Guys what’s it like to look at porn but have a girlfriend you’re attracted to?

[Nursefitness87]

What does it mean?

[itsalyssaagain]

I know this question is aimed at men but I see a lot of this where women are upset about men watching porn or liking naked photos on social media etc...

I am not being a pick me girl but it actually, genuinely doesn't bother me and I think the reason to that is beyond feeling confident in myself, but also understanding what a sexual urge is because I experience it too.

If you're his girlfriend - you're his person, the woman he loves, the woman he sees a future with. A woman on the screen is just something nice to look at or fulfil an urge. Be confident in who you are and what you have to offer to your boyfriend.

[JPresidente]

@itsalyssaagain you're exactly right. I would add for her that she just needs to monitor it and make sure the guy is not addicted to it where he needs to look at it constantly. Otherwise, carry on and follow your advice. You should get MHO.

[itsalyssaagain]

Thanks! Addiction is a crazy thing

[BarryLiverstone]

It’s similar to having a good set of food choices that you enjoy eating, they are healthy, and most meals you chose to eat them. But sometimes you want to try something new or taste something extra.


Having a girlfriend and someone you love or connect with is healthy, it feels good, and is someone who can meet most needs. But watching porn allows the mind to satisfy extra imaginations and taste other varieties while not abandoning her. Just like I would expect her to want to explore new things.


Does this make sense?

[mstbooblover]

There's actually nothing particular in watching porn and having a girlfriend. Keep in mind something called "sexual curiosity", and although I understand a guy's partner can be upset for different reasons, making a fuss about it won't help anyone. If the guy likes porn, he will watch anyway. I daresay whether you leave him at it, or you watch together for the fun of both. No offense meant.

[ArrowheadSW]

There is that saying "all things in moderation". A guy can have a girlfriend who he is hugely attracted to, and still view porn and get turned on by it. On the other hand, you don't want the guy to be just relying on porn.

[summiter]

Usually guys will watch it not for attachment or to replace their girlfriend but rather as something to jerk off to. As you know 99% of younger guys masturbate frequently... but most will never admit it!

[Reece12345]

Porn and real life relationships are two different things. Porn is just a fantasy and a girlfriend is the real thing and so much more fulfilling when you have a close relationship. You connect in so many different ways and on such a deep level.

Porn is a momentary distraction, unless you're addicted and you do it all the time. That means the relationship with your girlfriend is not working and there is a real problem.

[siferius90]

It is a completely different thing. You need to understand that men feel zero emotional connection with the women they see on the screen. This is just a means to an end - the end being getting aroused.

[FoolShiro]

Men and women experience things very differently when it comes to intimacy. For a man, intimacy is an urge, almost like an itch, that gets worse everytime you scratch. I stopped watching pornography after I realized just how addicting it was. It had gotten to the point where I felt almost dependent on it. During that time, my understanding was that that was completely separate from my relationship. When I had the urge, I handled it. When you associate those intimate feelings with your partner, it can be pretty hard to think about anything else.

[boggboss]

Means nothing just a tool to beat your meat too lol

[AviatorTom]

Porn is entertainment. SO girlfriend is a relationship.

[Finchie40]

I wouldn’t be watching porn if I had an attractive girlfriend that fufilled me sexually , Porn actually does nothing for me , I rather be the one making the porn with my girl

[DavidRaul]

You don't even need porn if you have a girlfriend

[Angelo75]

You picture that girlfriend in those scenes maybe...

[TheSpaceGnome]

It means nothing.
Couples send eachother porn all the time just to figure out their SO's kinks.

[churbleburble78]

I watch less porn when I have a girlfriend or am actively dating/having sex

But still watch porn - sometimes for a bit of variety/inspirational, sometimes as we haven't had sex

[Mrmr123]

Maybe you love them but they aren’t into what you like in the bedroom so you use porn as a release of sexual frustration without cheating on your partner.

[Nursefitness87]

We aren’t having sex bc he said he felt convicted by God and we would get closer not having sex but he jacks off to only fans and porn how is that Honoring?

[Nursefitness87]

When we did have sex I tried to keep it exciting and fun we had sex in a mixed martial arts fighting ring lol the one at the gym we train at when nobody else was there and I sent him pics of me topless in a hot tub recently and I like it rough when we had sex I liked it rough and did what he wanted maybe he sees me as someone innocent and hard to release that tension out on but I like kinky stuff but I think he’s afraid to try on me and he sucks my boobs hard and a lot and spanks me and pulls my hair and he’s arrested me I don't know what else to do to he more exciting except Dress up maybe

[Nursefitness87]

I don’t think I’m the problem it’s his commitment issues he’s afraid of and porn is non committal

[BJP21]

I prefer my girlfriend because she's tangible and realistic.

[Snedger____]

Having girlfriend and watching porn is not related. I have a girlfriend and watch porn when she’s busy.

Mostly I finish by imagining her but sometimes do watch girls at porn and finish.

[Twalli]

It's just something extra and different.

[justFriend]

better :)

[In_Trance]

Doesn't mean anything

[OddBeMe]

It means she’s rearranging furniture, doing her nails or some other bullshit so she doesn’t have time for me.

[bananathunder]

it's basically just a tool to help get off. Nothing more than a movie to stimulate. Not something to replace my girlfriend. Basically, an extension of using your imagination