Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
Ok, I absolutely do not understand these girls who say "guys only want me, or girls, for one thing".
I absolutely do not understand it. I've been in 5, 8+ month, relationships in my life and these have been the only men I've slept with. One was young love, two were absuive, one emotionally detached, and currently with the last one. That's why there are more than I'd like there to be, so please don't judge. And I can honestly say I've never had a one night stand or "slept around" for the hell of it. I have never been used for sex or even felt that I have been.
I feel that the girls who feel this way have obviosuly given this guy who "only wants one thing" some notation that that's all she's good for. Because if they haven't, the guy wouldn't have even approached you in the first place. Whether you're 1) dressed promiscuously 2) they've heard you were promiscuous 3) they've seen you be promiscuous 4) you have promiscuous friends or 5) someway proven to be involved with the word promiscuous in any way, even if you aren't.
I am not downing women who only want one night stands or flings, or even judging these women who seem to find these guys who that's all they want is sex. I'm just saying not very many men have approached me wanting one night stands or just for casual sex. And once they start talking to me, they quickly realize I am not one of these girls that gives it up easily. I've been told that it's because I exude this sense of wanting more than just a fling or one night stand. Basically, I expect more from men than what they want to give. Hints why I've only attracted a few, and hints why #5 will be my last. Not saying all the men I dated were excellent choices, but they never used me for sex. And that's the topic.
I just simply do not understand how it happens. There are certain ways to act/be to where a man will take you seriously and eventually you'll both get what you want, assuming you'll attract the right guys from the get go.
SOMETHING FOR THE LADIES:
Some of you women need to realize something, men spend their money on what's most important to them. So if he can't bother to buy you roses, or take you on a nice date, or bother to even spend the $8 to clean his car up at the car cleaning place, then dump him and consider yourself lucky that you did before he "got what he wanted" and left.
Find someone who prides himself in being chivalrous. And I mean THE WORKS!! Giving you his coat, flowers, dinners, opening your doors, pulling your chair out for you, standing when you get up to leave the room, and many more. If he can't bother to do this, then don't bother giving him the goods.
There are still men out there who do this, they are just looking for the women who require it of them. I promise! Not enough women are holding men to the standards the should be held at. Men want to be called men without even realizing what being a man is. And same goes for women. Know your worth, and require what you deserve! This goes to men and women! There will be a lot less heartache and shame!
SOMETHING FOR EVERYONE:
It's simple really. Find someone who is willing to prove they are worth your goods, and if they don't even bother trying to prove themselves worthy, DUMP THEM! REQUIRE MORE FROM THE PEOPLE YOU DATE, SET A STANDARD!! And if they can't meet your standard, kick their ass to the curb, QUICK FAST AND IN A HURRY! That will save you a lot of heartache and a lot of shame in the end if you've given up the goods and they leave you. MEN, this goes for you to. Before you go spending your hard earned money, make sure she's worthy of your money. And if she's not, DUMP HER! Find someone who will pursue your heart, Find someone who makes you a better person!
• Any input on why guys act this way, from a guys perspective?
• Any input on why girls feel this way or accept this behavior, from a girls perspective?
DISCLAIMER: This myTake is not to offend or step on anyones toes. I'm simply here to understand why guys are this way and why some girls seem to only attract this kind of guy. And if you decide to comment with some kind of negative bullcrap, it will result in NOT ONE RESPONSE from me, I will not lose one minute of sleep over it, and I will assume you are one of the characters listed above and you're getting offensive because I'm on a touchy subject. Resulting in lots of laughter on my part. Thanks and goodnight.
What Girls & Guys Said
13 50The whole idea that women are giving something to men by having sex with them was something I never bought into. My attitude was always I was doing at least as much for them as they were doing for me. If I got the slightest whiff that a woman felt sex with her was some kind of award or reward I was gone.
I'm not saying use it as a reward, but it should be earned. Just like trust, respect, love, money and everything that's important in life. Just make sure a guy is worth before giving it up that's all I'm saying. Yes, it's also imperative for guys to find a girl who doesn't just want sex or your money. But that's where you make sure she can cook, clean, support herself and then determine if she's worth buying flowers for and stuff. It's a two way street. My point is, just find someone you're compatible with and has the same views. I know there are people who think I'm full of shit with this post, but there are few who agree. So I'm not alone. There are others, even guys, who agree. It's just all in findings who someone who has the same views.