Guys, what made you lose interest in your friends with benefits and how did you stop the relationship?

[Anonymous]

I don't know if I should continue or not. and I have never met him yet and we were only doing it by sexting through video call only. we don't talk much about non sexual topics. this year going to be 3 years.

in the past, I had a friend with benefits, it last 2 years and I was really sad.

what should I do now? right now, I'm feeling annoyed. other friends kinda avoiding me or maybe doesn't want to be my friends anymore. it's bothering me a lot. plus, my current friend with benefits doesn't text me since Monday and he said his dick sore...

[DaveJord]

Honestly the whole friends with benefits thing only lasts as long as it takes for me to find someone I really want to be with long term. So duration is all relative to the quality of the sex, but long term I can not just keep having sex with some I am not emotionally attached with... and attachment defeats the purpose of a friends with benefits relationship.

friends with benefits is only something I do with someone when I can get sex out of it without having to work for it. Even if its not great sex, any sex is better than no sex. And if it is great sex, if she's not interested in advancing the relationship then I would enjoy it for as long as it lasted, but I would not let it stop me from looking for some else I could be with long term. So if you are in friends with benefits relationship and he's made it known that is not romantically interested in you... and you are looking for a something more then you should stop messing around with these losers.

Simple fact is that if you putting your time and energy into friends with benefits relationships its just taking away from your time and energy in finding something better. So if you are having all these friends with benefits relationships but complaining about all your man troubles, then as a friend I would start avoiding you as well.

[Diodoro]

Most friends with benefits just cease when they get a boyfriend. If it doesn't work out they come back. Only one did I have it just end but that situation was murky.

She didn't have it in her to not be a shit person if she didn't get what she wanted. She initially wanted more. I didn't and made that known. She didn't like it but went along.

Had one too many outbursts that I had to cut her off. Didn't talk for 6 months. We get to texting. Week or two later she asks me where I'm at. Gets an uber to me then rides with me back to her place.

Turns out she has a boyfriend now and she was going to fuck me in their bed as a way to let him know it's over. I only find out because he got suspicious abd waited for her to get home.

Dude walks up behind me asking who I am. That's when he introduces himself and I just throw my hands up like woah. Not my business, I'll let you two figure that out.

She doesn't call or text after that. I'm sure embarrassed about it all. Saw her out like month and a half, two months ago. She played the it wasn't what it looked like card, mixed with I was drunk I don't remember card lmao sad

[Anonymous]

I used to have a guy like that in office and we had a lot of sex and he used to have sex when he wants and then i got in a relationship and stopped everything with him, so now i am my husband and i regret having friend with benefit i wanted to be Virgin for my husband

[Cuminginside]

Tsk, tsk tsk.

[Opinion Owner]

What?

[myabe123]

My friend was definitely in love with hers... she was a virgin too. I was in highschool from 16-21 years old... he eventually said it kills him inside when he sees me around. He fell in love when I moved on. He still stalks my LinkedIn and TikTok.

[myabe123]

But my psychic not sure if you believe in such things said I would never be married if I stayed with him

[Asker]

oh.. then did he ever tried to get you back to start a new real relationship?

[myabe123]

No I filed a restraining order. Could never trust him.

[Asker]

that's kinda extreme.. what made you do that?

[myabe123]

Revenge. Humiliation. Plus he’s also a stalker through social media

[Asker]

no wonder you did that. sounds like he's typically abusive

[myabe123]

Oh yes he was. I will never do friends with benefits again after that. If a guys not pursuing me with flowers he’s out!

[Asker]

that's nice decision. and I don't want to have that kind relationship anymore...

[Honesttguy]

Swipe yes on tinder and find new buddy with benefits, this ones too easy

[RobT312]

Virtual? That is your problem. It’s nothing real, go meet someone in person

[ohshee]

Well that's hot. I've been looking for ever for a On line friends with benefits most of the time. The guy's basically looking day in and day out something different something new or he found somebody but I mean he should be man enough to say hey I apologize I'm going to have to stop because of this or that not just ghost you I think that's wrong I mean even in a relationship if you're not happy and you walk away you have to tell the person

[dontgetafemalecanine]

Oh yo. I was cheating in my relationship for ages. I honestly told my ex about it (every single time) when she was overseas. She forgave me and got me back (revenge?). I felt fine either way knowing it's super unhealthy. I broke up ties with both parties. Calmed down for months before settling down for someone I now super care about.

[boggboss]

Seems u want more out if the situation then what he want why no look for friends not try to keep people around around with the alure of sexual stuff

[Asker]

what should I do towards him now?

[boggboss]

Depends what do u want from this situation

[Asker]

I want more...

[boggboss]

So ask for more or understand he is not willing to give more and move on maybe friends with benefits is nit right for u

[Asker]

how to ask for more?

[boggboss]

What do u mean how to ask for me u literally ask for what u want or say you are nit happy with the situation and want change

[Asker]

okay

[boggboss]

What I will say if if your looking for commitment then u should probably stop getting friends with benefits situation

[Asker]

what if he willing to give more, but still want those sexual things?

[boggboss]

Then u have to decide if thats somthing u want to do or not

[Asker]

if he doesn't want more than that, I should leave him?

[boggboss]

Yes as clearly u are not happy why would u stay in a situation where u are not happy

[Asker]

ah right

[boggboss]

Good luck I guess

[Asker]

thanks,.. is it silly to stay in that relationship even tho he doesn't want more and I hope that he'll change his feelings someday?

[boggboss]

Hoping he will change whilst u keep his attention with sex is a silly thing to do as it will just lead to heart break and wasted time

[Asker]

that's true too

[myabe123]

Girl they never do! Me and my female best friend had long term friends with benefits, I wouldn’t call them friends either. It’s just relations really. Mine was for 5 years hers was for 7. I have a restraining order against mine because it was so toxic

[boggboss]

👍🏽

[Asker]

@myabe123 oh my god... that's definitely too long. how come they never fall in love with you and your friend? that's crazy...

[boggboss]

Because sex is not love I have known many guys to fuck around with a girl because she allows it with no intentions of having somthing serious

[Asker]

isn't sex involved with emotion , romantic?

[boggboss]

It can be but people are able to separate the two people can have sex and have no emotional attraction towards that person how do u think porn is made

[Asker]

porn is diff. porn is like a sport , and you have to go to studio to shooting for money. while in real life, it's like meeting everyday willingly

[boggboss]

Yes porn is differnt but it's a example that sex don't equal feeling live or a want for a relationship people are able to enjoy sex and not want to have u as a long term partner

[Asker]

I still can't understand men's mindset

[boggboss]

How?

[Asker]

sex is equal feeling live !! plus the relationship is over than 3 months. 2 to 5 to 7 years should have developed the feeling and emotion already

[boggboss]

No because u only tend to so so if u want to or see the situation as somthing worth growing just because u have feelings dont mean he will lol

[boggboss]

I guess u was not the right type of person to be in a friends with benefits if u have views like this

[Asker]

😔😔😔😔

[boggboss]

If guys acted how u said they did they wouldn't get into friends with benefits situations

[Asker]

😔 I had no idea why I wanted this friends with benefits, now I have to deal with sad feeling for some time

[boggboss]

U wanted a friends with benefits because u assumed he would catch feelings

[Asker]

exactly..!

[boggboss]

And now he has not caught feelings u are sad and upset next time say what u want from the start

[Asker]

😔 okay..

[boggboss]

Qell good luck for next time just use it as a life lesson

[Asker]

😔 okay

[Citizenkirk]

Your description makes me wonder if this is really a friend with benefits. Was your relationship platonic in nature before talking about intimate things? The whole idea of a friend with benefits is that you have someone of the opposite gender you pal around with willing too have sex on the side. No previous friendship, no "with benefits."
The benefits come from an additional sexual romp to the "already existing platonic friendship."
I never lost interest in a "friend with benefits," because it wasn't sex that made us friends. It won't be sex that breaks the friendship up, neither.

[Kreneman]

Friends with Benefits is not healthy or positive because feelings and lust can only take you so far meaning there's many holes of errors in that path that can really hurt you and him. You seriously need to let him go and find a real man that you can real grow with in a committed relationship.

[Nagahime]

Friends with benefits is so dumb lmao.

[Kabluie]

New relationships can be a reason.

A previous friends with benefits wasn't wanting a relationship, but enjoyed having sex without condoms, and had an agreement if we start not using condoms with someone else, that'd be the end of it. I made the decision with a new date that was getting serious at the time and we had a vacation getaway the following week. Probably could have continued with condoms if we wanted.

[Exterminatore]

When I was doing that type of thing it was because they started falling in love and trying to lock me down so I had to fire them.

[ragooo8]

Friend's with benefits doesn't work out for women, actually prevents you from finding someone and a friends with benefits guy only wants you for sex

[Wise4myage]

You should focus on finding a boyfriend Instead.

[Asker]

difficult.

[KingofCups]

A virtual friends with benefits. What a waste of time. Go out and make an actual physical connection. I mean wtf is wrong with people these days. Of course that shit is going 2b unsatisfactory.

[GMANN56]

Find a real guy and ditch your computer boyfriends.

[In_Trance]

you've never met him but you're friends with benefits? How does that even work?

[driven159]

maybe you need to have someone that with not texting but real touch and sex

[SignedAutographs]

I have not and I would not ever do a friends with benefits. I believe it is simply a relationship without the relationship label therefore it is silly to do

[Jltakk]

Wish it ever got to that point.

[Anonymous]

I lost interest for a few reasons. Just got older, felt it was time to be w that one person. Also there were times when it felt like she was trying to turn it into more than just friends with benefits. Other times I met someone (friends with benefits) better looking, crazier sexually, a change of scenery as far as her body.

[Asker]

you should have sex with ghost. they will sucking your cum until you die

[Anonymous]

When she started to pick her nose or fart infront off me.