Guys, How can I talk to my husband about sexual problems?

The problem is with me mostly. I’ve had 2 kids and after my last one, my vagina isn’t as tight or something is wrong with it I don't know. It’s been a year since my kid was born and this problem only just started recently. I have less feeling and it gets to wet.
I’ve asked my husband if he thinks it feels loose or something and he said no, but I don’t believe him because why would he say yes and hurt my feelings, you know? Plus, I can feel the difference. So I shouldn’t need to hear it from him too. Problem is, sex is stressful for me now. I can’t enjoy it because I’m thinking about if I’m loose and how I have less feeling than before. It makes me want to avoid sex.
I can’t go on like this but I don’t want to bring it up because it’s embarrassing and I don’t want him to be put in a awkward situation of having to agree or lie to me that this a problem that needs to be fixed or not. Imagine if you lost feeling in your dick, you’d be sad right? It’s like losing apart of yourself. Sex used to be my favorite thing to do many times a day and now I cringe when I’m touched. This may have also been a rant but how can I bring this up with my husband the least painful way? How would you want your wife to come to you about something like this? It’s gonna suck to do no matter what.
Yes, I’m gonna see a doctor.
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  • Well first thing I'd do would be go to the doctor, so it's good that you are going to do that. You might want to try kegel exercises too. Also have you managed to lose the baby weight? Weight gain can affect a lot of things including sexual pleasure changes in some people. You really should be able to sit down and talk to your husband about this type of stuff, you should be able to talk to him about anything. Maybe if you do talk about it you can find things that you get more pleasure from, maybe different positions might help. If hate to think my wife would be going through this and not talking to me about it so I could try and help.

    • I have lost all the baby weight and more. The reason I’m not super open to talking about it with him is because it’s deeply upsetting to me, and I’d hate to make him feel upset that he can’t fix it. All he can do really is comfort me sometimes and maybe encourage me.

    • He also gets really emotional and frustrated

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  • "... I don’t believe him because why would he say yes and hurt my feelings, you know?"

    You're making assumptions here and not giving him the benefit of doubt that he's telling the truth. You are working yourself up for no reason. I understand you feel different and you should express that to your husband. But you can't assume he's lying when he tells you how he feels.

    • I agree with you. It’s just hard to believe him when I myself, feel a difference.

    • There is a possibility he isn't feeling a difference or even if he is, it's not significantly different and a big deal.

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  • I had sex with a bunch of people. In no instance I felt her vagina was too loose. All felt alike.

  • No such thing as too wet. The wetter the better. I doubt your husband is lying

  • Do kegel's exercises.

  • But if penis doesn't feel anything not possible to stay hard..

  • I'd like to see it.