Guys into butt stuff... why?

Im not bashing it I actually like butt stuff. I have a legit question. Because I've been mulling it over and can't figure it out. When I was giving my ONS/fuck buddy potential head on Sunday he would like simultaneously finger me n stuff too but then at some points he would just, stop, and stick his finger in my ass and leave it there. Like he would move it at first but then he just kept it there while he used his other hand to hold my head down, etc. And it's like? Why? Obviously you not moving it isn't giving me pleasure, and I moan when you move it, so what are you getting from leaving it there since I'm clearly not gaining anything?
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  • 1. There is no logical explanation for what turns on each of us. I like small boobs; 32A or B is perfect. Why? I don't know, but that is the way it has always been. Some people are into anal play and some aren't. If you aren't into it it sounds disgusting and vile; if you are into it, you think it feels wonderful.

    2. I think that many people who don't otherwise communicate with their sexual partner do things to their partner hoping that their partner will do the same thing to them. @jaquesvol is absolutely right about this.

  • He isn't sure how far into anal stuff you have gone. Women (and men) have a kind of "clinch" reflex which usually makes anal for the first few times painful, unless you go slow. Typically stick in a finger maybe move it around, not too much or it will hurt. A lot of women say they are "Down for anal" but have never done it before, or the guy is bigger than she is used to and it hurts, especially if they are really tight. Basically he was 1. Trying to loosen you up. 2. Gauging if anal was possible or might hurt you.

    • I'm down for anal in the sense that ice put a dildo up there and have used a buttplug multiple times.

    • That is the only things I can think of. You moaned when he moved it, he probably mistook it for pain rather than pleasure. Did you ask him about it afterword?

    • Nope, he had to get back to his job. Didn't do much talking lol

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  • Well butt plugs aren't really moved about when they're used, because people enjoy the sensation of something in their ass. So I guess that's why he didn't move his finger. There are plenty of nerve endings down there, that it is pleasurable for some to just have something 'resting' inside there. But that's obviously not the case for you, so next time tell him to move it.

    • Plus -- she can move herself with "anal kegels." Such a great way to connect. Once he feels her ass hole start sucking on his finger, maybe he will get a clue too.

  • maybe he couldn't keep the rythm going with that sexy little mouth of urs on his dick. maybe he was just enjoying what u were doing and TRYING to please u, but was having a hard time.
    or maybe he was seeing if u were actually into it, if u would start moving on his finger.

  • Uuhhh...

    Hell I don't know, maybe he's lazy or looking for treasure?

    Or maybe it just feels like a finger hug.

    Or maybe he doesn't get anatomy.

    The possibilities are endless.

    • A finger hug lmfaoooo

    • @EmpatheticLady oh my god 😂

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  • >> so what are you getting from leaving it there since I'm clearly not gaining anything?

    Maybe just that tight feeling of your anus wrapped around his finger, and the contractions and so forth associated when he might do other stuff with you.

    He might also be kind of "prepping" you for anal sex, as well as himself (feeling how it's like in there might peak his curiosity).

    Of course he might also be under the false impression that you like it.

    • I'm down for anal and he knows that, we just never made an attempt last weekend. Well? He kind of did but he didn't have any lube and it was too tight so he just stuck to PiV.

    • He might also be kind of testing the waters with his finger thing -- both kind of trying to make you feel comfortable with his finger in there while possibly also making himself comfortable with his finger in there.

    • There's a curiosity there always, like, "What does this girl feel like in there?" ... along with, "Will she be okay with something in there?" ... since it's a bit of an exotic area compared to the V.

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  • His finger was cold and he just wanted to hold it there to warm up... or he wanted to prevent you from farting.

    • Hahahaha so creative ;-)

    • Don't even laugh. I love plugging the fart hole with my dik head. I pull out, and see the (O). When I see it contract, and know a fart is coming, I put the head in and leave it there. Sometimes she farts the dik right out of her butt hole. Sometimes, it just ripples around it. It is like thumb wrestling for adults. We have had many contests. I would say it is about 50/50, until I shoot off. At that point she can shoot my dik across the room if she wanted.

  • He's making a show of dominance. It's pretty hard to debate who's in control when you're getting it up the ass. He's a closet sodomite.

  • Actually I don't know if it's a sensitivity thing, but I actually like it unmoving too (i. e. butt plugs, anal hooks, etc.), it makes me feel plugged, and I like that feeling.

    • It's hot. I always get a better BJ when she is plugged. Also, vag sex is better when she is plugged. That said, at some point, she is getting a colon full of c u m too. That is just how it goes.

  • Must be nice and warm like a finger glove.

  • I agree! You need to tell him this tidbit.
    What is "potential head" tho?

    • Fuck buddy potential lol Not potential head lol

    • Ahhh lol. I Thought it was like a fo job.

  • I guess he thought the feeling of being stretched a little gave you some pleasure?

    The girls that I know that are into it... prefer rubbing/stimulation. I've never gotten a green light for penetration.

  • Maybe he just liked the snug feeling of your ass around his finger. Our fingers have loads and loads of sensory nerves. (As does your anus, as of course you know.)

  • 😂 the questions we wonder sometimes

    Two types of pleasure. Physical and mental arousal. This is just a form of arousal for him.

  • Maybe his hand was getting tired.

  • Sounds to me like he was distracted by the good head... it happens LOL

  • It could be a taboo thing with him. Have you asked him why he does it? Perhaps he's trying to give you a hint to do it to him.

  • It's so dirty but it just makes you feel really good, don't know why.

  • I like girl's butts! They look nice, feel nice, and are fun to play with.

    You personally might not get anything out of it but OBVIOUSLY other girls don't agree - I've more more girls that enjoy having their butts played with than don't.

    • You misunderstand I think? I like having my butt played with, but just sticking a finger in and not moving it - while I don't mind - didn't generate any pleasure. I moaned when he moved it, didn't when he kept it still. So I was curious if he was doing it for his own enjoyment.

    • For some girls, even having it in there feels nice. He seems to enjoy having it in there (it can be a turn on in itself). You should tell him to do something else or move it.

    • Well, that is part of it -- his own enjoyment. Just feeling my finger in her warm butt makes me happy. You might want to try anal kegels. Just like regular, only you use your anal muscles instead of vag muscles. You can literally suck his finger with your a hole. Maybe that will give him a clue? He is missing a great opportunity. I finger ass during a bj, but I only go as fast as she goes with her mouth. She can literally top from the bottom -- meaning she can control how her ass is fingered by sucking slower or faster. Near the end of course, it is always fast. Some times we can get in the right rhythm, and she orgasms when I shoot in her mouth. Talk about hot!

  • He was testing the waters for anal. Like making you adjusted to his finger so if anal happens it goes smoothly

  • That's just him not paying attention to your cues. Him just having a finger in your ass while you suck him off feels just as good to him as when he wiggles it around and you like it. Tell him you like the wiggles and he will do it trust me lol

  • He's giving you a chance to adjust to having something in there. He probably hasn't picked up on your moaning.

  • I know many will dispute my response, there`s practically nothing for a girl when it comes to anal i. e. either anal sex or fingering , only pleasure an girl can get is getting rimmed , as for you why , Anal has, throughout history been known as a sexual forbidden fruit so to speak this 'off limits' factor makes it seem extra appealing to men.

    • Except I actually did enjoy how it felt when he MOVED it lol

    • lol Consider it as Bonus

  • he went back and forth between fingering you and putting the same finger in your butt?

    • Noooo no when he was done fingering me that's what he did.

    • oh ok i'd assume that he thinks it feels good

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