Guys: is it a turn off if your girlfriend doesn’t compliment your sexual skills?
Anonymous
The reason to my question is because I notice that my boyfriend has asked me if I like what he does during sex or how he performs, and for some reason I feel really shy/embarrassed to answer his question and fail to answer his questions and compliment his skills. To me the answer is obvious (bc sometimes he has me squirtin none stop so that should tell him that: yes! I’m enjoying it!)
I’m just curious, how important is it for you guys to be complimented on your sexual skills?
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ExterminatoreGuru
+1 y
It’s not that he wants to be complimented, it’s he wants to make sure you’re 100% satisfied. Yeah it’s should be fairly obvious with vaginal juice pouring out as you really can’t fake that and it’s a clear sign of things. However girls have been know to fake orgasms or not say anything when they’re unhappy with the guy. So just take it as a sign he cares. He wants you to be completely satisfied and would likely feel like less of a man if he couldn’t leave you that way. Also sex is very important to us. We wouldn’t wanna be left hanging, and likewise most of us don’t want you to be either.
That brings me to you. You’re totally in the clear to be enthusiastic in answering those types of questions. No guy is gonna be all “my girlfriend admitted how much she loves the way I give her the D, what a slut!” Like a guy is not gonna think less of you for liking and enjoying sex. Especially the way he does it. He’s not going to think you’re a perv or a tramp or abnormal. So feel free to say it and be expressive. He’s not gonna judge you. Noting to be embarrassed about anyway. He’s already seen all your parts, smelled them, tasted them and keeps coming back so obviously he enjoys it all and he’s done dirty, dirty things with you so it’s not like something you express is gonna somehow cause him to think ill of you. So you’ve already done it, what could possibly be said that would be a sudden game changer?
So bottom line, he just wants to make sure your very satisfied and you can feel free to answer those questions and him not judge you or think bad thoughts about you.
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Asker
+1 y
Thank you! I loved your answer, it’s very nice and helpful to hear it from a mans’ perspective! Again thank you 😊👍🏼♥️
Exterminatore
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You’re most welcome. Glad I could help.
GuffrusGuru
+1 y
The squirting answers the question.
If he is asking after that he is either completely lacking in confidence or wants his ego stroked about it an achievement which he thinks is his but which i would consider just something you happen to be able to do.
Its nice... its like with anything you do, baking a cake, doing the garden, you want some one to confirm "yeah you did alright" or "that looks really good"... perhaps you should get a feedback form filled in each time :)
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MrKinktasticGuru
+1 y
I usually do get a comment but generally speaking the reactions she gives me during it are all the compliments I need. They’re more honest anyways :p
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RyanChapmanXper 5
+1 y
It's more annoying when she compliments herself the whole time. Like "Oh, you like fucking me don't you, my pussy's so tight isn't it?" It's annoying if all of her dirty talk is all about her body all the time.
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VIVANT
+1 y
Sounds really annoying lol do people really do that haha other than on tv 🤷♀️
RyanChapman
+1 y
@VIVANT My ex did it to me for many years. I think she was more into herself than me. One time she was riding me and she did say "Oh, that dick feels good" or "How did you do that" afterwards. Those were two times I remember feeling good about myself with her. She wasn't big on complimenting others. It was a rough relationship at times. I used to actually avoid having sex with her sometimes because it felt like a job.
AlistayrYoda
+1 y
No, I've never had that problem.
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SirRexingtonMaster
+1 y
Plain and simple, yes.
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RogziXper 6
+1 y
Not very. A lot of guys seem to better conditioned like this though. For some reason, they are trained and expect to do everything during sex. And feel awful if they aren't amazing at it. Personally, I know most girls are awful at sex. As such I generally don't worry about it at all.
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Giggletr0nGuru
+1 y
No, you don't need compliments! It should be obvious by her reaction how good your skills are!
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Riddler1412Yoda
+1 y
It's not. We like hearing that we're good in bed. I wouldn't mind if she tells me that I'm not as long as she doesn't lie to me.
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scotty01Xper 5
+1 y
I’ve never ever got one compliment from my ex girlfriend ever but for a guy it’s good to get a compliment from her for sex yes.
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oncplYoda
+1 y
It is very important. My performance is applauded which enables me to please her more.
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