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Guys I need help here, was he trying to seduce me? And do you think that him rubbing my arm and accidentally kinda touching my boob an accident?

We were kind of snuggled up together Like he kept rubbing my arms for a long time kind of like my inner arm too so he kind of touched my chest a little bit but it could’ve been an accident, he was patting my head and then started touching my ears i tried to move and he eventually stopped, and he touched his feet with mine I definitely moved as fast as possible because i hate feet lol but most of the time we just spent our time being snuggled up together with my head on his shoulders and my hands in his hands or patting the top of my head and he gave me one kiss on the top of my head too. Somebody please help me because I am naive as shit.
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  • You don't have to have sex with him. Certainly not before you're ready. But yea... he wanted to take it to another level. Physically and maybe romantically. Doesn't mean he wanted sex necessarily either quite yet. I don't think he expected sex. He was respectful. Didn't force himself on you. Didn't take it further than you allowed. If you like him enough to have a relationship, talk to him about it. See where his head's at. Keep in touch with him. Don't have him feeling regretful for touching your body a little. It's kind of the natural progression. Land that shit if you like him. He likes you. And if you and "The Hands" get together, establish your boundaries, but relax and enjoy the intimacy. Don't be ashamed or embarrassed or worried what he'll think when you tell him you don't just want a sexual relationship. Don't worry bout telling him you're not ready for the sex. He'll understand if you're open with your feelings. Hopefully he admires it. If you get the commitment let go a little and have some fun. Some excitement. Just stay strong and remember your boundaries. Keep an open mind, Good luck.

    • Should i ask him “what are we lol” ? he still hasn’t asked me to be his girlfriend

    • Hi. Absolutely. You have to have that conversation. If you don't neither of you know what the other wants. If you want him, and he feels the same, be happy! It's all scary, I know.

  • He was trying to initiate physical intimacy, to cross that boundary between friends and more than friends. I'm sure he was aware that he brushed your boob, we don't tend to miss such things. Whether or not he was going for anything more would be purely speculation. Most likely he was just trying to push things beyond the platonic.

    • And that is okay? I believe that earlier he said that he wants a real relationship not just something casual

    • But now I am confused and I feel kinda stupid because I don’t know what to think or how to read people and i just feel unsure

    • You can allow yourself to become more sure by making it clear that sex or anything approaching sex isn't happening. There are no signs as yet that he's definitely after one thing and one thing only. It would be unfair to say so. However, you remain in control so you can make sure that his intentions are good. If he pushes any boundaries that you don't like then make it clear that you're not going there.

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  • He was cuddling u, its something nice and sweet to do nothing strange, if u didn't like it u should let him know he's probably trying to get u to relax and for u to do the same to him, its just the one step before u hook up

    • Exactly

    • But I don’t want to hook up until we’ve been together for at least 5 months to a year. I want a serious relationship

    • Communicate to him that he cannot read minds

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  • He was mostly just cuddling, but the thing where he touched your boob was probably him tryna see how far he could go with you. Even good guys do that at first.

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  • Heh, hehehehe, you were cuddled up together and a guy is trying to entwine with you, rub your ears and move towards your breasts? If rubbing your jaw, ear would have been alright I'd imagine he would have tried to kiss you.

    It sounds like he might be a bit naive too, trying things he's heard or read about. I'd say you were trying to seduce each other, it went too fast, you tried giving one soft signal of as much, he tried a different approach, that didn't work either.

    Yeah, snuggling together in a bed and feeling each other would count as seduction, but, uhh, you were laying down with him, so that's a two way street. You may be naive, but on the same token, where did you think things would wind up? Staring at the ceiling and talking about macrame?

  • Yeah "naive as shit" is a very accurate description, no offense.
    Those are things people do when together, unless you don't enjoy it and aren't comfortable you can't move away like that. Eventually he'll think you're not interested in him the kiss on the forehead is definitely a sign of hesitation since I bet you anything I was hoping for a smooch. Plus ears are known to be sensitive for women so going there is clearly him trying stir up an emotion in you.

  • Too shy to try... he's nervous and definitely meant to. He was afraid of u freaking out about it

  • Listen you are like sister to me, and that's why I am telling you I don't know why but he doesn't seems nice...

  • you'd make a good pet

  • I told u🤷‍♂️

    • I am just confused nothing is sure yet

    • Why are u still confused? Everyone is agree with me until now😑

  • Honestly , the guy was being kind to you and trying to warm up
    i don't see anything abnormal going on , i do see you need to
    just be yourself but your still shy and don't know how to act
    this is all common. Wait to see if he asks for you two to be a
    couple your going have to start taking baby steps to get where
    you want be with him. You need to give this guy a chance and
    your doing fine ( put your head on his shoulder , hold his hand
    yes you are naive , oh you can't get pregnant by holdings but
    wash your hands cause sperm on his hands could go on your
    Vag hahahahaha Jk jk LMFAO Oh i love playing with you !!!

  • Do you want to have sex?

    • No i want a serious relationship

    • Then don't do it. Simple as that. You believe yourself to be naive, and that's fine. What you do know, however, is what you want and what you don't. You know how you feel. If you are uncomfortable you stop it and he needs to respect that or leave. If at any moment you feel like you aren't okay with something, let him know.

    • How do i tell him that I don’t want sex without sounding random and crazy? I just want to be in his arms but sex no

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  • So you didn't get a real date? Fuck him or fuck him off. 💁‍♂️

  • I am under the impression he might be trying to seduce you , did yo talk to him about it (communication is the big party of a relationship).

  • Hmmmm.

    Somebody is getting a little too close for comfort. LOL

  • He likes you.

  • No way futx know never to push it but somd will with out asking which means they want to get you in the mood usely a gug will ask you when you are ready for more intimate touch if he really likes you he usely won't push past putting his arm around you an kissing you an letting you make the moves that say I'm in the mood to be intimate

    • Meant guys 1st part

  • Yes he is, and nothing is an accident. That said, he wasn't about to have sex with you unless you showed clear signs of wanting to. Doesn't sound like the location was proper for it either, so he was just feeling comfortable with you and ofcourse touching a cute girl is nice.

    • I fucking totally agree with u bro👍 NOTHING WAS ACCIDENTALLY

    • Damn really? I don’t want sex

    • He's right🤦‍♂️

  • Nope that was no accident he was just super nervous but make no mistake he was definitely testing the waters. Lol See I told you pretty girls are intimidating to most guys lol

    • Totally

    • @WhiteShoulder you know what I mean right

    • I do. Plenty of guys have done that to me.

  • i think he wanted to kiss you and get you excited

  • doesn't feel like he was trying to get in your pants at all. Just moving the relationship to one that's more physical does NOT mean he was trying to bang you. He probably wanted to make out and engage in what the old folks call as petting. lol. As long as he stops when you want him to stop, there's no reason to freak out about it or his intentions.

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