Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
So I saw another question. About dick pics. "Girls, is it true that nudes don't really turn you on? I read somewhere that some girls get lots of nudes of some random guys and that they've never been turned on by a single dick pic. However, from the guys I saw online, they all crave for nudes from a girl. Is it true that you don't find nudes or dicks in general arousing?"
To be fair, his wording and understanding was a little more advanced than some of his (even older) peers, so good for him. But in essence, the question still exists in some form or another. To some, this will seem basic. And you may be asking, 'Does this really need to be said?' A: Yes. Yes, it does.
So, how many of you have done it?
Men, Your Questions:
'Do girls like receiving dick pics?'
"'We guys are fascinated by breasts and vaginas. They're all different, interesting, sexy, thus the reason we are obsessed with them. Don't girls think the same way?"
A: No. That's a firm... hard... no. I'm not making this up. I'm not referring to a different time or generation. I've done the research. Trust me on this. A year ago, I would have honestly said, "I'm not sure what girls today think about this." But now I do know, so I'm going to summarize it for you. The vast majority of girls, at any given random time, do not like it.
So, the short answer to the question is: don't do it. But I can hear some of you guys out there saying, "But..." So let's talk about it.
'Why don't girls like them? I don't get it.'
Here's What Girls Say:
"If it was never solicited, don’t ever send. Ever."
"Oh man, I've had my fair share of unwelcomed dick pics. Dudes, most girls hate that crap, Y'all, don't expect squat from us."
"Guys think nudes of a girl is hot and to receive nudes they send them first and want us to get turned on, but in fact, for us girls a dickpic with only a dick is just a piece of meat. Not exciting."
"I don't like dick pics.. They don't arouse me and I've only asked to see ONE guys penis. That was over 10 years ago! It was my first when we were long distance."
"If i didn't ask dont bother sending me one. Its a total deal breaker."
"No. Not ever. It’s pretty much only the creepiest type guy who would do that."
"I'll report him."
"It is an annoyance! Especially when your mind isn't even on that topic. Then they usually do the whole, "come on, send me one? I already sent you one," as if we somehow agreed to swap nudes in the first place."
"I would get disgusted and I'm just like I don't care for what's in your pants. They think I'm going to send them one in return and I'm not. And then when I don't they get mad at me."
"I fail to understand why guys seem so adamant to send nudes to girls, knowing that most girls react negatively to them. Think with your brain rather than with your genitals next time."
"I didn't want them whatsoever. I'd choose a shirtless pic over a dick pic any day."
"I've definitely never been shocked into arousal, so a surprise dick pic is never a good thing."
"Just a dick pic, especially out of nowhere, or not asked for, is never a turn on. They don't do a thing for me."
"Block him. We are definitely not on the same wavelength. Not interested in someone's penis until they're my SO. Too rude."
"I mean, if it's a pic of just the dick, no it doesn't. At least if the pic contains their whole body nude then it's more appealing. I don't get why guys would think women think like men. I don't understand why dudes think the dick pic turns women on. We are not like men, so it stands to reason. But they don't seem to get it or maybe just don't care."
"I made a comment about how I liked watching my fiancé jack off and I got at least 15 messages from different men. It was disgusting."
"I miss the good old flirting in public. One time I was looking at the public Snapchat story for New York City and some dude posted a video of his cock on it. It’s like... bro. You’re showing your cock to so many impressionable young kids."
And Here's What Men Say:
I honestly think this whole thing with dick pics (which I like to call "the invasion of dicks") is a product of men being more and more self-conscious. I mean srsly, when was the last time some man actually came up to you, and starting hitting on you in a bar or on a street demanding your number because you're simply "too cute to pass"?
Today all guys have to do is swipe right. So confidence levels are dropping in population."
"Women tend to ask from their own point if view: "Why did he send ME a dick pic?" A better question would be: "Why did he send a dick pic to anyone at all?" Asking that question avoids confusion and gets more directly to the obvious answer: Exhibitionism. Because he got off by doing it."
"Guys that do that are total losers. They should be banned for life."
"Most likely they're fake anyway. Copy/pasted from somewhere on the internet."
"Send him one back... of a bigger penis. I always send BBC back."
"Send them creepy clown porn in response."
"Even the most bone-headed guy knows unsolicited dick pics are not on. They rely on women to be submissive and forgiving. For my vote, include a public doxing with it. If he is eager to get his junk onto the internet, why not help him. "Hey folks - help this guy get famous, this is a photo of his junk, his cellphone is #####, e-mail is #####" That happens to guys a few times, suddenly unsolicited dick pics get a lot rarer."
"My sister sends back pics of hotdog slicers or sends back a pic of a shemale with a bigger dick than the perv who sent the pic, they never send them again, works every time."
"I'd perhaps circulate the pictures among my own contacts, and on my diverse media. Together with his 'details', and an invitation to comment.
After that: have a beer."
"Because we are assholes." Girl reply: "Hey, I find that the majority of guys are sweet and good-intentioned. It's just sometimes their brains fall to their groins, and then they think they're taking a selfie." Guy: "Or that."
"I think they are hoping a girl would say "wow it's so big. I want it in my mouth. Yummy all over me. I'm so slutty."
"Dudes think "if I send her the D, it'll change her mind and get turned on. Then: sexy talk comes after that... aw yeah." Basically, the sexual urges take over his brain and he doesn't think like a rational human being. And yes, I've sent the D before. But they were solicited and asked for lol. I've never done a "dick in the box" move to a girl."
"All guys have one thing in mind. To have sex at least once a day. That's all they want. Sex, sex, sex. F*cking, f*cking, f*cking. No chat. So, we send dick pics."
"Not all guys do this but the guys that send pictures of their dicks to girls think the girls love it and some of the extremely sexual girls will love it but most don't. They think the girl is going to rush off to her bed, stick her fingers down her pants and get herself off to a picture of their dick. They are trying to arouse the girl and get her horny but what they do not realise is that for most girls that is not how you arouse them. You can arouse most girls but not like that."
And the winner is...
"I have sent them when requested, but younger less mature males often forget that women don't see genitals like we do, we enjoy vagina pics but most women don't care for direct exposure to the penis. They prefer the idea of it, maybe through a towel or something, because they are less visual and more mentally stimulated, they prefer to imagine the penis not see it directly."
'But why can't I? Some girls like them.'
Because you're ruining it for the rest of them! "This is why we can't have nice things!" In doing this, you are making all guys seem like thirsty boys who have one thing on their minds, cannot be trusted, and it makes the entire situation more difficult to have healthy relationships with them. And that's really what you want, isn't it? Like an actual relationship, with a live girl, who actually might care about how you're doing, how your day was, and maybe even love you. ❤
Because 'some' is a very, very small minority. Odds are, you send them unsolicited, you're going to get ghosted, blocked, reported, and potentially your accounts closed.
And because some of those 'girls' are guys. Kinky guys, twisted guys, gay guys. You okay with that?
And what about the moral component. How sure are you that the 'girl' you're speaking to is over 18? There are legal ramifications, and there are moral ramifications. Just because you think you're talking to some virgin teenager on the cusp of her sexuality, doesn't justify you exploiting that.
And some girls are saving them only to embarrass and humiliate you. They show their friends, post them publicly, etc.
And some 'girls' are going to blackmail you. (Either get your cryptocurrency account in order, or get ready to have your most private possession splashed about the internet.) Think I'm joking? I am not.
And some girls are going to upload your video or picture to porn sites, just for fun. Ever had to find out how difficult and annoying is it to get them removed?
And some girls seek revenge. I'm not saying it's right, but I am saying that many people justify many things in their minds.
And some girls and guys are not mentally all there. 'There's no there, there.'
So for all these reasons, really consider the risks.
'Ok, but is it ever a turn on? I mean, sometimes it must be. Right?'
A: Yes, sometimes it is a major turn on (see below for when.) But first you have to assume that no girls want them. Because that's the way it is for the vast majority of girls, the vast majority of the time.
'But my dick is special.'
A: Uh, no, sorry, odds are it's not. They all follow the same basic form and function. Breasts and vaginas do too, but to be fair, breasts vary way more in size and shape, so maybe that's part of your fascination (the other points being that men are visually turned on, etc.) You have a much, much stronger, innate attraction to these graphic images. It's not the same for females. You need to understand - and more importantly, accept - females are different. They do not compartmentalize the way that men do. Their sexuality and desire is far more complicated, and you have to meet each girl's specific conditions, before she will be in the mood.
Exceptions: Yes, there are exceptions that might possibly give you a higher chance of a girl wanting to see it. Size/length/girth, and unusual traits like colour, curve, etc. But just because you may fall under one of these does not mean it puts you into the 'yes, she definitely wants to see it' category. It just slightly ups the odds. She has to like you as well. This isn't a dog and pony show.
'When does a girl want them? When can I send them?'
So here's the part you really want to get to. Pay close attention.
1. Rule #1: If in doubt, don't send.
2. When SHE ASKS for them.
3. When you've talked about it, or the communication is getting very sexual, AND you ask her if she would like you to send one, AND she says yes.
4. When you're in a relationship together. "When I'm with a guy, and have been for a while, I do get turned on when he sends me videos while finishing, and he's moaning in the background hmmm... even thinking about it..."
What Makes a Good Picture:
So, referring back to Rule #1: If in doubt, don't send, but I know some of you are still going to, here's how to do it and not look lame...
This is not 'hard.' For those of you who have experimented, you will already have learned the basics, but I'll just remind you of a few things:
1. Lighting is key. Bright light, fuhgedaboudit. This is not a doctor's examination. Think dim, incandescent warm. Sexy light.
2. You're taking them too close up. Don't zoom in so much. I'm not talking about including the face in there. You're not that insane... right? You already know that. That's Sexting101. (Even though she really does want to see your face. So do it if you're brave.) I'm talking about seeing the hips, stomach, abs, torso... whatever is going to show you in a positive light. If you've got it, flaunt it. All girls want to see more, not just 'it.' They also want to see your room, how you live, what objects you possess, etc. It's probably more interesting to her than 'it.' It's about learning more about you, and setting the scene, so she can imagine being there, with you.
3. Clothes are sexier to most girls than nudes. For some, the more clothes the better. Most would rather see your face and clothing style and mostly clothed body than you nude. At least at first. But if you've got sex on the brain, and so does she, it's a good idea to send her a teaser first, boxer briefs or similar, not go all-in on the one and only shot.
4. What about video? It's either way more offensive (refer to rules above, for when not to send - rules are the same), or if she's into you and into the moment, way, way sexier. But do not hit her with this out of the blue. That is very, very rude! If she asks for it, or you ask her if she would like to receive it, make some noise, boys. Don't follow what you see in porn (made by men, for men, for the most part.) It is infinitely hotter to hear you. So moan, talk, say her name, personalize it, let her know how good it feels. And, you might have a video saved and ready to go, for just such an occasion (I get it - you pre-approved it and it passes all 'quality' tests), but live video (or pictures), and knowing SHE is the one who inspired it, is the hottest. That is key.
5. And finally... hair or no hair, natural, trimmed, or shaved: what does she like? Well, you can ask her first, find out her preferences, but in general, IF she wants the picture, she wants to see that too. It all goes together. (Again, refer to #2, above.) It's part of you, your style, your taste, and yes, also your personal grooming habits.
Now to finish up... I'll end on some great insights from this guy:
"If I'm in a relationship with a girl and we've already had some sexual experiences together, sometimes it can be fun to throw a little lasciviousness into pictures. I usually send something like of me getting out of the shower and the towel just covering my dick, like holding it over but basically showing everything else."
Now THAT'S what women want. IF we like you. Smart man.
Peaches, 'Dick in the Air' Enjoy the role reversal here.
If there was ever a more fitting representation of what some of y'all men think of, the 'gift' that is your dick... listen to the infamous, hilarious SNL song, featuring Justin Timberlake... (sorry, the original SNL video is too hard to find. I think the show's got strict control over their intellectual property.)
What Girls & Guys Said
31 120If i wanna see a dick. I can look 1 up on da internet.
I don't wanna get 1 of my friend's.
Cuz dey probs gonna have follow up questions and sht.
I don't wanna know if someone i know has a itty bitty or an anaconda.
I would NOT type anything like that into your search engine, unless you want all of your future automated search recommendations and automated site cookies to be R-Rated and/or X-Rated. Just an educated guess on my part...
Got no plans 2🤷🏽♀️
I looked up and bought a part for my car ONE TIME months ago, and now every site or page I open, car related or not, has a sales advertisement for that same part. Unreal...
@NYCQuestions1976 1. Log out of Google when searching 2. Use an Incognito window 3. Mobile? DuckDuckGo browser (no tracking) 4. Private/personal searching: TOR
@AmandaYVR Thanks! 👍
Not to send, it can ruin my appetite, no joke
I am always amazed that this still needs to be said. Have you seen this? https://metro.co.uk/2015/11/21/this-is-what-happened-when-a-woman-sent-men-unsolicited-vagina-pics-on-a-dating-app-5517405/
Hahaha. No, hadn't seen that. Yep, it's conclusive. Guys would love it if reversed. "Of the 37 guys who replied to her unsolicited vagina pic, three sent her shirtless pics, seven replied with X-rated accounts of what they’d like to do to fake vagina, eight asked to see more, and 10 replied with dick pics ‘including one that included, a, um, happy ending.’ I love the one guy's screenshots, though, who stood apart... "Oh wow, wasn't expecting that. So what do you do in LA?" He rocks.
@anpu23 lol that was a shock to me 😅 none of them even had an issue with idea haha no wonder we keep getting these dick pics. I honestly thought not all men think about sex in that way 😅 damn!
@mindNsoul That was in a dating app so the numbers are a little skewed but I would say that most straight men wouldn't mind a vagina shot.
I'm surprised that she was shocked by the result. I know she went into it thinking "I'll get them" but didn't really understand the psychology behind it.
Yeah, maybe she didn't really have a thesis or anything. She's a writer and was looking to talk about a little experiment, that's all. Seems obvious, what would happen though.
Apologies as I did not completely read this entire thread but skimmed it... to the topic, I have some exhibitionism in me but I have never ever sent something unsolicited... I'll ask first... with hopefully politeness... often get told no thanks and never really got a negative reaction (politeness helps...) but sometimes get a yes.
For me only sexy if we were in a relationship and i asked for it and we were having a nasty chat or away from each other for a while.
Depend on who and how his is, i got lots of massages of guys wanting me to rate his dick, i dont bother checking on any of course.
You're basically inviting that with your profile pic.
Yeah i will change it back asap after i won a bet with this friend of mine, sorry 😅
Personally i dont send dickpics. I dont know why anyone would send nudes in the 1st place as it goes over the internet and would anyone risk the fact of it being leaked?
Besides, you need to leave something for the imagination!
Like a women in lingerie who sends a pic of herself is a lot more appealing to me. As long as she has her face cropped out because it could also leak on the internet.
I've sent dick pics on snap when I was dating/hooking up with girls and they asked for it. I've never sent an unsolicited dick pic to anyone because that's wrong.
If you're dating or hooking up with someone and you trust them enough to exchange nudes, go ahead and send them. If you haven't met the person yet then don't send the pic. And if you're sending unsolicited dick pics to random people you're an asshole.
I would only send if she asked for it. Never unsolicited.
Stagnant images do not make the man or woman, I find it funny how distant people are from their social media personas in real life. I do not have a single selfie (or dick pick) to my name anywhere, my social media accounts are business and academically related.
In short, dick pics and selfies in general are meaningless
It’s a ridiculous practice I have never engaged in. I don't even ever ask for nudes. Just tacky to do so I feel.
The only requests I've gotten is dick while masturbating and cum shot.
I agree with everything you said! If the girl didn't ask for it PRECISELY, DO NOT SEND IT.
Unsolicited nudes are a big bad idea, its even disrespectful, and feels like harassment to her it also ruins everything! I don't know why some guys don't get it, but girls will neither be impressed for you got down there, nor she would be like that is nice or sexy... like ever! Unless she wants to.
By sending dick pics, you'll lose respect, likeness, and attractiveness...
If she wants to see it, she will ask for it, even if you felt she is hinting for it, still Don't. Its really that simple.
For everything out there, consent is a MUST.
I hope the message gets for all the guys out there.
Attached are three nice dick pics.
These are the only kind I send.
I'm dead lmao
my rule of thumb is: only send if she asked and sent nudes first.
I never EVER sent a dick pic and I ne we will. I am married and my wife will never have a dick pic of me. It's on her phone and all it takes is for a friend or her sister to snoop and upsy daisy. It's a way to protect myself and I honestly always thought that the guys who did it had half a functioning brain. This was always my opinion.
Now if we are talking about s xy pics with me shirtless... I sent tons of those!!!
If I am right guys like sexy pics and girls like them too. But to them sexy pics are not ones involving our dicks! They want one of us just showing some skin yes like abs, biceps, hell the "V" that goes down to our crotch, not really our downstairs companion.
All of this of course if we are already in a relationship or heavelly flirting. Not out of the blue as a way to say hello. Never that!
I have a confession! I onde made a false pink account in order to prank a girl friend I made here. I had to make it look real account for my prank to work so I have very neutral opinions on some questions. I had no pic on my fake profile.
AND I GOT A MESSAGE FROM A GUY WITH A LINK WITH A DICK PIC!!!
I gave up on my prank! I deleted the account on the spot! I then told her and she laugh so hard. xD
But the point is... Why? Why did he felt like that was a good idea? No girl in this world has ever look at a dick pic and was like "hey I want to suck it". I am a guy and I know this! After getting an unsolicited one I get it times 100!
I’ve gotten plenty of dick pics they are disgusting and gross me out so no❤️
I love how you ended that sentence with a heart. lolol
Lol thnx boo😭🙈
I don’t like seeing dick pics from men I don’t know. If I’m in a relationship then I would love to get one. Only in relationships, he send me his dick pics, I send him pictures of my boobs. I’m dating a guy I met a month ago, we are talking things slowly, I saw pictures of him, I saw some of his chest, that’s all. I sooo love it that we been taking it slow, this is the first for me😍😜
Guys send dick pics when they have a feeling that you may be an easy fuck. Because you probably acted slutty in some way. You kind of deserve it.
Guywithissues literally has issues 🤣 he’s just a troll
@jabberwocky00 well you’re just a towel...
So if you "acted slutty" you're saying you'd deserve some random gay dude's dick pic? Oh but lemme guess, since you're a dude you CAN'T act slutty. Bro, grow up, even if you think a woman showing a little bit of skin is "slutty" (which it isn't, maybe that's just what makes them comfortable) that doesn't mean they deserve to have to see some random dude's dick. How would you feel if you were at the beach shirtless, or the pool, and some ugly fat-ass dude comes up to you, pulls down his pants and shows you his dick and just said "what, you were dressing slutty? You deserved it."
I wouldn't do it..