The average man and the average woman are very different in this area. Most men do not need to have an emotional connection to want (or have, or enjoy) the physical act of sex, while most women do need an emotional connection. Yes, there are exceptions both ways, but the "rule" applies to the majority.
Sex is (or, at least, can be) a different thing for men than it is for women. For men, sex is as close to a necessity as there can be and not actually be a life-and-death necessity. For many men, it's our main priority when it comes to interacting with women (assuming we're talking about straight men), even if we also have feelings and want a relationship with the woman, which is often NOT the case.
Look at it this way: for men, a relationship and emotions are something that is great to have and something most of us value, and most who have had sex within a relationship will tell you it's better that way - BUT, if we don't have a relationship, and have no one we're emotionally tied to, we STILL want sex. For men, going without sex is like going without eating - you wouldn't expect us to go hungry anytime we weren't in a relationship, right?
You also need to understand that, for the vast majority of men, sex is not something that's easily obtainable. Most women know damn well that they can find SOME man who is at least acceptable (as in: acceptably attractive, clean, etc.) even if he's not a guy that especially excites you or one you have strong feelings for, and you could get laid on virtually any day you wanted to. Of course, that's not what you want - you want a relationship and to only have sex with a guy you're in love with - but you STILL know that if you were looking for JUST SEX, you could get it almost at will. This is absolutely NOT the case with most guys, and I know plenty of guys who go years without sex despite wanting sex very much. So, when a guy has an opportunity for sex, he's almost always going to take it, REGARDLESS of any other considerations, unless he's already having regular sex and/or is in a relationship. Because it's like starving to death and being offered a big meal: even if you hate the person who is offering you the meal, you're still going to accept and you're going to eat as much as you can.
Most men have the ability to separate sex from love in a way that most women don't. That doesn't mean we don't want a relationship - most of us do - but it's FAR more difficult to find someone who you like who also likes you AND who you are compatible with, than it is to find someone you find physically attractive, and for men, if we find a woman physically attractive, and there's no huge red flag (like: she's crazy, or she's the daughter of a mafia boss, or she's known to be diseased), that's enough for us to want sex with her, which means our pool of women we'd be happy to just have sex with is FAR larger than the pool of women we'd be in a relationship with.
Is relationship sex better? Of course it is (in most cases), but that's like a hot fudge sundae with nuts and whipped cream - we'd prefer that, but when we can't have something that good - which for a lot of us men, is much/most of the time, even a bowl of plain vanilla ice cream (aka casual sex) is still pretty tasty.
Guys wouldn't be able to do this if women wasn't doing it too unless it's 2 guys so it would be best to ask man and women this question not just guys
Not really sure how to answer this question other than it's what people want to do sex is just sex I have no idea why people think and want it to be more then that that's all it really is just a physical activity that people do
I personally feel like it's more than just that when with the right person but at the base of it all that's all it really is just a physical activity just something to do
Well there's always the odd few that get around many, that doesn't represent most. Also, many girls are lead under false pretense.
Just a physical activity to let randomers inside you? 🤮 I can't even.
true they are lead but they follow make them wait or you might get used Same but it's what some people do
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Casual sex is just for fun. It's not really that deep. If two people are attracted to each other and want to fuck each other, why is it shallow?
I just don't get ho wot can be casual if you're attracted to ecah other?
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I don't. I made an emotional investment in any girl i got undressed with. There had to be some level of fondness. This is particularly true because I \went to cunnilingus as soon as she is willing and it takes a lot of emotional energy to do right.
It's not my thing, either.
I never understood the appeal either. Unless the person's technique is really good, you don't get the same pleasure.
the appeal is sexual release
Masturbation? Why do something that inflicts shame? That's not pleasurable.
yeah it is rubbish. but if you're rock bottom broke and hungry, you'll go, get the foodstamps.
It's just for sex. Sex gives pleasure and it's fun for both sides. That's why. Simple as that.
For you guys. I just don't get it.
Imagine being bummed for fun. Lmao I can't.
Having sex is pleasurable and fun for both. Why wouldn't people want that?
Remember that story of donkey, the boy and the old crossing the river
Nope...
It is about a boy his father and the donkey. They are travelling and find a man who says they are stupid for not using the donkey, the father sits on the donkey and boy walks. Then they meet a person who says the father is cruel for enjoying ride alone. Then father walks and son sits. And then an old lady says son is disrespectful for not letting father ride. Then they both sit and then a group of girls see them and tell them this is animal cruelty and then father takes the son and donkey on the back and try to cross the river bridge and donkey jumps into the river and drown
For me Yes, it's very rubbish. Feelings needs to be there
Preach girl. I don't get it either. Before I had casual sex, I just didn't know, once I did, I realized how empty it was... never again. People kill their souls this way and just jump from adrenaline rush to adrenaline rush, getting more degenerate each time. I've seen friends go down this path...
How is it using someone if you both consent to what you're doing? Sure, it could be using each other; that's a perspective.
True, but often time if we face up to the reality, it's usually the guy using the girl.
What's the actual appeal though?
I disagree with this. Both parties consent on the terms they deem agreeable. If one feels like they're being used, don't do it. Sure, someone may get used, but that said, some people wanna be used. No different than wanting to be dominated or humiliated
Sometimes you feel like a nut... sometimes you dont.
Masturbation lol
You are female, so it makes sense that you need an emotional connection first.
As a male... pussy is just fun. It’s a release of dopamine in the brain. Nothing more.
Glad that there are some decent girls like you left.
Thank you
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