1st time. It was when I lost my virginity. We were in the middle of having sex and it was quite painful for me that I asked him to stop and he wouldn't. When he did eventually stop. He yelled and yelled at me. I remember I froze, I was unable to move at all afterwards.

    2nd time. He pulled my hair and dragged me over to the bed by my hair. I tried and tried to fight him off me and I even screamed, but he kept pushing me down and no one bothered to come to help me. People even saw me crying when I got away and they just turned the other way.

    I reported what happened to the police right away and he was arrested and charged and he did go to prison.

    3rd time. It was the middle of the day and I was walking around talking with this guy I had met a month earlier, next thing he grabbed me and he pulled my shorts down and raped me.

    How I recovered. I don't know if I ever recovered or I am just f'd in the head. I know i had people telling me it was my fault I was raped. I guess in a way I do blame myself.

    • I am so sorry for all three of those happening to you but you should never think it's your fault. It's certainly not your fault. I'm also glad that the second one went to prison!

    • So sorry anny of this happened, why would you blame yourself

    • @riverrat3 I had family, as well as another person blame me and told me it was my fault. The psychologist even said the same thing. I see comments online from people who also blame the person who was raped.

  • No never. And hopefully it will never happen either.

    Have you?

    • I was sexually assaulted. It happened when I was in college. I was drunk and this guy just forced himself on me while I was in my home. I had the door unlocked unfortunately and that's how it happened.

    • So sorry that happened to you. Rape is awful😣. What country are you in? Depending on the country it can be good to file a police report. Did you do that?

    • Thank you. I'm in the USA and I didn't because I was scared. He was mutual friend. So I would still see him from time to time.

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  • Well, she sat on my face, and rode my head into the headboard 10 times, and I got a skull fracture... and brain damage as a result. The jury let her off... LOLOL

  • Yes. It happened rather often when I was younger.
    When I was three years old the queer who lived next door began to molest me. He made a BDSM game out of it.
    That went on for years.
    When I was nine, he invited friends, who introduced me to sodomy.
    When I was 16 and on work experience at a radio station, the manager drugged me. My next recollection was waking naked, face down on a bed, while the manager was grunting and sweating on top of me.
    How did I recover?
    I was not traumatised by the events. I simply got on with life.
    Compared to what else was going on in my life, being molested and then gangbanged by queers and drugged and raped by a much older queer were a long way from the top of the trauma scale.

    • That is horrible what happened to you. Words can't even describe how tremendously sorry I am that that was your experience. And to say that wasn't even at the top of your trauma scale is just awful but I thank you for sharing what happened and hope it will encourage others to share their experiences as horrible as it is, I find it therapeutic to share what one has been through as it helps them not feel alone!

  • I was yes

    • I'm sorry that happened to you.

    • It's fine

  • By what definition? I've never been violently forced but certainly coerced, blackmailed or terrorized into giving sex when I didn't want to or had the energy. I don't see what's so traumatizing about it but on the other hand women know they get away with it so your only chance to stay your own is by walking away from those women.

    • That can certainly work to. Not having consent in the matter is the definition of rape. Especially being terrorized into it.

  • when i was young I was pinned down and tickled to death! girls kept tickling and I begged them to stop, very dramatic

  • I was not raped, but emotionally and physically abused by my Ex-wife.

  • Yes, when I was too young and when I was older but too drunk.


    It keeps you on edge and un trusting of yourself and others

    • Sorry that happened to you. I was too drunk myself when it happened to me.

    • Sorry to hear that love. It can be a long mental journey

    • Yes it certainly can be

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  • Once when I was going in a bus and I got down at a bus halt, i wanted to get the next bus and I was standing at the bus stop. so a man near me asked where am I going and I said I am going to a particular place by bus. then he told me he will drop me at that place and a van will be coming. so he called me to come with him to go to room to have food till that but he raped me. he removed my pants forcefully and tried to insert his dick on my butt but I didn't allow that to happen. after he said to me to give the room money because he was telling that I paid for the room for this fun but I gave my money which I had.

    • I'm so sorry that happened to you.

    • Are you a journalist

    • No I'm not. Why?

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  • I don't know. I have my suspicions; but only circumstancial evidence.

  • I sort of have been raped

  • I don't know if it would be considered a rape and I rather don't go into much details. We were extremely young and I am damn sure I didn't started with it. It left a scar in my life but I've managed to moved on.

    My mind goes on him. Who abused him? No idea, but I am sure he was abused by someone much older. Most likely a family member.

  • Not actual rape. When I was passed out drunk at a party I woke up to find my pants open, one girl playing with my junk and another taking pictures. The worst part of that is the pictures. They are still out there as far as I know.

    • Oh wow that is bad. I'm so sorry that happened to you.

    • Thank you!

  • Not physically, but emotionally. Recover? Who said I have?

    • I'm sorry. And I just asked that because some people do recover.

    • Sorry that you haven't

  • I wouldn't quite use that word because I volunteered for everything I was doing but I was also manipulated into it and wasn't old enough to understand what I was signing up for. It's a relative so it's complicated and it still goes on with him, but it's all fine now.

    • If you weren't old enough then that might be statutory rape which is still a form of rape.

    • Yeah, I understand the technicality there. I just don't really think it would be accurate to use the r-word so I go with manipulate which I think describes it better.