Guys, how would you feel about dating someone with a low libido and who is inexperienced for their age?

[Anonymous]

I don't have a strong sex drive and have really valued my independence, so I've managed to stay away from relationships and sex for most my life. But now I would really like to share my life with someone. But I can't help but feel a bit insecure about my lack of experience and my ability to be a good partner with my seemingly low sex drive. I'm more concerned about the low libido part and general inexperience in a relationship rather than my inexperience with sex.

[Berethor]

You right to be more concerned about your low libido than about your inexperience with sex, because a low libido is something that is much harder to 'fix', while it's not a problem to 'fix' inexperience with sex. Your low libido explain your inexperience, actually your inexperience is mostly a plus, while your low libido seems like mostly a minus. Being inexperienced means that you not a slut and that's a plus, while low libido might mean that it would be harder for you to keep your guy satisfied, and it might lead to cheating and/or break up.

Technically your low libido doesn't mean that you can't have sex, it's "only" mean that you are not enthusiastic about sex. Your low enthusiasm in itself can be a turn-off for many guys, but as long as you agree to have sex often enough to keep a guy satisfied then maybe he be okay with dating you. By the way, how good are you at other things that might be important to a guy, like cooking and cleaning? and what your stand on motherhood and children issues? you think that you would be a good mother? you might be able to compromise for your low libido by being good at other things. Your purity is actually one of your selling points, if you had both a low libido and was having a slutty record then it would had been the worse of both worlds.

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[MrCommodore]

A girl having a low libido would not put me off her, but she would need to be open and explain that very early on, so we could work around it.
Its not healthy to have zero sex either, as the relationship becomes more platonic.

But if you explain it fully to the guy, im sure a long-term compromise could be worked out, so that a balance is found between what he needs and what you want.

The inexperience doesn't matter, its not a big deal. Each relationship is new and unique, so its like starting all over again anyways.

[simonqq]

As someone with a high libido I don't know how it would work but I would definitely give you a shot if I like you and I think being open about your inexperience can be a good thing. Maybe not like the absolute first thing you say about yourself.

About your libido I know for men you can have actual tests to see that your hormone levels are as they should and if not there are some things you can do. If you find it a concern then consult your doctor. Otherwise maybe your libido will go up while in a relationship and if not maybe it can work anyway. I would at least give it my all if I like you.

[RemoErdosain]

I would love a woman with a low libido and who is "inexperienced for her age". Sounds like a very reserved woman, and I like that :)

[Hawner]

As long as you are committed, you shouldn't worry. You are indeed inexperienced, but relationships are something you get good at by having them and working on them. You may make mistakes at the beginning, but you will eventually learn the basics and improve upon them. Have some faith in yourself, girl! 😉

[slatyb]

Probably wouldn't work. We would both be frustrated.

[Dargil]

If you are willing go cater to my appetites, which are not exotic, I am fine with that. You don't have to be horny to give a good blowjob.

[justsimpleguy]

sex connects and bring you closer but you can still have sex and be unhappy. There 're lots of ways to show you love your partner that don't require sex.

[AlexanderAnttila]

Lack of experience is one thing but a low libido wouldn't be compatible with me. I have a very high sex drive and will need an equally enthusiastic woman or I'd explode with desire, feel neglected, probably grow bitter and the relationship wouldn't last.

But there are plenty of men who aren't as driven, you just need to find them.

[magiusX26]

not for me. i have an extremely high libido and need her to get close to matching mine

[MysticDevice]

Me personally, it wouldn't be a huge deal. I can and have learned to live with it. There's other ways to have fun.

[oncpl]

Very disappointing. I was in such a relationship and despite efforts, tutoring, suggestions, she didn't perform well. Though I (not WE) had been having sex with her, I never got pleasure and enjoyment. Hence separation.

[LEADFOOTboi]

that's fine... i have no exeprience and probly not much mojo either

[Juxtapose]

That would not work at all. I need someone more focused on sex.

[DexWest]

I’m the same way. I’m very insecure and have anxiety about it

[pocketman]

Perfect, it will grow the more she has strong orgasms, and ill be doing them so she will associate that pleasure with...

[Dave31989]

Who cares

[egykimo]

Unexperienced is ok would come by time.. low libido is a turn off for me

[gandolph3]

as long as you would do more than lay there, we could work with that

[flashgrandad]

Stop worrying sweetheart.
Your libido may not be low when you start having sex.
If you can find someone to take you through it slowly, gently and with great feeling.
Good luck darling xxx

[Anonymous]

Inexperience is fine.
low libido would be a deal breaker.

[Anonymous]

How often do you usually masturbate? How often do you want to have sex with a partner?