Guys when do you use lots of eye contact during sex?

[Anonymous]

Do you tend to avoid lots of eye contact with a casual partner to lower the complications of falling for them?

Do you really enjoy lots of eye contact with someone you see potential with?

What are your individual thoughts on this?

[MrMysteryMan]

If I'm attracted to someone and want to get their attention, I show a lot of eye contact. I'm not shy about that. Just the approach I can take some time with, since I am still not sure if they are also attracted to me. But, depending on my mood, I will just not worry and approach just fine.

Sexually, I LOVE eye contact. It make the session that much more sensual and intense. It really doesn't matter to me about "falling in love", because eye contact does not dictate if I will fall in love with someone. It's personality and how we gel that dictates this.

[blue_bull]

I will try to think like it now on.

[Asker]

But eye contact leads to intimacy and intimacy leads to falling in love, so if you don't do it for that reason how are you defining 'sensual and intense' ? Because those things represent intimacy to many women I imagine.

[MrMysteryMan]

You can have passion for someone without actually being in love with someone. The same goes for intensity. You just have a sensual connection that is more of a hunger than a deep rooted love for them. I'm not saying I don't care about them, that would be hard to do. What I'm saying is that I can control how deeply I fall for someone, but I can still be intensely passionate and sensual when it comes to sex. It's just like you can care for your friends (and I suppose that's a form of love), but other friends you care more deeply for, and others, if you're not careful you can fall for quite easily if you let your heart get away from your head.

[Asker]

Yes eye contact alone is not the only thing that dictates falling in love but as they're already in your bed it's safe to presume that they already like you... but increasing intimacy just increases the odds of falling in love even more, hence why if you're just looking for something casual I'm not convinced it's always best.

[MrMysteryMan]

This might be something women have a harder time than men with. Or it could just be my personality. I don't have a hard time resisting my deeper feelings or separating them. I just take the situation as it is and not put hope or fantasy into it.

[Asker]

Yeah I think we can agree on that. Interesting food for thought though. 🙂

[Asker]

Good point, some women do get carried away with the idea of things but I doubt all do... I just think intense eye contact with someone you like increases a feeling of closeness or wanting to get to know them more in a personal way for women. If I were there just purely for fun I wouldn't be staring into his eyes often or for extended amounts, I'd be concentrating on how good it feels physically alone and would avoid prolonged eye contact personally.

[MrMysteryMan]

I see... Yeah I suppose at that moment, you can create a sense of intense connection if you have that passion for sure. But then after you settle down from the activity and come back down to earth, you can still feel a connection to the person, but your head is back into the game and reasoning comes back into play. Also, though, the other party will have that connection as well toward you. So, perhaps, the relationship will evolve more from this, mutually? But if not, you can still have that connection at the time, and enjoy the intensity, just don't let it affect you after all is said and done I suppose.

[Asker]

Yeah I see what you're saying. I'd still avoid it though if it was just fun lol. I'd only go there with someone I saw potential with.

[MrMysteryMan]

Yeah I see your point as well. You know how strong or how much your heart can take best right? You have a good sense of self and a good sense about your emotions it would seem.

[Asker]

That's very true. Yeah I do ☺️

[Frosteh]

Eye contact is great for intimacy, it's the kind of thing you want when you're "making love" which in my mind is a much more gentle and intimate sex.

You don't want that with one night stands or friends with benefits, if you're both clear on casual sex it's a really good idea to keep it physical only and as much emotionless as possible otherwise somoene is going to fall for someone and if it's not reciprocated it'll end in a huge mess. Not worth it at all.

[Asker]

Nailed it!

[Asker]

It works well with rough sex too as well as gentle, but only with someone who's more than just a casual encounter in my personal opinion. 🙂

[blue_bull]

Yes I had personal experience. The girl said she was in love wid me, so we met for a date. On our date we had sex. But took gr8888est efforts to make her feel best. It was d best time till date. She also remembered it for couple of days. But as days pass her feeling went on decreasing. Then all firework started. We blamed each other n one stage came when we felt nothing was there. And seperated keeping sorrow in minds. 🤒

[Anonymous]

I've had only one casual encounter... was just physical and actually not much eye contact. I actually never cared much about eye contact. But somehow, with my current boyfriend, whom I love like I never did before and with whom I have a connection I never experienced before, if we stare into each other's eyes it's like it gets even more intense and hot. I even get goosebumps thinking of it. It's amazing.

[Asker]

Yeah I can completely see your point here! I think eye contact means something to women. Looking forward to hearing what guys views are on this one. Lol

[JennieF]

I gave it up at 17, so I had plenty of sex before I married.

[PoliceLivesMatter]

It feels better for me when I look at her while fucking her and see the expressions she’s making. It turns me on a whole lot you can’t imagine 😅. Especially sometimes she doesn’t notice and you look at her, it’s pure unfiltered and natural expressions. One time, during missionary (fav position), I was fucking my last ex, while looking at her and having my hand around her throat for leverage LMAO. Hottest thing I’ve ever experienced.

[Asker]

Awesome! Lol. So you'd only do this with girlfriends... not casual encounters?

[PoliceLivesMatter]

Never had a casual encounter 😅

[TheCunningLinguist]

In both cases. I love the intensity and the conection. It's also a great way to read what your partner is enjoying and what she wants.

[Asker]

True, I understand eye contact is nice and better, but I think you're potentially risking them falling for you if you're only looking for no strings attached so as long as that's been made clear beforehand then it's all good. Lol

[Banana-Girl]

I very rarely make eye contact

[20yearsolder]

Eye contact is important with whoever I'm having sex with. Doesn't mean I'm looking for a long term relationship. Even if it's someone you met at the club and both of you know it's just a hot fuck session.

[Asker]

Interesting. I only ask because I think I'd find eye contact with a stranger quite awkward... when I share that with my partner it gives me the feels.

[20yearsolder]

Are you saying you are comfortable enough to get naked with a one-night stand but you couldn't look them in the eye?

[Asker]

No haha I don't do one night gut stands. I was just curious if there was a difference in the way guys see it compared to girls.

[20yearsolder]

I was going to say, that's weird. LOL I'd show this guy my goodies but I can't look him in the eye.. Lmao

[Asker]

Yep hence why I don't do it lol. So you're comfortable having lots of eye contact, staring into each other's eyes with a casual woman and not feeling anything? What does it do for you then if not increase intimacy?

[20yearsolder]

The eyes tell a story. If she's enjoying her experience with me. To me it would be weird to avoid eye contact that you have your penis stuck in.

[Stockton]

When I am intimate with a woman... hmmmm... let me put it this way. Safety nets are for pussies. When I am with a woman I am all there even if it's a casual thing. Emotion, physical pleasure, spirituality, all of it. I want all of her even if it's only for that moment. To do less or separate my feelings or anything that diminishes that time is a waste I might as well jerk off instead.

[Asker]

I see your point.

[samcxcxcx]

My views are that an eye contact gives the real feeler during sex and makes her feel better whereas sex without Eye contact is just a fuck with no emotions / connectivity...

[Asker]

Yeah I think it's far too intimate for a casual encounter, I'm not saying you have to avoid eye contact completely but it wouldn't be the same as making a point to intensely stare into someone's eyes in my view.

[samcxcxcx]

It depends on how casual u remain after encounter... if one is me the partner can not resist and stay casual...

[Asker]

So you mean by having intense we contact you're open to more..

[Asker]

*eye

[samcxcxcx]

Yeaahhh...

[samcxcxcx]

U got that right now

[samcxcxcx]

Do u have whatssapp?

[samcxcxcx]

Can u text me at [phone]?

[Nocrying5]

If she is a booty call I don't want to look at her face except to see the old Factor on her lips and eyes I want to make sure her eyes are rolling back in her head. And then once I'm done put your clothes on spank her booty kick her out the door

[Browneye57]

People like to look at their lover. Period.
What exactly are you getting at? Do you have a guy that stares into your eyes like none before?

[Asker]

Just a debate between friends so figured we'd put the vote to a wider community.

[Browneye57]

What is the debate? Whether some people look more than others? Sure. I'm just not getting it I guess. If you think it some special meaning, then no. The whole 'guys when do you use lots of eye contact' thing is just silly. Some do more than others, they're all a little different. If you put more meaning into it than that it's on you.

[Asker]

It's not silly, it's interesting to hear people's thoughts. Not everything has to be negative.

[Browneye57]

This isn't negative. That you jump to that is indicative of your own weakness, not something I said. Same ol', if you can take something two ways many will take it in the worst or negative way. You're so interested in people's thoughts cuz you aren't experienced or mature enough to formulate your own. :) Now that's negative, and for good reason!

[Asker]

Not at all. You've just again clearly demonstrated my initial comment.

[Ryansh]

Eye contact gives lot of her feelings indications indicating how she's feeling about the love-making.
Facial expressions can't be fooled 😜

[worldscolide]

I do with my wife all the time.. makes sex better.

[taleswapper]

Eye contact is important, during, both sexual and non-sexual intimacy. Though personally, I prefer scent. So I only do it for my partner; otherwise, I give my eyes a rest and let my other senses take over.

[Rjsurya846]

Your question is looped with so many questions, so voting for one option is difficult. So I wanna see what will be your best poll.

[Asker]

True, hence the 'other' option... feel free to share thoughts 🙂

[Blake0048]

If I like her yea.

[Juxtapose]

I'll avoid eye contact if I'm nervous but if I'm comfortable I'll look directly into her eyes.

[BeHappy1985]

Never avoided eye contact durring sex. in my opinion only girls do it when they can't climax and have to think of some other dude or whatever floats your boat in order to do so.

[Asker]

I understand eye contact is nice and better but I think you're potentially risking them falling for you if you're only looking for no strings attached. Lol

[Asker]

Sorry that posted in the wrong place.

[ZSean]

I like a mix of random eye contact

[Asker]

You mean with both partners and casual encounters?

[ZSean]

I haven't done the casual encounter route so no

[Tyberius]

I don't make a lot of eye contact, usually their eyes are too busy rolling into the back of their head

[Smegskull]

When we are in the wrong position.

[Anonymous]

I don't think I've ever attached the behavior to any particular feeling. In truth with the same partner I am certain I have done both irrespective to the stage of the relationship and the like.

[Asker]

I see, but if you're together now it means you didn't see it as strictly casual in the beginning, more like open to just seeing what happens.

[Opinion Owner]

I find myself to be more easygoing than others on the issue so I don't think I've ever bothered with attempting to restrict a relationship to specifically a casual state.

[Anonymous]

When I want her to feel special and know that she isn't just a "fuck".

[Asker]

This is what always thought too... so from these answers do you agree some guys would actually make a point of initiating full on intense eye contact if it was only fun to them... or rather they may have misinterpreted the level of eye contact meant in the question?

[blue_bull]

Very true... Man I loved ur statement. Some Girls r need to be respected. An eye contact while steady and soft sex gives them pleasure. That feeling will be remembered till d end. 😗